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What's your gender and sexuality?  

383 members have voted

  1. 1. What's your gender and sexuality?

    • Straight man
      248
    • Straight woman
      15
    • Lesbian/queer/bi woman
      44
    • Gay/queer/bi man
      52
    • Nonbinary/other
      24


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18 hours ago, Spectator9 said:

I think statistically, participation on most Internet forums is more male than female, and here the males are a huge majority.  

Yes I think you're on to something here. There are probably more straight women into this than the results show and I do see a good number  of posts from other women across this site!

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I don´t find the result surprising, and I don´t think it says much about omorashi in particular, as I see the same tendency in other kink-related online communities. Here´s my theories:

Why so many hetero men and so few women?
Because men watch more porn. If you look only at the posts from those who like to wet themselves and share their experiences it seems to be pretty gender equal, so i´m sure the over representation of hetero men is mostly from those who are only here to consume (and sometimes share/produce) female content. Why? Because we live in a culture where men objectify women, and it´s not so much the other way around. Men are also more encouraged to explore their sexuality. I also think many women have bad experiences from encounters with creepy men and therefore they don´t feel like joining a sex related web community.

 Why more lesbian/bi/queer women than straight ones?
I think that if you´re already queer, you´re more likely to accept other stuff outside the norm, and care less about the stigmas around it. It can go both ways. For me personally, realising my sexuality is strongly defined by a fetish that has no gender preferences already has made me think of myself as more queer, even if I have never yet kissed a woman. I just feel more free in my mind and less straight after “coming out” as a fetishist. And a person already in a lesbian-bi-trans community may have an easier time accepting and exploring their fetishes, so it can go both ways. Cis-men on the other hand are generally more homophobic or proud of their heterosexuality than women/trans/nb:s, and, as mentioned before, most of them are voyeurs, only interested in watching others, which keeps them still safely inside the “more normal” heterosexual context rather than being full blown fetishists like us pants wetters.

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10 hours ago, Jokerforpee said:

This wasn’t an option but I’m a nonbinary  lesbian. Honestly the fact that there’s so many straight people on here shouldn’t surprise me that much, but it does.

Hi, I don't want you to feel lonely out here so I figured I'd mention I also fit a hard to categorize spot; my partner and I are both she/they enby's. I'm a 27 year old secretary and they're a super smart whoosh-over-my-head data scientist person in their 30's. Its not a dynamic I see often either, but at the very least we're here. Kinda.

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Well my intent was just to add a personal touch to my vote but I ended up ranting about gender and sexism from my perspective as a bisexual man who generally tries to be progressive in my opinions and respectful of other people's situations. What's below is either my opinion or my experience, and I don't intend to invalidate yours. I don't speak for anyone but myself - certainly not all bi men, cis men or men in general.

With that out of the way: I'm a bisexual cis man who definitely prefers women/female presenting people but is still attracted to men/male presenting people sometimes. My struggle has generally been more internal as to whether or not I "belong" in LGBTQ+ spaces because I'm very much able to "pass for straight" and have never really been the target of discrimination/hate because of my sexuality. I also have struggled with how my sexuality interacts with Nonbinary people and whether or not it's OK to still be Bi instead of Pan. Ultimately I've determined that it's OK to continue to use the label I'm more comfortable with, and that I don't really need to try to write myself a set of rules for who I get to be attracted to because it's not relevant until I meet someone. I'm slowly but surely becoming comfortable with my sexuality, as a stepping stone to becoming comfortable with myself.

As it pertains to this website: I'm rather glad that this space seems to be committed to inclusivity despite having a straight man majority. Most of the content I enjoy is female-centric but recently I've been finding more of an appreciation for male-focused or gender-agnostic content, particularly when I can sort of put myself into the story. But even aside from my personal sexual preferences, I'd just in general like to see more erotic content produced by people who aren't female as part of social progress. I know that sounds far-fetched but I'm specifically talking about a pet peeve of mine, which is the idea that "sex is a commodity that women create and men consume." That deeply sexist, inherently divisive idea is detrimental to people in so many ways regardless of their gender. It's the reason so many "desperate internet creeps" seem to be men, it's the reason some of those men actually feel as though they're "owed" sex, it's the reason women will (often correctly) assume a man is purely interested in sex, it's the reason the DJ Khaleds of the world refuse to eat pussy, and it's the reason sex workers have been marginalized for the entirety of human history. As I fall back into the "creative mindset" and gain confidence, I'm going to try and put some of that out into the world and maybe even this site.

