I just sent a wet pants picture to the wrong person…

[Tellnoone 2,228]

Believe it or not, but this just happened… For real!

I had a nice evening wetting my favourite jeans. I was also texting with the friend I´ll be hanging out with tomorrow, and had just told her I had booked us a table at 6 pm.
Then I called my boyfriend. He asked me how I was.
“I´m sitting by the computer and have just peed my pants, so yeah, it´s great. Do you wanna see?”
“Sure”, he said. I took a picture of my lap and the huge wet patch over my thighs. I had peed both standing and sitting, and it spreads amazingly well in those jeans. I attached the picture to an sms and sent it… To my friend.

There was a few seconds of denial. I saw her name. i saw our converation. I saw my picture below. But it just couldn´t be, that´s the kind of mistake you joke about, but it´s not a mistake you actually do for real.

But I did. In the phone I screamed to my bf. “Oh my god, I sent it to someone else, I sent it to someone else, what the fuck do I do?” And he was like “No way!” and then we both went into damage control mode. My first thought was to erase it before she read it, but I didn´t know if it was possible in that app, and it was too late anyway.  My friend replied “6 pm will be fine”, and then her next message was : “rain?”

After some panicked thoughts tumbling around in my head I decided to follow her suggestion. “oops, that was sent by mistake… Yeah, I was out in the rain”.

Now my bf who had now also got the picture said it definitely didn´t look like rain, and I should have said I was clumsy and spilled something in my lap, but… too late.  

My friend replied “Poor you. In a Chinese movie this would have led to a hospital visit”.

I was like “haha, I need to see some of those movies you talk about. Anyway, will be great to see you tomorrow…”

“yeah, it will!” she said, and that was it.

 

Now I feel like the clumsiest person in the world and I have no idea what to do tomorrow.

Just leave it and hope she actually did think it was rain and pray that there is no awkwardness between us?
If the air needs to be cleared, bring it up and excuse myself, say it was some joke meant for my bf?
Be honest that this picture was terribly wrongly sent and hope that we can have a good laugh about it?

This friend is openminded and cool. She´s one of those friends I see over a couple of beers maybe once a year and we always have deep and honest conversations. Two years ago I told her about my self-acceptance journey as a fetishist, without mentioning it´s omo that I´m into, and we had a great talk about that. There are worse persons I could have sent this picture to.  But really, she shouldn´t have seen this, and I want to kill myself now.  

What would you have done?

[Helena 536]

Poor you! Well, I can’t say what’s best to do. You know her well, and have told her that you have a fetish. Would it be the end of the world if she knows what it is? Do you two have common friends, and can you be sure that your secret will be safe with her? Is lying really better? To lie to a good friend is rarely the best option.

It’s possible she already has figured it out that you wet yourself. If you still do not want to tell the whole truth, you can say that you wet your pants (”accidents happens”) and that your bf didn’t belive you so he asked for a picture. And, well…

Only you know what’s the best option. But remember: honesty is an underrated strategy!

Edited August 16 by Helena (see edit history)

[wettingman 1,493]

Well don't kill yourself . There are worse fetishes. IDK what to say except you know her best.

At my age 71 people just think old guy wet his pants.  It has happened. 

 Maybe it won't even come up. If it does .It will likely be a bit awkward at first then hopefully you can laugh about it. 

Years ago I was chatting with an on line pee friend. We were doing a hold until we couldn't.  I  had just lost control and totally wet my pants. Once I started peeing uncontrollably, I just let go a full bladder of pee.  I was standing in an old cat pan to collect the puddle.. I peed a lot and it was splattering into the pan, and a growing puddle of urine. , My jeans were  totally soaked...And my son who did not live with me  unexpectedly walked in.  I was in the corner of my kitchen, the same room as the entrance to my home. IDK what he saw but since I was still peeing hard it would have been hard to miss. He never said a word. Oops !

If you trust her  to keep it between you ,you should be fine.

Accidents do happen . I wish you well

 

Edited August 17 by wettingman
clarification (see edit history)

[psychnerd 43]

My take is that she knows you wet yourself, and that the text wasn't intended for her. She also probably empathized at how embarrassing that was, and by replying with "out in the rain" she was giving you a scape-goat so that you didn't have to go through the process of explaining why you'd just sent her a photo of you having wet yourself. While that feeling of mortification will linger for a while, it's obvious this doesn't matter. I think you're okay here and don't have to worry. Out of curiosity, when you had the discussion about fetishes, did she reveal anything to you? If she has some kinks, she's probably aware of Omo or watersports. I would think she'd also be more receptive of brushing it off as "not my kink, but whatever, I don't care." I get the general sense in the kink community that we are all more accepting because we realize one of the traits of a kink is novelty and taboo, and that without that, it wouldn't be kinky; it would just be vanilla. The phrase "not my kink" has an implied "... but I know I have kinks that other people aren't into, so I don't judge you."

