Marco 186 Posted December 15, 2021 Share Posted December 15, 2021 Does anyone have any direct news about KozmoFox? After her last status update, and considering she hasn't posted in several days, I'm a little concerned. Downjacket 1 Link to comment
Downjacket 162 Posted December 17, 2021 Share Posted December 17, 2021 I hope she's ok! Link to comment
KozmoFox 5,644 Posted December 20, 2021 👮 Moderator Popular Post Share Posted December 20, 2021 How to tell someone isn't in the discord without saying they're not in the discord. Jokes aside, I'm here and I'm doing reasonably well. If you see posts from new accounts on the site, you know I'm around; I do 99.9999% of the post vetting & approvals on the forum, upwards of 80 to sometimes something as staggering as 200 in a day. I go through them every morning when I wake up along with whatever user reports or tickets may have come in, and then periodically re-check throughout the day. I do not post as much as I used to in general, as I spend so much time behind the curtain smacking things with virtual wrenches. Be that as it may however I realize I did kind of go dark forum wise for a bit after that; this was intentional, I needed some wind down time and do not feel like talking about it as I don't want to dredge anything back up. To put it as simply as I possibly can, I had yet another incident where a user coyly threatened me with doxxing claiming to have my personal information. And just like last time something that awful was done to me, it was someone who had before that point been a friend to me, one who could very well have had said information. They were immediately banned by another staff member. This happened in public on the discord, and I am incredibly thankful to have had so many friends there to not only virtually go off on this person as if they'd caused the great london fire, but be there when the incident was over to comfort me and bring me down, because if my words do not make it obvious, I was having a particularly vicious panic attack over it. I was not okay. This person spent several days ensuring my mood was in the gutter before this incident as well, they are not a good person. I'd wish I'd known so earlier. To this day they do not acknowledge any wrongdoing whatsoever, as if making an idle threat (which we now know was totally a bluff in order to do this to me) as they had was just....bants. I am doing far, far better now. I was very not okay for a little while, but I can't imagine most people would be. I would just take this as a reminder to please be kind to us staff members. While this might seem like not much to you, a piss corner on a mere flake of the internet, you would not believe the stuff we've got to put up with running this place. We are personally threatened, so, so often. Everyone who gets banned forms different circle jerks to call us Hitler in, some of these people have threatened to send us bombs. I myself have been partially doxxed on forum before, as well as stalking issues and threats and nearly being revenge porned through artistic means, and it goes on and on and on, stuff like this happens to us, to me, constantly. Its taken quite a severe mental and emotional toll on me at times. I've had former friends mock my disability to my face and shout me down for being autistic but hardworking. I've had this happen, where the second I ended a friendship with someone they've threatened my personal information straight to my face as a sort of pseudo-blackmail. This stuff happens to me at least a few times a year. And with more severe infractions like this, I do not handle it well. I never have. Nobody should. And you know the most messed up part? As someone infamous in a community where there's people who will simply take the opportunity to beat me down based on my standing, there's still going to be people who call me a liar for any of it. This will always be in spite of mountains of evidence, which has always been available; I've literally proven before these people don't want to actually see evidence. They want to drown in their biases not caring if I'm hurt or not. This....is not an easy job. But I do it anyway, because I love you all. I also don't particularly trust anyone else to do it, I work the user backend of this site as easy as I breathe at this point, its my baby. Nobody else is touching it and it will be pried from my cold dead hands. Sorry, that turned into more of a vent than an explanation, but hopefully that gives some insight as to why things were the way they were for a bit. I'm doing far better now. That all sounded so cynical, but for every shitty person I have to deal with, I have a support system of 20 more. Some of the people in this community are particularly great. Very very