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Yes as the title says, I don't really have a desire to do intercourse.

I have this fetish since I was born and I don't really have any desires other than this fetish. Sure cuddling and roleplaying is one my thing to combine with this fetish.

I love sexy women with good personality especially when they are desperate to pee and I want to be with her as a partner, but I don't really want to have an intercourse with her.

I found it myself really weird since most of men have a huge lust to do it but not me, I only want to indulge in my fetish.

There is a chance that I would do an intercourse with her if she's holding her pee while doing it.

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Like you I have had this fetish for as long as I can remember. At the time of my sexual awakening I got into holding until I couldn’t hold. The feeling of release was beyond amazing. I also felt like an abberationally unworthy unique in all the world freak of nature. My first attempt at intercourse lead to a severe panic/anxiety attack that made walking very difficult but my bladder muscles were working just fine. After I peed in my pants I was taken to a health center where I stayed overnight and was put in a diaper. I finally got over the panic/anxiety and realized how good it felt to be in a diaper. It felt as good as as I had imagined for all of my life that I could remember. 
I finally met a woman who acted as if she didn’t mind and sometimes encouraged my omorashi and omutsu activities. After we got married I had several occasions to compare the feelings of intercourses and orgasm with the feelings of release after a strenuously long hold. The release after the strenuous hold was better than the intercourse orgasm. (I did have two kids with her). 
You and I are very similar.

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4 hours ago, scinosensation said:

Like you I have had this fetish for as long as I can remember. At the time of my sexual awakening I got into holding until I couldn’t hold. The feeling of release was beyond amazing. I also felt like an abberationally unworthy unique in all the world freak of nature. My first attempt at intercourse lead to a severe panic/anxiety attack that made walking very difficult but my bladder muscles were working just fine. After I peed in my pants I was taken to a health center where I stayed overnight and was put in a diaper. I finally got over the panic/anxiety and realized how good it felt to be in a diaper. It felt as good as as I had imagined for all of my life that I could remember. 
I finally met a woman who acted as if she didn’t mind and sometimes encouraged my omorashi and omutsu activities. After we got married I had several occasions to compare the feelings of intercourses and orgasm with the feelings of release after a strenuously long hold. The release after the strenuous hold was better than the intercourse orgasm. (I did have two kids with her). 
You and I are very similar.

I'm so glad that you found the right partner

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When I was a teenager, this was the first thing I discovered that got me off. The "normal" porn I watched honestly looked a little painful to me, not pleasurable. I thought for a long time that this meant I wouldn't enjoy having sex, and that I only liked being desperate/seeing others desperate to pee. But, when I found the right person, I discovered that I did enjoy sex after all. The videos I had watched that made intercourse look unpleasant were just unrealistic and gave the wrong impression. I do prefer to do some holding with him first as a bit of foreplay, though. 

Maybe when you find the right person, your thoughts will change as well. It's at least worth a try, but if you end up not enjoying it, there's nothing wrong with you. 

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I've had about 3 girl(friendish) in my life that i had a eh.. 'chance' with (meaning both naked and she urging to do it) but I am put off by it aswell. (tech. meaning I'm still a "virgin" at age 40ish but couldn't care less about it.) So i recognice your "problem". I actually only think of intercourse as the act of procreation (and this is not the cause of my inabillity to get aroused by intercourse but the aftermath) maybe its the same with you aswell? That eroticism simply lies with something other than that which is meant to make babies. 😛

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I don't think that that is strange at all because I used to think that I was asexual until my 20s because when I had fantasies I really never fantasized about sex with another human being. I later realized that I was a lesbian and that was the main reason I had no desire to have a penis inside of me or anything like that, but I gradually started to realize that the only thing I ever fantasized about sexually really was naked humiliation, tickle torture, and a full bladder. These three sexual fetishes are pretty much the only thing that I fantasize about, with a full bladder being the vast majority of my fantasies. I have never really had desire for penetrative sex or sexual intercourse in the traditional sense, pretty much all of my sexual fantasies involve being desperate for a toilet or seeing others desperate for a toilet, and I don't think that I have ever really masturbated to anything other than that. It is probably for those reasons, among numerous others, that I have never had a sexual partner or relationship.

