Jota 129 Posted August 15, 2021 Author Popular Post Share Posted August 15, 2021 (edited) Sorry for only replying after such a long time... But one plays his cards well till the day he doesn't. And I almost ruined my chances. Fortunately, things turned out ok and now I write to you again... with consent 🙂 Luckily for me, the community in this website is mostly a good example regarding the ABDL community. After visiting the site, she understood my excitement in sharing what was unfolding with you and why I felt the need to do so, although she did not like the idea at all in the beginning. So, the last time I wrote to you we were starting to see each other more often outside work. We were dating and having fun. With all the restrictions due to covid, night time activities were heavily restricted and I decided to invite her to my house. The first time she came we had dinner and then we saw a movie which was surprisingly easy to choose (I’m very picky regarding movies and fully aware of that, but our tastes seem to align). After the movie she stayed a while but, in the end, she politely declined to stay the night when I touched the subject and went home. And the same happened on the next visit. It’s interesting to write to you now knowing what was on her mind back then. She wanted to stay, but every time she couldn’t muster the courage to open up. At this point she thought I didn’t know about her bedwetting. She told me she suspected I knew about it in the beginning, but as time passed and the dates went on with me never bringing up the subject again, she assumed she was wrong and assuming too much. So yes, my now girlfriend is indeed a bedwetter. Her brother and cousins surpassed that when they were in their late teens, but I guess her bladder forgot to do so and the bedwetting continued into adulthood. Nowadays, she only occasionally wets the bed when sleeping at home and doesn’t use diapers every night, only a mattress cover. However, when she is more stressed or worried about something, not having enough sleep, drinks a little and, especially, when she sleeps away from home, wetting the bed happens much more often. That’s why she uses protection during night shifts at work. Things only moved forward the 3th she came over. Friday was coming and none of us had to work that weekend. I picked her from home, so she was not driving this time. We went first for a stroll near the beach and only came home around sunset. This time I didn’t cook. I invited two friends of mine she had met before over for dinner and we ordered sushi for everyone. With wine during dinner and desert and some gin & tonic after that, we all ended up drinking a little more than we should. When it got late my friends said their goodbyes, leaving the two of us alone together. We were good, a little romance was going on, but then she started to really look worried. And I asked her what was going on: “Are you ok?” – I said. “It’s getting late, I think I should go. And we both drank too much… I’m calling an Uber.” “You don’t really need to go. You can stay… And if you want you can use the guest room…” The alcohol was doing its work now. She was teary when she answered. “It’s not that...” And maybe it was the alcohol, but I finally blurted it out. “If it’s about the diapers… I know… And I don’t mind.” I could see she was shocked. She just stared at me for a while. “You know? How?” And I told her about that night when she thought she was alone on the upper floor. She was blushing while listening to how I first noticed her wearing diapers during the night shifts. She was also relieved, and it was after that that she finally opened up and told me about her bedwetting. Now that she knew I knew, it was easier. “Still, I can’t stay… I didn’t bring any diapers with me.” “Well about that... it’s my turn to tell you my secret.” And that’s when I told her about me being a DL. She actually knew about the ABDL community (I guess it’s natural you find about ABDLs when you buy diapers online these days…), which made things a little easier, but at this point I could feel that she was pleased with what she was hearing. “I’m sorry I didn’t tell you early, but I didn’t find the right moment. And don’t even think it’s only about that, I really like you.” “I really need to think… Maybe it’s better if I go.” “Stay, it’s late. And we’ll think about this tomorrow. And if you don’t want to use a diaper since you don’t use it everyday it’s ok, you can stay in my bed, it has a mattress protector.” In the end she stayed the night with me and we slept together all night for the first time. She accepted one t-shirt and one of my regular Tena diapers to sleep in. The diaper was too big for her, but did the job. She ended up seeing the ABDL diapers as well. Although she didn’t say anything at the time, she got very curious about them. She actually was the one insisting on putting the diaper on, I told it was fine if she didn't want to, but she didn’t want to risk my bed. I must tell you, at this point I was completely in heaven. Sleeping together with a girl with just a t-shirt and diaper next to me, I had to really make an effort to behave. The next morning went well as well, she made me quite a few questions about how I found out about her and me being an ABDL. The next weeks were paradise to me. But things turned out for the worst when I told her about this site. She didn’t react well when she found that I shared the story here. She didn’t want to see me for a while. Fortunately, after a while she accepted for us to meet again. And I explained how lonely it is not having someone to share the ABDL part of me and how that feeling is common in the ABDL community. She forgave me and consented to tell you how thing’s developed. Nowadays, she practically sleeps here everyday. And she likes the bunny-hops 4 tapes I bought her more than she cares to admit 🙂 Things are fine as they are now, so I’m not gonna rush anything. I’m gonna introduce her to the ABDL stuff a little bit everyday. She’s very shy, but maybe we’ll have some more to share with you in the future 🙂 Edited August 15, 2021 by Jota (see edit history) imfac, Sarah_UK, SuiteWhoWets and 16 others 14 5 Quote Link to comment