Edited August 16 by psychnerd (see edit history)

[wetskipants 790]

I'd just roll with it. If it came up and the full truth was a step too far, I would just go with the true facts as far as I was comfortable. I had an accident, I saw the funny side, I  meant to share it with my loving partner with whom I have no secrets and i misdirected it. End of story. No real harm in any of those facts ...

[Tellnoone 2,228]

18 hours ago, Helena said:

Poor you! Well, I can’t say what’s best to do. You know her well, and have told her that you have a fetish. Would it be the end of the world if she knows what it is? Do you two have common friends, and can you be sure that your secret will be safe with her? Is lying really better? To lie to a good friend is rarely the best option.

It’s possible she already has figured it out that you wet yourself. If you still do not want to tell the whole truth, you can say that you wet your pants (”accidents happens”) and that your bf didn’t belive you so he asked for a picture. And, well…

Only you know what’s the best option. But remember: honesty is an underrated strategy!

Thanks.
No, it wouldn't be a problem if she knew what I was into. She wouldn't spread the word and even if she did it wouldn't bother me. I'm not ashamed of my fetish. But I'm really ashamed over the act of sending such a picture.
If I had sent a pic of me masturbating I would feel about the same. Not "oh no, she knows I masturbate " but "oh no I sent an intimate picture to her".  An omo  picture could be a bit more confusing though.

I  hate lying and I'm not good about it either so I think your advice about honesty is good, at least if she brings it up. 

[Tellnoone 2,228]

17 hours ago, wettingman said:

Well don't kill yourself . There are worse fetishes. IDK what to say except you know her best.

At my age 71 people just think old guy wet his pants.  It has happened. 

 Maybe it won't even come up. If it does .It will likely be a bit awkward at first then hopefully you can laugh about it. 

Years ago I was chatting with an on line pee friend. We were doing a hold until we couldn't.  I  had just lost control and totally wet my pants. Once I started peeing uncontrollably, I just let go a full bladder of pee.  I was standing in an old cat pan to collect the puddle.. I peed a lot and it was splattering into the pan, and a growing puddle of urine. , My jeans were  totally soaked...And my son who did not live with me  unexpectedly walked in.  I was in the corner of my kitchen, the same room as the entrance to my home. IDK what he saw but since I was still peeing hard it would have been hard to miss. He never said a word. Oops !

If you trust her  to keep it between you ,you should be fine.

Accidents do happen . I wish you well

 

Thanks for your support! What a nightmare you describe... I´m glad you seem ok about it now. As you say, accidents happen sometimes, we just have to live with it, and learn to be more careful I guess. At least I´m glad i didn´t send the message to my boss or my mom or something. 

[Tellnoone 2,228]

17 hours ago, psychnerd said:

My take is that she knows you wet yourself, and that the text wasn't intended for her. She also probably empathized at how embarrassing that was, and by replying with "out in the rain" she was giving you a scape-goat so that you didn't have to go through the process of explaining why you'd just sent her a photo of you having wet yourself. While that feeling of mortification will linger for a while, it's obvious this doesn't matter. I think you're okay here and don't have to worry. Out of curiosity, when you had the discussion about fetishes, did she reveal anything to you? If she has some kinks, she's probably aware of Omo or watersports. I would think she'd also be more receptive of brushing it off as "not my kink, but whatever, I don't care." I get the general sense in the kink community that we are all more accepting because we realize one of the traits of a kink is novelty and taboo, and that without that, it wouldn't be kinky; it would just be vanilla. The phrase "not my kink" has an implied "... but I know I have kinks that other people aren't into, so I don't judge you."

You could be right about this, and maybe I should just let it be. I think the reason for me to consider bringing it up is, that if she knows what the picture is, I would really like to apologize for sending it and make clear it definitely wasn´t for her and I felt bad about sending it. I worry that if nobody says anything there will be awkwardness between us that ruins the night. But at the same time, I think that if something bothers her about this, or if she wonders something, I could probably trust that she´s straightforward enough to just tell me.  She has that kind of personality.