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I am kind of like this but once I found myself in my first sexual relationship, I realized that extended foreplay tickled my fancy in a similar way to omo.

Teasing/edging a girl to the point that she is literally begging for your dick and squirming with pleasure is a different kind of desperation but one that I'm definitely turned on by, and there's no feeling in the world quite like sliding in to a wet vagina and providing that "relief" for you both

Also helps that is much more mainstream and doable in a casual sexual relationship than pee desperation which is pretty taboo

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On 3/22/2021 at 5:37 PM, segaface said:

When I was a teenager, this was the first thing I discovered that got me off. The "normal" porn I watched honestly looked a little painful to me, not pleasurable. I thought for a long time that this meant I wouldn't enjoy having sex, and that I only liked being desperate/seeing others desperate to pee. But, when I found the right person, I discovered that I did enjoy sex after all. The videos I had watched that made intercourse look unpleasant were just unrealistic and gave the wrong impression. I do prefer to do some holding with him first as a bit of foreplay, though. 

Maybe when you find the right person, your thoughts will change as well. It's at least worth a try, but if you end up not enjoying it, there's nothing wrong with you. 

To be fair if we're talking "normal" porn like Pornhub the main page is disgusting as an intro. Id say to most people like even 3 of the tag combinations most of them have do not make for good intros to the webstie. For the longest time I only watched stuff without a penis in it because everything just seemed so violent and extreme when they were involved. Its one of the reasons I slid towards this because it was softcore in comparison, but I did also get into this by mistake but thats a whole other can of worms

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14 hours ago, trekkie said:

@scinosensation That sucks. How is your injury now, can you get around and such? I still can't believe divorcing someone that one has been with for 20 years because they suffered something like that.

Thanks @trekkie. I am a paraplegic with no feeling of anything below the rib cage. My ex-wife discovered that her best friend from high school and college had become paraplegic and had the same problems I have. She called of the divorce but 12 years later she did divorce me. At least by that tome my kids were in college and not living at home.

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7 hours ago, The Dark Wolf said:

If it is, then I'm weird too. Actual sexual stuff including nudity turns me off, despite omo and other things definitely being a fetish for me.

I feel the same way, I rather see a cute girl in a cute / revealing outfit rather than seeing them naked. 

I just find myself really weird since my life has been pretty hard because of this fetish and now I think that I'm asexual.

At least I want to have an intercourse desire so I can live a normal sexual life.

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On 3/22/2021 at 3:13 AM, Baw42 said:

Yes as the title says, I don't really have a desire to do intercourse.

I have this fetish since I was born and I don't really have any desires other than this fetish. Sure cuddling and roleplaying is one my thing to combine with this fetish.

I love sexy women with good personality especially when they are desperate to pee and I want to be with her as a partner, but I don't really want to have an intercourse with her.

I found it myself really weird since most of men have a huge lust to do it but not me, I only want to indulge in my fetish.

There is a chance that I would do an intercourse with her if she's holding her pee while doing it.

Some people are turned off by sex, and only want the more....romantic aspects of a relationship, for instance

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8 hours ago, trekkie said:

@scinosensation Wish I knew what to say. Does the 'no sensation' in your name refer to your injury?

Indeed it does. The sci stands for spinal cord injury.

‘When I was injured I quickly recovered from the head injury and the use of my arms was not impaired in any meaningful way, so I was able to resume my career. I absolutely do require a wheelchair.

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On 3/23/2021 at 4:37 AM, segaface said:

When I was a teenager, this was the first thing I discovered that got me off. The "normal" porn I watched honestly looked a little painful to me, not pleasurable. I thought for a long time that this meant I wouldn't enjoy having sex, and that I only liked being desperate/seeing others desperate to pee. But, when I found the right person, I discovered that I did enjoy sex after all. The videos I had watched that made intercourse look unpleasant were just unrealistic and gave the wrong impression. I do prefer to do some holding with him first as a bit of foreplay, though. 