infinitydriftr 24 Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 Wow, what a good ending to your story! It almost didn't end that way, but good for you for sticking the landing. I now wish you guys nothing but good luck! Quote Link to comment
China Girl 835 Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 Does sleeping include fucking in this situation? Sounds cute. KozmoFox 1 Quote Link to comment
vincp44 500 Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 Sorry to break in here... it's my first post on this website, but I've been hanging around longer. China Girl, as much as I like your excitement on this site... in this particalur topic maybe we should all take a bit more care than blasting out such things. Jota has just told in detail how fragile the relationship still is, after the hard times they had when she found out that all details about her possible bladder problem were already posted here. KozmoFox 1 Quote Link to comment
MrCapricorn 4 Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 I think the kiss an don't tell falls here, That is so cras. nex, KozmoFox and Jota 2 1 Quote Link to comment
xixi 167 Posted August 17, 2021 Share Posted August 17, 2021 (edited) That's fantastic! So glad things turned out all right! You did the right thing, being honest and telling her. Maybe, one day, if she is comfortable, she could tell us her side of the story 🤭 Wish you guys all of the best! Edited August 17, 2021 by xixi (see edit history) Quote Link to comment
waguy762 84 Posted August 17, 2021 Share Posted August 17, 2021 Hopefully everything’s going well ! Quote Link to comment
bobbyindiapers 25 Posted August 18, 2021 Share Posted August 18, 2021 On 8/16/2021 at 4:43 PM, China Girl said: Does sleeping include fucking in this situation? Sounds cute. SO CRASS. Quote Link to comment
Eliah 3 Posted August 18, 2021 Share Posted August 18, 2021 Yooohoooo! Team Jota FTW! 🥰 Looking forward for more updates as the time goes Quote Link to comment
nappypants 1,403 Posted August 18, 2021 Share Posted August 18, 2021 Yeah, while it’s great when people share personal experiences on here, we shouldn’t push them for more intimate detail than they’re comfortable giving. Especially when a partner from outside this community is involved. Quote Link to comment
China Girl 835 Posted August 18, 2021 Share Posted August 18, 2021 (edited) Well I don't think it's out of place to ask about sex on a kink website. Given this partner has been described wetting herself in a fetish context, hopefully with her consent, how much more is to talk about sex? It seems strange to be happy to talk so candidly and happily about pee and kink, and then as soon as penis goes in vagina, suddenly it's taboo... But after all, we share what we want to share. Edited August 18, 2021 by China Girl (see edit history) moiamigo 1 Quote Link to comment
Qwerty04 41 Posted August 18, 2021 Share Posted August 18, 2021 China Girl, the f-word you used when you asked is quite rude in american-english language. If you're fu**ing, the other person probably doesn't enjoy it. Quote Link to comment
China Girl 835 Posted August 18, 2021 Share Posted August 18, 2021 I think you have that confused with rape, fucking can certainly be a consensual thing. There's plenty of consensual porn which uses that word. Do we need to censor our words on an erotic site? In China "肏" (fuck) is obscene and censored, though it is certainly not only for rape but also consensual sex. But I would hope that on a site where people happily talk about pissing ourselves in diapers, we could talk freely... I do really like the word "肏" actually. It's made up of 入 (enter) and 肉 (flesh), and that's what happens! Bismiris and TimmyTrihard69 2 Quote Link to comment
bobbyindiapers 25 Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 15 hours ago, China Girl said: Well I don't think it's out of place to ask about sex on a kink website. Given this partner has been described wetting herself in a fetish context, hopefully with her consent, how much more is to talk about sex? It seems strange to be happy to talk so candidly and happily about pee and kink, and then as soon as penis goes in vagina, suddenly it's taboo... But after all, we share what we want to share. YES, we share what we want. I do beleive this is not a place to be sharing about fucking. It's a place for people who like diapers, and who beleive in being little. Quote Link to comment
nappypants 1,403 Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 11 hours ago, China Girl said: I think you have that confused with rape, fucking can certainly be a consensual thing. There's plenty of consensual porn which uses that word. Do we need to censor our words on an erotic site? In China "肏" (fuck) is obscene and censored, though it is certainly not only for rape but also consensual sex. But I would hope that on a site where people happily talk about pissing ourselves in diapers, we could talk freely... I do really like the word "肏" actually. It's made up of 入 (enter) and 肉 (flesh), and that's what happens! There’s no rule against discussing sexual stuff on here (unlike a certain other ABDL forum I could mention!), just appreciate that not everyone wants to share those details. In terms of using the F-word in its literal sense, again, I’d do so with caution. It doesn’t necessarily imply non-consensual but there are more tasteful ways of putting it in certain contexts, particularly if you’re asking someone about their relationship for example. I appreciate as a non-native English speaker it will be harder to judge when it’s right, using profanity in the “right” way is supposed to be one of the hardest things to learn in any language, despite those words being the first ones a lot of students want to learn! Quote Link to comment
China Girl 835 Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 What's the forum that doesn't allow sex? Given this is a fetish website, I would expect openness here compared to other places, but it seems like some people react almost prudishly to saying fuck, while surrounded by fetish content. Surely this isn't the place to restrict our sexual language like we do when talking to our parents. Quote Link to comment
