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5 hours ago, CarmenCD said:

Can you even do that? Quit the fetish for good?

I guess you could force yourself to stop engaging in it, but I think fetishes are just ingrained into your sexuality the same way your orientation is. But, speaking from experience, trying to deny a part of your sexuality is painful and makes you feel broken and unfulfilled. I tried for a while to repress my attraction to guys because I thought it would make my life harder. But, trying to do that made me miserable because it's not something that I could get rid of because it was innate. A fetish is also an innate part of your sexuality, getting rid of it would be impossible and trying would be harmful to your mental health. 

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4 hours ago, EmeraldAvalon said:

This... I have wanted to do this for the longest time. Obviously, I couldn't. Desperation is the biggest fetish I have, my biggest source of arousal. As an asexual I didn't like what it did to me. This is my main reason why I made an account on this site. And yes, I feel you with the overindulging part. Every time I tried to quit it would just come back a few weeks later, and it seemed stronger than when I left it. It was as if the fetish was trying to make up for lost time, seeming irresistable.

There are a lot worse things you could be obsessed with doing. Unless you force unwilling people to participate you are not hurting anybody.  If it makes you feel good , and you enjoy it go ahead and do it.  I would not just announce it unless the situation was right, but the same can be said for any intimate activities.  It is none of their business. 

As I have gotten older I mostly don't care what others think about what I enjoy. 

Don't feel bad about yourself.  Accept yourself for who and what you are .Make yourself happy.

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Well first of all you can't quit your fetish. I'm pretty sure the desire would only grow if you tried to suppress it. You should never do that, and also you shouldn't feel ashamed of something that you can't control. It's a part of you that needs to be fulfilled. 

I don't see why people who are into wetting themselves would want to quit. I mean of course I get it. I guess it's because of societal norms, people thinking of it as gross because it isn't normalised, and the fear of being judged. But honestly fuck what society thinks. There's nothing wrong with enjoying anything that doesn't harm anyone. And if you enjoy watching others wet themselves, same thing, as long as everyone involved is consenting nothing should prevent you from living out your fetish. 

My interests are a bit different. I'm okay with voluntary holding and wetting but I prefer accidents and non-consent by a lot. Stress, fear, humiliation are what makes omorashi exciting for me. Plus I'm only into watching people, I don't like to hold myself. I've never told anyone about it and haven't tried anything omo-related and it's still new to me. I don't plan on ever telling someone since it would cause discomfort for anyone who knows.

About a month ago the fetish became a problem. I never really engaged in it before, apart from early childhood. I watched some porn from time to time but I didn't have any desire to act it out. But then I witnessed my partner truly desperate, not only being vocal about it but one could clearly see they were about to lose it. They made it in the end and although I hate to admit it, I really wish they didn't. This event kind of evoked my fetish and suddenly I had the desire to see my partner desperate and wet herself. Since the day after and for about a week I felt like I was on drugs. I felt dizzy, couldn't focus and was constantly aroused to the point I got extremely exhausted. Combined with the feeling of guilt and shame and thinking it was "wrong" to get turned on by such thing it caused a depressive episode and I just wanted to get rid of it. Especially because I started getting stressed and frustrated whenever my partner went to the bathroom. Probably because I wanted to see her desperate again or even wet herself. The realtionship became stressful and complicated for me.

I am now learning to deal with the fetish on my own. I still have the same desire towards my partner but she isn't into it and even if she was, it wouldn't solve my desire to witness her having a real accident. 

So yeah, if I could I would definitely want to quit. Although my libido would decrease by a lot or barely exist, it would make my realtionship and sex life less complicated. 

 

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Thanks for all the comments so far, from time to time i do read back into this thread so even If i don't respond Im still having a pee'k 😛

Anyway, all those of you currently struggling with depression, depression is mostly enviromental and with governments imposing lockdowns all over the world it is no suprise you would feel this unhappyness. Just know it's not you. You have a lifeforce in you that needs to express itself in the open. This will not be forever, but it will take time to fight ourselves out of the tyranny. You are not alone, you will never be alone. And our fetishes aside, that may also sometimes make us (me included) feel less than we are out of guilt or shame or perhaps regret, wether we are or aren't in control.. You matter, you have been raised up and you have personality, you have memories, you have strenghts and creativity. You will be allright.

Greets to all of you.

-Ppjustwatching.

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  • 1 month later...

