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Hi all! 
Ive been browsing for awhile and finally worked up the courage to share bc I am DESPERATE!!

Today I came home from a hot yoga class just drenched in sweat. I was so proud of myself I wanted to show off so I said to my beautiful amazing hubby, “feel my leggings theyre so wet!” He replied, “wow did you pee in them or something !?”
 

my heart stopped, I’ve been hinting and hinting to him that this is something I am SO CURIOUS about. And here he is making a joke not knowing it’s EVERYTHING I WANT!!
 

allow me to  elaborate: 

I am in my mid 20s and over the last 5-10 yrs I’ve begun exploring my own omorashi desires. It started in middle school, I read a book where the main character had a bed wetting problem. I would sit in class, hormones coursing through my veins & read the same paragraph over and over. I felt so aroused and so tabu at the same time. 
 

then as I moved out of my parents house I began to explore, wetting in the shower in my bathing suit, sitting in the potty with my Jeans on or going for a midnight walk and wetting before I got home…

 

I met my hubby 5 years ago and never thought I’d tell but one day he caught me watching porn, it was a scene where a girl was giving head and peeing 🤤

this was about 2 years ago and I’ve been trying to get him to explore with me ever since!!!

 

id love to see him drunk struggling to undo his belt and making a mess of his jeans or have him pin me down and tickle me until I am spirting streams of piss everywhere.. 

 

how can I talk him into this!?!? Or trick him… 

 

please help! 
what’s worked for you guys!?

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Well, maybe I interpreted your story incorrectly, but he knows it is a kink of yours, but does not seem to know you are wanting to do it for real. 

My main thought reading your situation is sit down and talk seriously about your desires, if he'd be willing to try stuff and maybe even limits in a way. You're already together for a while, so you must know that communication is key. Looking at your story, he might be more willing than it seems. Tricking or pressuring in any way is dangerous for the health of any relationship, so refrain from doing that.

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Yeah, this is your husband. Don't trick him. Even with me being into omo, if someone purposefully made me desperate without my consent it would be upsetting.

You say that you've been hinting- it's time to just tell him flat out. Shit, you can use the yoga thing as an excuse to bring it up: "Remember when you asked me if I peed in my leggings? That idea is actually really hot to me..." etc

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If he´s not into it himself he´ll never understand any of your subtle hints. That doesn´t mean he won´t be excited to participate in whatever turns you on if you take your time to really explain it to him. I know it´s not always easy. But if you´re prepared to be completely honest and answer all of his questions it might be a big step forward for your relationship. 

I told my boyfriend without making a big deal about it. He had never heard of this fetish before and had never been interested in anything like it, but we´re happily peeing our pants together now. Even if you´re not as lucky, I think honesty always brings something good with it. 

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I would definitely talk with your spouse in advance and explain how much of a turn on it is for you.  Stories I hear where one partner does not communicate to the other in advance and tries to “set up” an accident things never seem to go well.  Maybe if your husband agrees pee your pants in the shower while he watches so he can see how it makes him feel.  You both will have complete privacy as you introduce him to his spouse doing something very private which she really enjoys.  Or maybe take him on one of the midnight walks you describe after you have done a hold and explain in advance your intention is to leave your residence having to pee really bad.  When you arrive back you will not have to pee because you are going to wet your pants/shorts somewhere in the shadows during the walk.

Then maybe in time he may wish to wet for you.  If I could go back in time the approach I would use is ask my intimate partners to come with me while I wet myself.  I am into it and really enjoy a private or semi public intentional wetting.  When you focus too much on asking someone to do something they do not totally understand or may not enjoy you might not get the outcome your are hoping for.  Granted I love to watch a woman pee herself.  However if your partner does not have that strong desire a nice evening can be had spend hours becoming desperate and ending with soaked pants in a place you choose as a couple.

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yeah a thing to note in your relationship(clearly your married so I feel you would know this better than I) communication is f***ing important if there is something you really want tell your SO, if there is something you need or don't like(I have seen a marriage end over leaving the toilet seat up I shit you not), tell the other party.  and most importantly be willing to compromise, does your SO have any particular sexual fantasies or desires a bit of give and take can go a long way in these situations.

a healthy long term relationship needs to be built on a common understanding, this idea of love and couples being able to read each others mind is a fantasy and delusion that can spell the end of otherwise good relationships if you buy into it, lovers telepathy or whatever you want to call it is not a thing. 

as a wise music group once said

just tell them what you want, what you really, really want

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I would definitely avoid tricking him into doing it, because that would result in distrust in the relationship if he finds out the intentions behind it. As other people have said, consent is key. 

