Why do women cross their legs and show more signs of desperation in line

[Angusburger 118]

At this local beach park near where I live every summer evening there are long lines for the mens and womens restroom. Men only get one urinal and two stalls while women get three stalls. There are hundreds of people at this park near sunset. I have noticed that it's only women who seem to cross their legs, look impatient or even bend their knees while men just stand their stoically. Any thoughts on why? Is it because women have a harder time holding in their pee on average or is it because its more accpetable for women to show signs of desperation? I cant count how many times I have seen women after drinking all evening at the park rush to the restroom and cross their legs constantly or lots of bodily movement while men are just patiently waiting still in line. 

@DesperateJill - I think you once said women are more patient but it seems like at this park its men who are lol

[Klimshady 8]

I think I’ve seen this talked about before and I agree with something one commenter said was guys take desperation as a sign of weakness. Crossing legs or bouncing acting like you are to a point of having to pee so badly puts that weakness on display for everyone. 
 

when I have to go really badly in a public situation I’ll usually put my hand in my pocket and pinch. It’s more discreet and if it gets bad enough I’ll even start to sweat. I think what it comes down to is as a man you don’t want to show to everyone one that you are in a moment of weakness.

[Kat_ie 148]

I mean (some/most/idk) we also just cross our legs on a normal basis and doing nothing in line tends to also provoke similar behavior?

[DesperateJill 2,857]

@Angusburger

"I think you once said women are more patient but it seems like at this park its men who are lol"

I see the difference as patient being when you have to wait due to circumstances not when you choose to wait . The difference is that I think men don't have to go nearly as much or nearly as quickly, and when they do have to go they can usually go without much of a wait. Women on the other hand have to go usually more urgently and rapidly and often do have to wait, and for me that is what really patience is about, waiting when you really need it but having to put it off.

@Kat_ie

"I mean (some/most/idk) we also just cross our legs on a normal basis and doing nothing in line tends to also provoke similar behavior?"

I think that's a good point as there are plenty of situations where women just cross their legs in general having nothing to do with desperation. Although I do think it's because partially because anatomy is different. Guys have something there protruding between their legs, so it's probably not as comfortable to cross their legs. Also women have a shorter urethra so there's really nothing to grab, where as a guy would grab if he was extremely desperate a woman doesn't have much of an option other than to cross her legs to try and take the pressure off.

I remember reading somewhere that by crossing your legs it is sort of trying to pinch your urethra shut as a way of trying to hold it in more. How much of a difference this makes is hard to say though, as I think it's more of a nervous habit than anything.

[wetting_fan 415]

I feel like it's just more accepted as feminine for a woman to show that she has to pee. I'd love to pee dance to help hold it if needed, but as a guy I feel like I just can't show it like that.

[wko86 273]

As a male, crossing my legs when I have to pee doesn't help the situation at all. It doesn't put pressure on my penis or any area that would help me hold it. So, there's no reason to do it, privately or publicly.

[ehadstam 75]

I actually experience it the opposite direction. When I am desperate to go I usually moves in my seat all the time or put my hand in my pocket trying to pinch. But when my wife is super desperate she only mentions that she is desperate and almost peeing herself but she never shows any external signs of desperation.