Sometimes I wonder if life would be a lot easier if I was more straight-laced. It's made the already near-impossible job of finding a partner even more difficult. I tried dating guys that were only into vanilla sex, and one that was into a fetish that I really didn't like, and I felt like I could never really get as close to them as I was hiding a huge part of what I enjoyed. If I was given the choice between giving up regular sex and only having the kinky stuff or giving up the kinky stuff and only having vanilla sex, I would have to give up sex. It's nice and I enjoy regular sex too, but that on it's own just isn't enough for me. I would always be fantasising or having to watch videos online to get really turned on. I want to be able to share that with my partner. But so far I've only met guys that either shared the same kinks but weren't a match in other areas, or that matched in other areas but had no interest in any kinky stuff. And now I'm reaching a point in life where I don't think it's going to happen.

Unlike some people, I don't have any guilt over it. But it's not something I'd discuss with non-partners, as I generally don't want to discuss anything sexual (at least not in detail) with someone I'm not going to do anything with. I don't find it a turn on to think or talk about kinks with someone I'm not attracted to, so I mostly keep that to myself unless asked directly. And if I talk about it with someone I am attracted to but can't be with, then it's just incredibly frustrating and then depressing.

"But then I witnessed my partner truly desperate, not only being vocal about it but one could clearly see they were about to lose it. They made it in the end and although I hate to admit it, I really wish they didn't. This event kind of evoked my fetish and suddenly I had the desire to see my partner desperate and wet herself. Since the day after and for about a week I felt like I was on drugs. I felt dizzy, couldn't focus and was constantly aroused to the point I got extremely exhausted. Combined with the feeling of guilt and shame and thinking it was "wrong" to get turned on by such thing it caused a depressive episode and I just wanted to get rid of it. Especially because I started getting stressed and frustrated whenever my partner went to the bathroom. Probably because I wanted to see her desperate again or even wet herself. The realtionship became stressful and complicated for me."

Yeah, this is also the issue when I start to 'involve' other random people (even just verbally) with fetishes. If I don't like them, it just feels a bit yuck like talking to my parents about their sex life (no thanks). If I do like them and I can't actually do anything with them, then the fantasies start driving me crazy and I end up almost hating them out of self preservation. It's like the universe saying 'here is this person you've waited years to find and they are now involved with fetishes in your head... but you're not allowed to get as far as enjoying that! hahaha!' So now I keep a strict boundary between non-partners and anything that really turns me on. Minor fetishes I don't mind chatting about occasionally, but nothing on my 'hardcore' list. And if a partner makes it clear they have no interest in any of those things, then I can never really get close to them as that boundary always has to be there.

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This has been therapeutic and insightful to read through. I have quit a couple times, but ultimately always came back. 

I went through a period of just not wanting to do it anymore because I felt ashamed and wanted to improve my life. I remember being on a binge during a time I felt a bit depressy for other reasons, and although I enjoyed wetting, after I'd finished, I'd just sit there in wet pants looking at myself in the mirror thinking "wow what a loser".

After a couple years of not doing it, I had a genuine accident, and remembered how fun it was and was happy to restart things again. But I knew I had to control it this time and that what made it exciting was the one-offs and spontaneous wettings. Not the staged wettings every night.

Now, if I think I'm indulging too much, or I find myself looking at myself in disgust, I pull back on it for a while, or keep it occasional.

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On 3/28/2021 at 8:02 AM, scinosensation said:

I wanted to quit my fetish as soon as I recognized it. I thought it made me an unworthy unique freak of nature.

Ahaha this is me right now. 😬

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On 5/6/2021 at 7:08 PM, FTRexx said:

Ahaha this is me right now. 😬

You have this forum so you can see that you are not alone. One of the most important events of my life was the discovery that other people had the same or very similar fetishes. On this forum the are several people with doctoral level degrees (including me), several physicians and several nurses.

I have never been able to get away from my fetish although it has gone dormant sometimes for over a year.

 

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On 3/28/2021 at 4:14 AM, 33applepies said:

Sometimes yes, but I suffer from depression and have extremely low self-esteem, so I tend to think there's something wrong with most things I like. I've been feeling very low for a super long time because of the pandemic, and I'm finding myself COMPLETELY OBSESSED with it.

I think most people think a fetish like this is gross, so I'm too embarrassed to reveal that I'm into it.

I’m sorry to hear you have issues to contend with, we all have some form of anxiety over certain things maybe not as full on as yours, I’ve had my reservations on why I’m the way I am, why can’t I be ‘normal’ however I have come to Reims with it, what I like and do bothers no one, I’m not harassing women for sex or anything or like a work colleague in bother for inappropriately touching a woman in a bar, so try and be comfortable with who you are as I do, and accept there’s much worse going on out there by the ‘normal’ people in our societies,

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1 hour ago, Uniform Skirt said:

No. I already like banging hot women in skirts, with this kink I also get to enjoy their embarrassing accidents too. It's a bonus that makes sex more fun.