Maybe when you find the right person, your thoughts will change as well. It's at least worth a try, but if you end up not enjoying it, there's nothing wrong with you. 

Totally agree

 

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On 3/23/2021 at 10:19 AM, DesperateJill said:

I don't think that that is strange at all because I used to think that I was asexual until my 20s because when I had fantasies I really never fantasized about sex with another human being.

Oh my goodness this is genuinely the first time I’ve heard another lesbian say this without googling it! I grew up confused over whether I was asexual or maybe autosexual, and didn’t really understand that I way gay until late teens. I thought this was strange because the only other girls I’ve talked to about this have said they knew they were gay all along.

I’m turned on by omo or ‘wet’ sex, but until meeting the right partner vanilla sex had very little interest for me. Growing up we had a sex ed book in our house, and the most interesting page for me was one where a naked girl and boy were depicted peeing outdoors for some reason. The boy against a tree and the girl squatting by a bush. The pee was illustrated with a little dashed line. I remember that page clear as day all these years on. I also remember a scientific style illustration of a vagina. That is all I remember from the book.

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@Charlie Kirby

"Oh my goodness this is genuinely the first time I’ve heard another lesbian say this without googling it! I grew up confused over whether I was asexual or maybe autosexual, and didn’t really understand that I way gay until late teens. I thought this was strange because the only other girls I’ve talked to about this have said they knew they were gay all along."

I was definitely a very late bloomer in general and when I was younger I was admittedly somewhat prude and everything like that and very sex negative. But I know that I was never attracted to guys and I never really liked or never really fantasized about sex. In fact some people even joked that I was like the Virgin Mary because I had no interest in sex and everything like that, so I was sort of like a sex negative person for a very long time until I started to realize I was turned on by girls needing to go to the bathroom. But I am also realizing that I am almost certainly autistic so I probably just was very nonsexual for a very long time. Just sort of not comfortable in my own skin so to speak in that regard, no natural social or sexual instincts and little interest in relationships, romantic, sexual or platonic, with other people just in general.

"I’m turned on by omo or ‘wet’ sex, but until meeting the right partner vanilla sex had very little interest for me. Growing up we had a sex ed book in our house, and the most interesting page for me was one where a naked girl and boy were depicted peeing outdoors for some reason. The boy against a tree and the girl squatting by a bush. The pee was illustrated with a little dashed line. I remember that page clear as day all these years on. I also remember a scientific style illustration of a vagina. That is all I remember from the book."

I guess that's where I am somewhat similar because even at a very young age I was very interested in all things relating to bathrooms and the mechanics of men and women peeing and everything like that. I think that I noticed from a very young age the difference between men and women when it came to urination and that was always a source of fascination for me, probably because my boy cousins were just peeing all over the place while I was forced to hold it in or stuck waiting in line, so I guess I really noticed these differences from a very young age and was always fascinated to an unusual degree by everything related to bathrooms, which my friends and family thought was extremely odd, especially for a young girl like that.

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On 3/24/2021 at 1:02 PM, scinosensation said:

Indeed it does. The sci stands for spinal cord injury.

‘When I was injured I quickly recovered from the head injury and the use of my arms was not impaired in any meaningful way, so I was able to resume my career. I absolutely do require a wheelchair.

Oh, duh, I shoulda figured that out, with the name. 😛

I gotta say, you seem a LOT more well-adjusted than I think I'd be if I went through everything you had, both with the injury and your ex. I hear people don't want to hear "you're so brave," etc. but I am still impressed, and know it's got to be a lot harder than it sounds reading your average post.

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On 3/23/2021 at 12:08 PM, scinosensation said:

I didn’t find the right partner; 20 years later after I suffered a spinal cord injury she tried to divorce me because I really could not control bodily functions. She revealed that she had been disgusted by my omo activities the whole time.

That is just so low. Kicking someone when they're already down. I'm a nurse, so I know plenty about how serious a thing paraplegia is.

I would like to apologise to you on behalf of the female gender for the way she treated you.

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