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Does anyone else have the issue that they really want to see their partner being desperate and having an accident? 

I've never had the desire to see someone I know wet themselves except for when I was a child. I only enjoyed porn and omorashi stories. 

I never thought about expressing my kink to my girlfriend, I always thought it was something I had to keep to myself because people would be weirded out. Therefore her talking about having to pee or going to the bathroom never really interested me, I just thought I had to keep my kink out of our relationship. 

One time, after a long walk, she was extremely desperate and almost didn't make it home. She started to jig and squirm, which she had never done before, everytime we stopped at a traffic light or when we wanted to grab a coffee and constantly complained how bad she needed to pee. That really turned me on to the point where I felt dizzy and couldn't focus on anything else. It was close but she managed to hold it until we got home. 

Since then I can't stop thinking about her wetting herself and nothing else arouses me the same way. I get angry everytime she uses the bathroom and have the strong urge to keep her from going because I want her to hold it. Even when she isn't around I get frustrated because I know I will never see her wet herself. I don't want her to know anything about the negative emotions she provokes, I know it's not her fault and I feel really bad for getting angry even though she doesn't notice. It impacts my perception of her because I can't get the desire off my mind.

She herself is very kinky and open to trying new things but I know she isn't into omorashi and I don't want to tell her about my kink. Especially because I don't want her to feel uncomfortable whenever she uses the bathroom or thinks she has to do something she doesn't want to just to please me. Plus I'm only into real accidents not into roleplay and I can't imagine that someone who isn't into omorashi would be willing to have a real accident. I guess telling her about my kink would put pressure on her and I don't want her to feel that way. 

A week has passed since the first time the desire occured and at this point it really stresses me out and exhausts me. I don't know how to stop these thoughts and desires, I don't want to think about it everytime I see her. She hasn't noticed anything but I don't know if she will anytime soon and I definitely don't want her to suffer from this. Does anyone have any experience or advice on this topic?

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I just want to say you’re a good partner for not pressuring your kink on her and trying to mask your anger. I think in general, piss kinks are becoming more common/less stigmatized, and you might be surprised what she could be interested in, even if it’s only for your sake.

My first sexual relationship was with a guy who was into omorashi, watching me hold, and holding himself, and the way he introduced me to it was encouraging me to hold whenever I mentioned I was going to use the bathroom. All he would say was, “hold it.” Or, “doesn’t it feel good when you hold it?” It was playful and cute and I could tell he was turned on by it, so I didn’t feel pressured and it became a game between us. We would always announce when we had to pee and we’d tell the other to hold until we literally couldn’t. It was hot and I’ve never had another relationship like it.

But obviously, if she’s not into it, and it’s something you feel like you need to be fulfilled, maybe you need to talk about opening your relationship or going your separate ways.

Best of luck, and I’d love to know how it goes! (;

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You're very sweet to be so thoughtful! But if she's into various kinds of kink, I think she might - assuming she is not, and won't ever, be into this one (no, really. Let's go with the good side/possibilities in the most pessimistic possibility first!) - be less grossed out and uncomfortable with you having one she's not into than you think. Consider how all of us here feel, knowing we're into something that we fear would make a lot of people look at us like freaks. So, that's a big plus of having it out in the opening - even if you never do anything omo-related together, it's common ground you have that might even bring you closer together. 

Once it's in the opening, I'd see if she was up for negotiating. "Would you hold it 'til you wet yourself once a month or so if I..." enter the thing she probably never thought she'd get you or anyone to do here. No pressure, and make sure she knows there's no pressure, though it's clear you know that already.

If your relationship is otherwise strong, if it's something she's totally opposed to, you'd just say "oh, okay" and pursue this interest in other ways without involving her... like you're doing already. In other words, the worst that'd happen is bringing you right back to square one, minus the pain of wondering what might've been!