nappypants 1,403 Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 (edited) 8 minutes ago, China Girl said: What's the forum that doesn't allow sex? Given this is a fetish website, I would expect openness here compared to other places, but it seems like some people react almost prudishly to saying fuck, while surrounded by fetish content. Surely this isn't the place to restrict our sexual language like we do when talking to our parents. As I said, it’s more about the right context, which only a native speaker can really get. I suppose I’d say it more alludes to aggressive/pornographic contexts than loving relationships. I won’t promote/name and shame the other forum, but yeah, you’d be banned in 5 minutes… full of people who think ABDL should just be this cuddly, innocent thing, and over-sensitive incontinent people who should stick to medical forums if they can’t handle people who actually like diapers! Edited August 19, 2021 by nappypants (see edit history) Quote Link to comment
China Girl 835 Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 (edited) Of course I know to change my language. I certainly don't say "肏" (fuck) in front of my parents here, that would be so inappropriate. But I certainly do use it with my husband, and I do think it is appropriate for a fetish forum, which is described as lewd... Cuddles are fun too, but why do people get so incredibly angry just because someone used a sexual word, that refers to something that had to happen just for them to be born? Edited August 19, 2021 by China Girl (see edit history) Quote Link to comment
nappypants 1,403 Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 Again, how the equivalent word is used in China might not be exactly the same… Quote Link to comment
China Girl 835 Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 What's the difference? It's certainly very vulgar and often censored, but people often use "fuck" on this site. https://www.omorashi.org/topic/52545-fucked-in-my-own-puddle/?tab=comments#comment-1693903 This is certainly not rape or illegal content. Quote Link to comment
nappypants 1,403 Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 Well, some people like to use it that way, some don’t (even if most will use the word as a general purpose expletive on occasions). Similar I suppose to stronger words for parts of the anatomy. Quote Link to comment
sybil 30 Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 (edited) I honestly don't know on what planet using "f*ck* automatically means "unenjoyable sex", and there are loads of people who use the word casually, so let's not split hairs hair or nitpick at what someone is saying. Its not a word you would use around children or in a professional situation perhaps, but literally everyone I know use "have sex" and "f*ck" interchangeably, and this is adult content we are discussing. If you don't want to say f*ck, that's fine, but let's not be unnecessarily condescending and confusing here at another user, and lets also not assume our own more conservative use of language is the "right way" and applies to everyone. After all, we are on a fetish site, and I think a bit of open-mindedness and license of language (barring racist language or other hateful language) is in the spirit of the environment. We aren't in a boardroom meeting or something. @China Girl your English seems excellent (I'm sure you already know this!) Now, if you wanted to debate whether asking about their sex life was appropriate -- when it was not explicitly shared -- that is perhaps more debatable (I mean I think its fine she asked -- he is clearly an adult and can refuse if he wishes). Again, we are on a fetish site. Edited August 19, 2021 by sybil (see edit history) KozmoFox, Diapercondriac, TimmyTrihard69 and 2 others 5 Quote Link to comment
nappypants 1,403 Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 1 hour ago, sybil said: Now, if you wanted to debate whether asking about their sex life was appropriate -- when it was not explicitly shared -- that is perhaps more debatable (I mean I think its fine she asked -- he is clearly an adult and can refuse if he wishes). Again, we are on a fetish site. Well that was the original debate, and the fact that if you are going to ask people that kind of question then you perhaps need to be a bit more tactful about it than “did you f*ck her”. If people want to use the word to describe their own activities then fair enough. Anyway I think the debate’s gone far enough and unless the OP has more to add I think we’re best leaving this thread behind now. @China Girl does post a lot of great content which I appreciate anyway! Quote Link to comment
China Girl 835 Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 My English has got really good from using sites like this. Aside from this one slip up, which apparently really offended some people, I have had no problems communicating here. Though my spoken English is a lot worse than written. I too would be happy to leave this thread be, unless the poster does want to talk about kinky diaper sex. nappypants 1 Quote Link to comment
Jota 129 Posted August 20, 2021 Author Share Posted August 20, 2021 (edited) Jesus, things escalated quickly. Let's not read to much on China Girl's less polite words... It's part of the persona, all her posts are like that. I got a little baffled at first, but I didn't take offense. I made some friends over the years a who are just as direct, it's part of them and they don't mean any harm. And truth is, sometimes they are the only ones with the guts to say things others can't muster the courage... Still I agree we always should measure our words, especially with strangers. And that's important even online, without a respectful environment these kind of forums don't work. Anyway, as I said, she is not from the community, although she was aware of this kink. Given so, we haven't mixed thigs and we'll take things slow. If we feel like sharing in the future, we will, but it's not something we even thought about yet. We need time to understand us first. Edited August 20, 2021 by Jota (see edit history) moiamigo, TheOwl, waguy762 and 3 others 5 1 Quote Link to comment
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