Apologies if I ended up going off topic here, but that's what flowed from my mind. I wholeheartedly encourage men out there - especially the frustrated ones - to reflect on how you feel about women in general. You might be surprised at how deep-seated misogyny can be, when you really start asking yourself "why do I feel this way?" on a daily basis.

Tl;Dr I'm a bisexual man with OPINIONS on the INTERNET

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@struckbylight
"Even though I prefer to watch female content I am definitely not queer, though I understand why more women into this would be. However I've heard that women tend to like stories, fiction, erotica, etc more than pictures and videos which is definitely true of me."


As the thousands of pictures and videos in my hard drive can attest I certainly do like pictures and videos but I also have to admit that I definitely far prefer written accounts that get into the character's head. When you are watching a picture or a video you don't really know what's going on in the person's head. A picture and a video can only tell so much of a story. But then again as a person who writes prolifically I suppose I am more biased towards written accounts than the majority of people. And when I look at this forum I mostly looked at the general section or the experience section and only once in a blue moon do I check the pictures and videos section, although that's partially because I don't want to fill up my hard drive completely LOL.


@Wetlifter37
"Thought that was interesting too! I also think although obviously anyone can be into omo its soooo much easier to find content about women (pics/videos especially but stories and art too) that it makes sense for it to appeal more to women who are attracted to other women."


Something I said often is that I feel conflicted about female sexual objectification as a woman, but as a lesbian and one of the good things about the fact that the world caters to men and men's interest is that there is so much more videos and pictures and stories available about naked women compared to men, and as a lesbian you can be a beneficiary of that one aspect of our patriarchal culture.


"Another thing that just occurred to me is the inherent submissiveness and vulnerability of being desperate and wetting, especially if its an accident. I'm generalizing here, because of course anyone of any gender can be submissive, but these attributes tend to be more often associated with femininity especially in the mainstream. Femininity can be appreciated by straight men, queer women, and sometimes gay men in other men, but its seen a lot less often in straight men. That would also explain the lack of straight female members, because there's nothing in their demographic really."


True I have mentioned before that a straight man I share my experiences with on this board mostly in private so that he found my situation at work interesting because being constantly desperate like that made me more feminine. I've always felt that desperation was inherently a feminine submissive quality and while it's true that there are definitely dominant women and submissive men out there I think that there is some truth to the stereotype that women tend to be more submissive and men more dominant, men more sadistic and women more masochistic, and when it comes to desperation it's generally the woman who is suffering the bladder pain and the man who is getting to watch it. For straight women who are into seeing men desperate and submissive there is probably not as much material seeing as men rarely get desperate and a lot of men would probably find it rather emasculating to be desperate themselves even if they like watching women desperate. Again that's a broad generalization, but when we take polls like this I think we are naturally talking in broad sweeping generalizations. And in that regard I feel that this is true.


And from talking to lots of people over the years it does seem that most men who are into desperation got into desperation because they saw a woman desperate whereas most women who are into desperation are into desperation because they themselves have been desperate and I think that a lot of even straight women are into desperation of the female variety simply because they can relate to it from personal experience, like when I read it I put myself in the position of the desperate woman in the story.


And although I am not attracted to men and all you prefer it when men behave in a masculine manner I have to admit. I mean I'm not judging anybody what their preferences are but I do find feminine men to be unattractive despite the fact that as a lesbian it does not attracted to men in general, but even as a lesbian I still seem to find it unusual to see men in a submissive position as it just comes across as unnatural to me. Again no judgment attached to that, just a personal preference from a person who doesn't prefer men at all LOL.


@Sirwetsalot
"Ok so are straight women naturally just less into omo, do they just lurk instead of logging in and answering polls, or is it a result of the societal sexual expectations and pressures put on women? Seems women who have identified as not "normal" straight cis females would be more likely to explore kinks outside the "norm" because they've already refused to conform to the societal expectations of orientation and gender."