When we talked about fetishism before, she said she didn´t have any kinks herself, but would never judge anyone who has. She´s very norm critial and hbtq-positive. So I don´t have any worries there. But she still probably doesn´t want to know I spend my evening sending pee-pants pictures to my boyfriend. 

3 hours ago, wetskipants said:

I'd just roll with it. If it came up and the full truth was a step too far, I would just go with the true facts as far as I was comfortable. I had an accident, I saw the funny side, I  meant to share it with my loving partner with whom I have no secrets and i misdirected it. End of story. No real harm in any of those facts ...

Thanks, good advice there!

[Tellnoone 2,228]

I love this community, where else could you open your heart about this kind of mistake and have people who fully understands? Thanks, everyone. 

I think I´ll just see how it feels to meet her, and if everything´s just alright and nothing weird, then I´ll leave it. If not, then I´ll bring it up myself and say "I´m really sorry about that weird picture you got, it was meant for my boyfriend" and not say more if she doesn´t push it or ask. 
And if she says something herself, then I´ll go with honesty without unnecessary details, (yes, i peed my pants and sent a pic meant for my bf) , and I can actually see us having a good laugh when I explain the panic I got after sending it.  

I´ll keep you updated. I know you guys love to read about a clumsy scenario like this, and I find it kind of hilarious myself, so don´t worry. 

 

[psychnerd 43]

6 hours ago, wetskipants said:

I'd just roll with it. If it came up and the full truth was a step too far, I would just go with the true facts as far as I was comfortable. I had an accident, I saw the funny side, I  meant to share it with my loving partner with whom I have no secrets and i misdirected it. End of story. No real harm in any of those facts ...

I really really like this. I would add, if you want to be even more accurate, instead of saying, "I had an accident" you could say "I peed my pants, I saw the funny side, I meant to share it with my loving partner..." That said, saying it's an accident closes the door to questions about whether it was indeed an accident, or if it was intentional. I think most would assume it was an accident. 

[teebone801 20]

i too did this same thing. after apologizes were said and that wasnt intended for her, her response was: "lol its cool"

[The Dark Wolf 1,673]

If she knows about your fetish side already you should be fine. It doesn't sound like she'd hate you for wetting yourself, I guess as long as she knows it wasn't meant to be sent to her.

[tennyson 458]

I have a best friend ... and I mean BEST friend whom I have known and been best friends with since we were 14. We took art classes together (and no, I did not draw even one omo-related piece of art around him.). We have been through everything, including going to different universities and being out of touch for 8 years and then reconnecting and picking up like a week had not passed. He was the best man at my wedding.

And I never told him my secret fetish. Not that he wasn't open-minded. In fact, he is probably one of the two most open-minded people I have ever met. And did I tell him. Nope. 

He knew every other thing about my life, except that ... or so I thought.

Sometimes we send each other stories or pictures to shock each other. (More like OH WOW, did you know about this? or I had never heard about this. etc. than gross out - but sometimes that too.)

We met for lunch one Saturday and were walking afterwards. He switched topics and said ... "So you are into peeing ... like Annie Sprinkle golden showers and stuff."

It was a statement, not a question. I literally tripped over my own feet and besides that I couldn't deny it.

He hasn't judged me. He kind of mentions it off hand when we are alone, like in a "would you want to ... from ..." comment or something like that.

He said I had cc'd him on an email describing how I came to have my fetish. (It was one I sent to someone in Sweden, a friend I used to work with who is now female and has a lot of the same fetishes I do. She never told anyone in the US, but felt comfortable after returning to Sweden.) I hope that makes sense.

I was so scared he would give me the ewwww. His former gf liked to smear bodily fluids on him ( a trigger for him) while he was asleep.  A former housemate was an artist who kept "sun tea" giant Mason jars all over the apartment as décor. He later found out it wasn't "tea" inside when her bf broke a stack of gallon jars (sealed) that flooded the living room.

 

Anyway, I hope this gives you some hope your friend doesn't judge you and accepts you. 

 

[Tellnoone 2,228]

Update:

We had a great time yesterday and I have no drama to tell. We started talking about what had happened since last time we met, and after a while my friend said:

"So, who was that rain picture for?"
"It was for S"
"Ok, so you´re still together then?"
"yeah, we are. Sorry I sent you a weird picture..."
"Oh, no problem", she said, as if she didn´t really get why I would be sorry about that, and then we changed topic.

