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How do you tell if desperation seen is real? 
 

two places This comes up when I muse about it are in irl and videos. For example, if you see someone who may be desperate, how can it be passively determined if they are desperate or figity in general? Are there certain cues or differences?

for the second, what about in videos? How can it be discerned if the actor(Ess) is actually desperate or faking it?

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I'm good at hiding my desperation, I think. You usually can tell if someone is desperate by their body language.

Are the moving around a lot? Are they tapping their foot? Are they standing/sitting with cross legs? Is their hand close to their crotch? Are they directly holding themselves?

Maybe they will do all these, maybe some, or maybe none at all. Of they could do something else. Just look and read their body language.(not in a creepy stalker way)

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In videos, like with an actress, good luck telling if someone is truly desperate. Anytime an actress hams it up ('Oh no, I have to go so bad! I'm going to wet myself.') I am pretty sure they aren't really all that desperate. But based on behind the scenes stuff for at least one video site, I think that actresses for such videos are often kind of desperate, just not to the degree of the video. They have to hold a lot of pee to produce for a scene after all, so they probably have to go pretty bad. But many random internet videos is just someone saying they have to go, and then going of their own volition, which can be kind of a turn off.

For me, I feel like it is more authentic looking when there is visible trembling or panic, even when the scenario doesn't call for it. Squeaking or general shock also do wonders. But this is also stuff that can be faked. I'd say the hardest thing to fake is the 'botched video' wetting, where you get the sense that the producer of the film is annoyed that the video is already ending, or they haven't made it to their intended set. "Are you sure you can't hold it, we're almost there." "You're going now? Oh jeez."

As for real life, I have given up on discerning when someone is actually desperate in real life. I'm not lucky enough to just happen upon really desperate people, and the people most vocal about needing to pee are usually just talking instead of actually needing to go. I had a coworker who was like that, she would always loudly yell about needing to pee, but then she wouldn't go anywhere, and would work for another hour or something before heading to the bathroom. 

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Well one time I tried to pretend that I really needed to pee. The guy knew I didn´t had to pee, but we were curious to see if I still could make him horny anyway. When I need to pee really badly, I can´t stop moving around, and asking permission to pee. However, when I was only pretending, I had to put so much effort into constantly moving hahahaha. I got tired of it in no time. My voice wouldn´t sound that desperate too. To sum up, I was saying that I needed to pee, but my body was showing otherwise haha

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Fortunately, I as a submissive have be able to observe many different people who were close to their limits many times over, and experience how it feels. They need the ability to distinguish between acting to get turn each other on and signals for safety. And it is often talked about.

We share of each stage signals and wear health care sensors at activity, but before those, I can aware of the nearby friends' unusualness naturally now. I also feel their pain sensation. So I think that everyone will be able to distinguish. But I still do not know how I distinguish (a mirror neuron?).

It seems a little difficult to distinguish in the video information, it is based on things that are impossible in acting. Just before the signal turns red, the complexion changes, the breathing is disturbed, the voice quality changes (for female), the talk are inarticulate and the pupil is dilated. For a number one, give up on squirming and dancing to avoid giving an abdominal pressure and shock, then being unable to walk from a squat state.

Since to make the performers look attractive and continue acting is prioritized in general works, so they seemed to release it while an amber signal in many works. I think it is better for fiction. The videos made by the performers (Twitter friends, etc.) who into omorashi seemed to hold it to the limit. As for a number two, because it is dangerous, the performers seemed to release it before the strong urge waves started in most works.

 

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There are two things for me that I look out for in a really good 'desperation video': a visibly bulging bladder and a huge pee/wetting at the end. Both of those indicate to me that the model was truly at her limit and genuinely bursting to pee. My favourite videos are the ones where the signs of desperation are quite subtle and the model is trying her best to stay composed despite her very full bladder. 

 

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3 hours ago, Despguy123 said:

There are too things for me that I look out for in a really good 'desperation video': a visibly bulging bladder and a huge pee/wetting at the end. Both of those indicate to me that the model was truly at her limit and genuinely bursting to pee. My favourite videos are the ones where the signs of desperation are quite subtle and the model is trying her best to stay composed despite her very full bladder. 