I would highly highly highly recommend sitting him down and discussing it with him. He's been your partner for a long time so this shouldn't change anything between the two of you if you just flat out tell him "This is something I'm into, and I no longer want to keep it a secret from you". That gives off the impression of "Oh this is something very personal that they feel comfortable telling me, they must really trust me with this information". (At least it usually does).

From my own personal experience... I just sat my boyfriend of 4 years down and talked it out with him because I didn't want to keep it a secret anymore, and since then things have gone really smoothly! He's not into it at all but he's said that he knows it's something that means a lot to me and he likes to surprise me with it. What will happen is I NEVER ask him to do a hold for me (Bc he's not into it) but instead he will come to me and ask "Hey, would you like me to hold my pee for you today?" and I just always respond with "Only if you're comfortable with it". It just helps build trust with it and makes it a more enjoyable experience, for me at least. Nine times out of ten it goes really smoothly and it's been a HUGE weight off my chest ever since I've told him. 

Hope this helps some!

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I was too shy about my omorashi and diaper fetish as well, I took me 8 years to tell my girlfriend.
Told her recently, and she was like 'Well, whatever works for you', but she said she is not into it and isn't willing to try it, for now. She said the diapers would damage her feeling of being an adult.
She even said she already kind of knew I had an omorashi fetish, and it all made sense to her after I told her.

I had a dream about having diaper sex with her and I realized I had to tell her, so I just sent her a TikTok video about festishes (we dont live together yet) and then I asked 'what would you do if I had a weird fetish? would you dump me?', when she said she wouldnt, I just told her I had something to tell her.

It all turned out well, our relationship is still very strong, and our sex life hasnt changed.
I just hoped she would participate, but who knows.. maybe she is willing to try in the future. Let's hope so.

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3 hours ago, blackdiaper said:

I was too shy about my omorashi and diaper fetish as well, I took me 8 years to tell my girlfriend.
Told her recently, and she was like 'Well, whatever works for you', but she said she is not into it and isn't willing to try it, for now. She said the diapers would damage her feeling of being an adult.
She even said she already kind of knew I had an omorashi fetish, and it all made sense to her after I told her.

I had a dream about having diaper sex with her and I realized I had to tell her, so I just sent her a TikTok video about festishes (we dont live together yet) and then I asked 'what would you do if I had a weird fetish? would you dump me?', when she said she wouldnt, I just told her I had something to tell her.

It all turned out well, our relationship is still very strong, and our sex life hasnt changed.
I just hoped she would participate, but who knows.. maybe she is willing to try in the future. Let's hope so.

The main thing is to remember if your partner doesnt want to do it its fine and you should let it go

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Use caution and keep looking for clues. Drop subtle hints that things excite you. Read the room. Do not rush.

Once you tell you can’t untell. My trying to tell my wife couldn’t have gone much worse. Having someone who’s supposed to love unconditionally look at you like a freak creates a scar that never heals. Our marriage survived but it still hurts. A lot.

I think with better recon I could have discovered that before I told her it excited me. I just thought she was ready and would accept it at very worst. 
 

Anyhow. Best of luck. I do hope you are successful. Just read the signs carefully. 

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If I were a woman and I had confidence in my partner, I would try something daring that would be to get drunk (not so much that I don't know what I'm doing, but enough to arm myself with courage) and insinuate that I'm horny, climb on his legs trying to excite him to have a sexual relationship , but there's the catch, "pretend" that I'm more drunk than usual, do the typical scene of rubbing yourself on it as very excited and at that moment say, ohh no... and there I urinate on my partner.

pretend you were so horny and drunk that you peed like it was a real accident which if you didn't have the fetish you wouldn't want to happen. this clearly to see two situations:

If he likes it there, then with courage the next day confess to him that you really like peeing and that you wouldn't mind trying it again, maybe with luck he'll be interested in seeing you or who knows if he'll even try it

if he didn't like it, just lie to him the next day that you were so drunk that you just couldn't stand it and you couldn't help but get wet as you were very excited and at the same time with a full bladder from alcohol. surely he would understand and think that it is a drunk thing.

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First of all, and I can't believe I'm saying this:

Don't 

Trick

Your husband!

I understand the impulse, but stuff like that should be talked about openly. 

And honestly, I think you can just...tell him. A heads up could help.

Maybe when you're both relaxed, having a drink or something. 

"Honey, I need to tell you something. And its important to me" 

If you want to test the water, maybe ask him about his kinks first. 

From his question, I would assume that he wouldn't react badly, as he asked about it very matter of factly. 

I guess you could also simply ask him if he would mind of you peed in your pants...if the occasion arises.

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