She might be a good actor who just wanted to save me from embarassment, but I don´t think so actually. I didn´t sense any signs of her doubting that picture was anything but rain. And it has made me thinking... What if non-omo's are much easier to fool than we think?  If you have never heard of people being turned on by wetting their pants, the thought of someone sending a picture of their peed pants to someone else will probaly make no sense at all and therefore not be the first explanation they think of if they see a picture like that. 

In this case, the wet patch was such and obvious pee stain. But I say that as an omo-lover who have peed my own pants a 100 times and since young age have been having images of how it should look like in my head. I don´t think non-omo's look that carefully on a wet patch to categorize it as pee patch or not pee patch.  During rainy days I´ve actually had friends who posted pictures of their wet pants on facebook to show how much it had rained on their way to work, so it´s apparently something people do sometimes. Taking a picture of your pee accident is not something people do - not in the world outside our community. That´s why finding another explanation should be closer at hand.

Anyway, I still got the chance to say I´m sorry, and I´m glad for that, and I´m not worrying about this anymore.  With that said, I hope others can learn from this story. Be careful with your pictures, but if you ever end up in a similar situation, use some of all the good advices that came up here. 

[tennyson 458]

Either way / in any case, you have more than one great friend. 

The one you saw yesterday handled it perfectly. I wish everyone was so cool. And I don't think it matter one bit whether you "fooled" her or not. Either way, see 1st sentence.

[nappypants 1,238]

17 hours ago, Tellnoone said:

As you say, accidents happen sometimes

And not just the sort that happen in your pants 😉 

[psychnerd 43]

Well I’m glad it turned out well. (makes gesture of wiping sweat off brow). I hope I never do this. My biggest risk would probably be sending a kinky meme to the wrong recipient. Maybe I should do something to mitigate that risk like prefacing the names of kinky meme friends with something that can’t accidentally be typed or swyped? Apple now has an unsend feature, but it only works with other Apple users. That really needs to make it into the SMS standard. Also, for crying out loud, if there was any application that BEGGED for an AI solution, an AI module that audited messages for embarrassing content and delayed sending them pending your review…that would be amazing!

[wettingman 1,493]

I am happy this potentially awkward situation worked out for you. We in the omo community sometimes forget that peeing in your pants for fun is relatively rare and most people would never think people do that.  I guess lesson for everyone double check the addressee before hitting send on any possible compromising message.

[tanin 214]

It's great that this situation ended up this way. 

But I think that it was also a sort of missed opportunity. If this was your really, really good friend, I would admit that I peed my pants. Maybe I would not be brave enough to say it was deliberately, rather that I miscalculated a bit and embarrassed myself. If she's loyal friend she would not pass this story further. And it also may result in some interesting conversation, and maybe she has some similar experiences, who knows? Otherwise it would be difficult to start this type of discussion. 

Why I think that this may work? Because I had a sort of similar situation with my friend (described here) when she had a messing accident in front of me. It was super embarrassing for her, but later on I told her that it's fine, it happens, and it's not a reason to be ashamed of. And I told her some of my stories (yes, I've also had a few accident due to IBS), when the same happened to me and that there are a lot of people who had accident in their pants. Maybe it's not common, but not something that disqualifies you in any aspect. It's just a moment of human weakness, nothing more. 

And it worked. Later on she told my her previous situations and later from time to time we had some "stupid" discussions about accidents, and she's somehow prone to them. But I think that she stopped to be super worried about them, as she was (I suppose) before that. 

[Marco 183]

I think your friend really believes it was rain. Either way, she didn't mean to embarrass you. If I were you, I wouldn't add anything else.

[Ironylord 21]

Don't worry about it, these kinds of things happen. My friends and I all laughed a lot the second time one of us accidentally sent furry porn to our group chat lol, you'd think he'd have learned after the first time he sent it to the wrong chat...

[wetskipants 790]

Had a feeling it would end ok ... and think it still would have ended ok if she had twigged to the fact it wasn't rain. True friends are accepting ...

[CofS 129]

I feel bad for laughing, but seems like you got away with it regardless.

I'm lucky that most of the people I know are the type that would respond with 'oh, we're doing dares? ok, hold my beer!' 😂

[vincp44 410]

I just read this entire topic for the first time. Wow. I can totally imagine the panic!

So glad for you that it all worked out in such way that your worries are gone 🥰

[Cristiano97 291]

If something like this happened to me, it would probably be the day that I would abandon the omorashi fetish because of the trauma it would cause me. Luckily I never talk about my fetish with my own real account, in my social networks I don't touch that topic but I do have alternative accounts for it, for example I have 2 Twitters, the real one and the fake one that I only use to see omorashi content and talk to strangers about it.