 

The first one's actually kinda hard to spot, because most of the time when I've seen people wet themselves in the real world , they've lost control before they've gotten to the point that their bladders were swollen at least as far as I could tell, or if it was swollen, it was really subtle; granted, the most common cause of wetting I've seen from women irl was actually because of them laughing too hard, or by overexerting themselves during exercise or while lifting/pushing a heavy object, not after holding it for too long.  Granted, they have to be dressed a certain way to make it easy to see.

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"Are the moving around a lot? Are they tapping their foot? Are they standing/sitting with cross legs? Is their hand close to their crotch? Are they directly holding themselves?"

I can say that body language is definitely a dead giveaway as I do all of these things when I am desperate and I don't think I have a good "poker face" so to speak when I am desperate as I think you can tell that I am sort of agitated and shifty and anxious when I have to go to the bathroom.


Another thing I would say his tone of voice and just how they are behaving in general, not just body language but do they seem agitated, do they seem like they are in a hurry, does it seem like their mind is elsewhere, like they are having trouble focusing, because I know I do all of that when I am desperate. I think you can tell from the person's voice just whether they are comfortable or whether they are clearly agitated, especially the tone of their voice. I think that a full bladder and most people tends to make them kind of cranky and on edge, like they're walking on eggshells because they are technically trying to walk with a painfully full bladder!


Again anyone with good acting skills can fake these things, but unless you are watching a video where a person was paid in order to produce the video, if you see people showing the signs in the general public and not for a specific catering to a fetish crowd it's likely that a genuine desperation and that they probably weren't doing it on purpose and probably weren't expecting it, which is of course the most entertaining kind to seat because it's much more genuine. When a regular person in public is generally desperate they don't act like a person in a porno film, they act like a person who is uncomfortable and trying to find some way to relieve themselves.

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Well the most obvious way to see if someone was desperate is to see how much pee comes out when she goes (or has an accident). Since I have a friend who's into wetting and other friend who's kind of into it too now, I've had the pleasure of seeing accidents that were a little bit on purpose, but with the amount of pee that comes out, they really had to go! Also for my own accidents, I make quite a puddle when I have them.

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On 7/1/2021 at 5:50 AM, China Girl said:

Well the most obvious way to see if someone was desperate is to see how much pee comes out when she goes (or has an accident). Since I have a friend who's into wetting and other friend who's kind of into it too now, I've had the pleasure of seeing accidents that were a little bit on purpose, but with the amount of pee that comes out, they really had to go! Also for my own accidents, I make quite a puddle when I have them.

I agree - I was going to say this too, like if they pee a ton at the end they were desperate. I often skip to the end to see and then go back to the beginning lol

 

Also I think a difference when people are really desperate is reacting to the sharp urges that come in waves. If they seem surprised/alarmed it's probably real and if they ease slowly and dramatically into it I usually think it's fake.


But really if it convinces me enough that I'm wondering, I don't really care. It's for a fantasy anyway. 🙂

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I have seen a video where a girl is being tickled and says she has to pee, and her reaction to being tickled seemed pretty real to me, though it didn't show the wetting itself, just her shorts and the ladder she was sitting on being wet when it cut forward, so I question whether she actually peed or whether they faked that.

I've questioned some of the wettings in videos before but others pointed out how most of them are probably real and would take more effort to fake, but desperation... hard to say. Of course if there's a wetting at the end and they pee a lot, you can bet they did have to go pretty bad.

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A while ago, I started to assume all wetting on omo sites were fake until proven otherwise. It's easy to be desperate and horny and think "I'll record myself!" but then I find that a lot are probably more horny than they are desperate, by how long it takes them to actually start wetting themselves - even when they let go about 30 seconds to 2 minutes earlier and are still waiting.

I notice some have replied to this regarding themselves and their holding capacities - to which I say "me too!". I'm pretty proud of being able to control my emotions even when facing extreme desperation to the point of physically losing control. I've always been extremely lucky in that even when I've held for hours without physically squeezing myself or reacting, when I've felt it finally burst out, it's just ended up being a leak against all odds. I did once leak a fair bit on a bus and just stayed calm and didn't worry too much about the occasional dribble, as long as it didn't turn into anything more. The bus was packed - especially for an early morning night bus.

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