I have noticed that a person who is into unusual kinks tends to be unusual in other ways as well. I mean my kink is probably one of the least bizarre things about me. But one thing it was interesting to note from chatting with people about these years as I found a lot of people who share my interest in unusual fetishes also share a lot of other interest considered deviant such as the paranormal, science fiction, unusual politics and spirituality etc. etc. so I think that if you are nonconformist in one way it's easy to embrace nonconformity in other ways. If you already have an alternative lifestyle you're more likely to explore other alternatives that most heteronormative people probably would shy away from.


@Tellnoone
"Because we live in a culture where men objectify women, and it´s not so much the other way around. Men are also more encouraged to explore their sexuality. I also think many women have bad experiences from encounters with creepy men and therefore they don´t feel like joining a sex related web community."


This is very true although there is some sexual objectification of men by women overwhelmingly society revolves around the fact that women are the sexualized or hyper- sexualized sex, the sex to be watched and to be consumed and to be used compared to the other way around. Society definitely caters to male sexual interests in general and it is also true that women face harassment and sexism and creepy guys whereas the opposite is generally not true for men.


"I think that if you´re already queer, you´re more likely to accept other stuff outside the norm, and care less about the stigmas around it. It can go both ways."


Exactly like I said above once you are alternative in one way you tend to be more open-minded about other things and tend not to care as much what people think because you are already sort of on the fringes or outcast of society. The way I see it if you're already out there by most people's standards why not take it all the way!


"Cis-men on the other hand are generally more homophobic or proud of their heterosexuality than women/trans/nb:s, and, as mentioned before, most of them are voyeurs, only interested in watching others, which keeps them still safely inside the “more normal” heterosexual context rather than being full blown fetishists like us pants wetters."


Again I think this is true. While in these communities the majority of people who frequent these communities and the majority of people I have talked to about these things over the years have been cis hetero men it is definitely true that heterosexual men tend to be more conventional in their sexual tastes. Although they may have a kink for seeing women desperate that is outside of the norm in most other ways they are attracted almost exclusively to women and a little bit turned off or off put by male content in general and maybe a little bit less fluid and explorative the way women are in general.


Even straight women I think are more gender fluid and a little bit more bi curious compared to men, who even if they do have some of these tendencies tend to keep it secret from other men because homophobia is still a big thing in society. Even men who don't have a problem with homosexuals and who are tolerant and everything I think feel a little bit uncomfortable with sexual experiences with other women. I think the partially because women are so hyper- sexualized in society that even women can't help but somewhat over sexualized other women even if they are heterosexual.


And is definitely true that like I was saying above having talked to people from all different orientations and sexism backgrounds over the years it's definitely true that men prefer to watch and women are tending to be the ones who are desperate. As I say men are the ones who are getting a free show as they are usually the ones watching women desperate where as it's really a rare case where women are going to see men desperate so for women who do like seeing that there isn't as much material to go around which could be why straight women are not as dominant in these forms compared to women of alternative sexualities or men in general.


@brothacheese
"Apologies if I ended up going off topic here, but that's what flowed from my mind. I wholeheartedly encourage men out there - especially the frustrated ones - to reflect on how you feel about women in general. You might be surprised at how deep-seated misogyny can be, when you really start asking yourself "why do I feel this way?" on a daily basis."


I think it's something that most men and probably also even the majority of women don't realize just how deeply ingrained sexism is in society. Even among people who think of themselves as progressive and forward thinking have been somewhat indoctrinated from a young age into misogynistic thinking, and a patriarchal society you just can't escape from it completely. It reminds me of something I was reading in a magazine recently about how even if you aren't prejudice or sexist there is still something called implicit bias that is sort of indoctrinated into people from a young age where they have the stereotypes and views that they might not even realize that they have.


And in a lot of ways society trains men to use and to hate women and that's behind a lot of the violence and toxic masculinity that we see that is becoming an increasing problem in society at large. I think it was only when the Internet became a big thing that we realize how this was always there but until then it wasn't out there in front of everybody and now we are only now realizing how widespread these attitudes and toxic beliefs are. And men are also the victims of this indoctrination as well whether they want to be or not.


@Hedonist
"I don't think a poll really determines everyone on this site. It's just from my experience over the years that I've met all different kinds. Perhaps I'm in denial, or..... perhaps not everyone wants to participate in questionnaires and polls."