I agree it’s a bonus, I liked if I’m out with the wife for the evening alcoholic drinks etc and I get to enjoy her bursting to pee on the way home gives me a charge before sex however reverse if I’m hoping for some desperation and don’t get any, can put me in a downward mood, guys without this fetish could enjoy the build up to sex as much as I enjoy the desperation but I feel the desperation takes me to a higher level.....

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It has to be impossible..... how am I supposed to feel next time my wife’s friend is out with us and by the time she’s done chatting to everyone at the end of the night and were calling a cab, clubs closed were waiting and she starts her pee dance in her high heels and dress saying how she hopes the cab won’t be long as she’s bursting to pee ? Very hot as she paces and squirms and I hope the cab takes a while to watch how things unfold, 

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Actually, yes, at times. I've had some great experiences but being so interested in pee has stopped me forming really successful, lasting relationships overall.

Right now I'm getting interest from a lovely lady and I really would like to go and start something where I can be blissfully unaware of her peeing.   At times likes these I always tell myself that I'll use this new start to forget my interests and reset.  Never happens.  If I end up blowing up yet another promising relationship over a fetish though... Urghhh

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You can't change your sexuality. It's just part of you. You just need to learn to live with it and figure out how it fits into your life.

it took me a while to accept that, but I think I'm there. This will always be a part of me. I don't know why -- not fully -- but, I know it's pretty much always been there.

What I can do and what I strive to do is to keep it in the right balance. I do not wish for it to be the defining characteristic of me, or the entirety of my sexuality. For the most part, I've been able to do that. I do enjoy the vanilla world too, although I do think that I've let myself down a few times in my life with partners when I've become bored and have started to drift more into this space. I'm mostly single now for the first time in a while, so I have to figure that out by the time I find myself in another relationship. That's a process and I don't know what it's going to look like.

But, quit? No. Can't. 

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I don't think that I could be with someone who didn't share at least one of my fetishes rather strongly because I have more interest in my three major fetishes than I do in any actual sex or anything like that. I think the biggest conflict for me was when I was at my job though and having to hold it all day put me in like constant fetish mindset in an awkward position where that was extremely tense. Of course now that that's over maybe I can get my mind out of the toilet for a while! But while that was a regular part of my life my mind was almost in constant toilet focused mode, like I could barely sometimes concentrate on anything else other than the fact that I knew I would be going all day without a toilet, and I think that simply because of the fetish that made it truly maddening.

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I dont wanna quit the fetish but i do wish it wasn’t the main source of pleasure for me. When i turned 13 and finally learned about masterbating and reading sex stories they turned me on for a bit, but once i discovered omo i never read much sex stories anymore and it was solely pee stories that got me going. It was the only thing for a long time to turn me on. I did end up quitting though in 2019 when i was in such a depressed state because of personal stuff that stopped me from doing anything omo related, then i lost my libido all together for years. Im still working on everything but im getting back into reading stuff here and trying to participate in things. I think i wish i could experience more sexual stuff to really have more to be pleasured by. 

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3 hours ago, Brittanybunny said:

I dont wanna quit the fetish but i do wish it wasn’t the main source of pleasure for me. When i turned 13 and finally learned about masterbating and reading sex stories they turned me on for a bit, but once i discovered omo i never read much sex stories anymore and it was solely pee stories that got me going. It was the only thing for a long time to turn me on. I did end up quitting though in 2019 when i was in such a depressed state because of personal stuff that stopped me from doing anything omo related, then i lost my libido all together for years. Im still working on everything but im getting back into reading stuff here and trying to participate in things. I think i wish i could experience more sexual stuff to really have more to be pleasured by. 

Yes I very much agree with all this!

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I sometimes wish I didn't have it, like why can't I be a "normal" person who gets turned on by "ordinary" things? It's not really that I'm ashamed of it, I just feel that it would be much easier for me to get sexual satisfaction if I wasn't only aroused by this fetish. I mean, what are the chances of me finding a partner who would be into it or even willing to try it? Fairly low I think.

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On 10/22/2021 at 12:43 AM, Brittanybunny said:

I dont wanna quit the fetish but i do wish it wasn’t the main source of pleasure for me. When i turned 13 and finally learned about masterbating and reading sex stories they turned me on for a bit, but once i discovered omo i never read much sex stories anymore and it was solely pee stories that got me going. It was the only thing for a long time to turn me on. I did end up quitting though in 2019 when i was in such a depressed state because of personal stuff that stopped me from doing anything omo related, then i lost my libido all together for years. Im still working on everything but im getting back into reading stuff here and trying to participate in things. I think i wish i could experience more sexual stuff to really have more to be pleasured by. 

I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you. You were always so kind to me. Reach out if I can help.

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