very good people, people I'm lucky to call friends. People who when I'm down absolutely NEVER fail to pick me back up. In fact, you know what, they deserve recognition. Without people like @Kyuu @Ashi, @Biku, @AuthorFaust, @Anathema, @Sammy, @Here4theFun, @lauren, @Amomonya, @gladiatrix, @Chevrolet, whatever the hell Joe's username is on here(hi joe), and so many others, I'm unsure if I'd be able to take the licks and beatings I do. Luckily I have a Rat Pack who will literally come out arms swinging the second someone bursts onto the forum or chat trying to mess me up, and I'm forever grateful. Thanks for everything, guys. Way too long didn't read; someone did something fucked up to me and it fucked me up really bad but I'm doing far better now and I'm okay, I've got lots of friends who take care of me and you don't need to worry. Uniform Skirt, Chevrolet, Ashi and 26 others 6 23 Link to comment
Anathema 186 Posted December 20, 2021 Share Posted December 20, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, KozmoFox said: Rat Pack Aw maannn. now everyone is gonna know I'm 90 years old. Edited December 20, 2021 by Anathema (see edit history) KozmoFox 1 Link to comment
Biku 9,657 Posted December 20, 2021 🌟 OmoOrg VIP Share Posted December 20, 2021 hii KozmoFox 1 Link to comment
knockonthedoor 1,210 Posted December 20, 2021 Share Posted December 20, 2021 2 hours ago, KozmoFox said: This....is not an easy job. But I do it anyway, because I love you all. Had no idea that someone could act this way on a forum like this. Thank you for all of the work you all put into to give us a place to be heard! Link to comment
Downjacket 162 Posted December 20, 2021 Share Posted December 20, 2021 Thank you for everything you do on the forum and for the community. That's some messed up (in a bad way) stuff they did to you! And no, I'm not very active on the Discord, lol. I joined it, but with a different account that my regular one for obvious reasons, so I don't visit often... Glad you're ok! Link to comment
ews21 310 Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 Thank you for removing the cancer that this site sometimes has. You are doing great! Link to comment
NotGraeme 243 Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 Thanks for all the great work you're doing for this site! Link to comment
AuthorFaust 1,292 Posted December 21, 2021 🌟 OmoOrg VIP Share Posted December 21, 2021 Big support for Koz. She does far more than everyone knows. Link to comment
nappypants 1,405 Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 Obviously not suggesting anything revealing people’s actual identity, except to the authorities if they do anything illegal, but we really should have a name and shame thread of banned usernames who have indulged in behaviour like this. Link to comment
Marco 186 Posted December 21, 2021 Author Share Posted December 21, 2021 I'm really sorry for what they did to you. I'm glad to hear you're feeling better now. Believe me, even though you and I don't know each other well, I was genuinely concerned. Link to comment
d418 73 Posted December 22, 2021 Share Posted December 22, 2021 Denying wrongdoing is a classic tactic of a bully. In the real world, such people will wind their victims up to the point where they turn on the bully, who immediately acts as if they have been bullied - and they are often believed by others who have never been on the receiving end of their tactics. I'm glad you are feeling better now. Link to comment
Here4theFun 1,960 Posted December 23, 2021 Share Posted December 23, 2021 Love u 2 @KozmoFox KozmoFox 1 Link to comment
xixi 167 Posted December 24, 2021 Share Posted December 24, 2021 Thank you for your hard work! Link to comment
Charisk_trash 22 Posted December 25, 2021 Share Posted December 25, 2021 You've kept this site from falling into toxicity as so many sites do these days, its phenomenal how much you manage to do for this community, and none of us could ever thank you enough for all the work you've put in. Link to comment
WetDave 650 Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 Sorry to hear of your bad experience. Thanks for all your good work here. Link to comment
Piddly 926 Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 Well that’s just shit! Nobody has the right to treat somebody else in that way, least of all somebody who works so hard for this community. I wasn’t around when all of this happened, but do know I was a bit of a dick before hand, and I’m really sorry. 😞 Link to comment
Chevrolet 87 Posted January 24, 2022 Share Posted January 24, 2022 (edited) oops late to this one hi koz 😄 Edited January 24, 2022 by Chevrolet (see edit history) KozmoFox 1 Link to comment
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