While again of course a poll is not meant to be broadly representative of everybody. So far 226 people have answered the poll which is quite a lot until you consider the fact that this community has thousands upon thousands of people. However you have to figure that a poll with 200 people even out of a couple of thousand is still a fairly broad representation of the overall demographic which still is overwhelmingly heterosexual men, which is pretty much true of every single kink community on the planet that isn't explicitly lesbian honestly.

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On 7/15/2022 at 11:43 AM, KozmoFox said:

Hi, I don't want you to feel lonely out here so I figured I'd mention I also fit a hard to categorize spot; my partner and I are both she/they enby's. I'm a 27 year old secretary and they're a super smart whoosh-over-my-head data scientist person in their 30's. Its not a dynamic I see often either, but at the very least we're here. Kinda.

Hi there - poll creator here. The more replies I read the more I wish I could create more categories in the poll. I see you and if anyone knows how to add/specify the nonbinary options to include various sexualities like lesbian, gay, bisexual I'd love to do that!

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  • 4 weeks later...

I chose straight male as that is what I am, but I'm very much a crossdressing, skinny pants pissing, skirt wearing; fetish proud hippy freak. I even talk about my feelings and am proud to be not overly masculine. the "identities" these days seem too "boxed" for me at least. Ill get off on male videos but have no desire to pursue anything further.

women are absolute beautiful... sometimes crazy... us men folk too. Im not sure how to identify with this.

my demographic would be straight male, trades person, psychedelic artist, with a major in omorashi;-)

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On 7/14/2022 at 2:14 AM, Sirwetsalot said:

Ok so are straight women naturally just less into omo, do they just lurk instead of logging in and answering polls, or is it a result of the societal sexual expectations and pressures put on women? Seems women who have identified as not "normal" straight cis females would be more likely to explore kinks outside the "norm" because they've already refused to conform to the societal expectations of orientation and gender.

I am cis/het female.  I have lurked on these boards for years and years, going back to college with AOL chat rooms. I just FINALLY set up my profile and should have done it wayyyyy sooner- ive just been having way too much fun these past few days and not doing my actual work! Anyhow, male content is my absolute fave, but truly I enjoy all of it.  

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I'd rather watch men when it comes to omo content, but only find about 10-15% of guys physically attractive in RL. And watching someone that I don't find attractive peeing is a turn off (more so than watching them involved in other types of porn, weirdly). So I tend to read more porn fics than look at visual content. Not because I have a preference for written content, just because it's so difficult to find the videos in the first place. I imagine a lot of women are the same, which skews the number of us who choose written over visual porn for certain things.

I tend to visit a lot of sites for gay men, as it makes finding omo porn a LOT easier. I know several other women who only visit gay sites for similar reasons. Most sites set up for both men and women are heavily focused on women, which probably puts off a lot of straight women that would otherwise join. For example, if you go to PeeFans (not picking on that site specifically) it's all flashing photos/videos of women peeing everywhere. If you're a woman who's only into watching guys, that's an instant 'euurgh' reaction and you're less likely to return. Which leads to men on those sites complaining about the lack of women into that fetish and not being able to find anyone! We're all busy hanging out at hot-gay-studs.com or whatever!

This site isn't so bad, as the forum pictures are all anime style and easier for my eyes to 'filter out'! 😄

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On 11/10/2022 at 12:00 PM, CofS said:

I'd rather watch men when it comes to omo content, but only find about 10-15% of guys physically attractive in RL. And watching someone that I don't find attractive peeing is a turn off (more so than watching them involved in other types of porn, weirdly). So I tend to read more porn fics than look at visual content. Not because I have a preference for written content, just because it's so difficult to find the videos in the first place. I imagine a lot of women are the same, which skews the number of us who choose written over visual porn for certain things.

I tend to visit a lot of sites for gay men, as it makes finding omo porn a LOT easier. I know several other women who only visit gay sites for similar reasons. Most sites set up for both men and women are heavily focused on women, which probably puts off a lot of straight women that would otherwise join. For example, if you go to PeeFans (not picking on that site specifically) it's all flashing photos/videos of women peeing everywhere. If you're a woman who's only into watching guys, that's an instant 'euurgh' reaction and you're less likely to return. Which leads to men on those sites complaining about the lack of women into that fetish and not being able to find anyone! We're all busy hanging out at hot-gay-studs.com or whatever!

This site isn't so bad, as the forum pictures are all anime style and easier for my eyes to 'filter out'! 😄

What qualifies for you as attractive?

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