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Just now, Armisyel said:

Witnessing desperate scenarios is more a matter of luck, it is not very ethical to want to force someone to urinate, unless the other person agrees to do so, in my case I have seen many friends and even my girlfriend desperate to urinate, and although many times  I wish they had urinated, I know they would not have liked

Nobody's talking about forcing anyone; the original poster even says they don't let their GF even know they'd like to see her wet herself. It's all about broaching the subject and seeing if she'll agree... something that is of course hard for everyone who's had to do so.

But here's why it's worth it to ask, and sooner rather than later: a lot of the stories of people who have done this with their partners talk about "I didn't mention it for 20 years because I was afraid of what they'd think!" Think of all that wasted time, how much fun they could've had together if they'd asked after six months! Once you truly love and trust each other, "I like it when you have to pee" is not the kind of thing that can derail it even if you don't end up playing any kind of omo games together.

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Be honest with your g/f. Tell her about your kink. If your relationship is strong and you both love each other thsn being open with her would change anything. She will either agree to try your kink with you, or she will tell you its something she's not into. Other than that nothing should change. I wish I was more open with my wife about this stuff, it took me a long time to work up the courage to actually talk to her about it, but once we did it turned out not to be a big deal. She told me she wasnt into it, but also wasn't bother by the fact that I liked it. That was that nothing changed. Just recently we reopened the conversation and she to me she would be willing to try wetting her panties for me.

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Thank you guys for your responses and encouragement! It's nice to see you had positive experiences.

I might actually talk to her, maybe leave out the negative emotions and just tell there's this kink I have. I'm quite new to exploring omorashi and I guess I need some time to feel comfortable with expressing it.

But I still fear it might impact our everyday life when I tell my girlfriend I like to see her desperate and wet herself. I mean she will probably always think about it whenever she has to use the bathroom. 

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I feel the same way sometimes. I don't tell my BF about my kink, because he has clearly (and more than once) said he doesn't enjoy the feeling of a full bladder. I've raised the topic a few times, casually saying something like "isn't it funny how a full bladder feels good to many people? Personally, I can see where it comes from...", and he's adamant about being very uncomfortable and unable to do anything when he needs to pee. 

But, no matter how guilty I feel about it, I must confess that it still turns me on when I know he needs to go. For example, when we go to see a movie, I always buy the largest soda (and also try to drink something in before). Of course he takes the same size >_< And by the middle of the movie, about the time I'm just starting to enjoy my desperation, he whispers to my ear that he's leaving me for five minutes to use a bathroom. I can only answer "ok sure", because I know that he is actually suffering, but I can barely stop myself from saying "please stay here and hold it with me!"

 

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On 2/16/2021 at 4:25 PM, Telety said:

Does anyone else have the issue that they really want to see their partner being desperate and having an accident? 

I've never had the desire to see someone I know wet themselves except for when I was a child. I only enjoyed porn and omorashi stories. 

I never thought about expressing my kink to my girlfriend, I always thought it was something I had to keep to myself because people would be weirded out. Therefore her talking about having to pee or going to the bathroom never really interested me, I just thought I had to keep my kink out of our relationship. 

One time, after a long walk, she was extremely desperate and almost didn't make it home. She started to jig and squirm, which she had never done before, everytime we stopped at a traffic light or when we wanted to grab a coffee and constantly complained how bad she needed to pee. That really turned me on to the point where I felt dizzy and couldn't focus on anything else. It was close but she managed to hold it until we got home. 

Since then I can't stop thinking about her wetting herself and nothing else arouses me the same way. I get angry everytime she uses the bathroom and have the strong urge to keep her from going because I want her to hold it. Even when she isn't around I get frustrated because I know I will never see her wet herself. I don't want her to know anything about the negative emotions she provokes, I know it's not her fault and I feel really bad for getting angry even though she doesn't notice. It impacts my perception of her because I can't get the desire off my mind.

She herself is very kinky and open to trying new things but I know she isn't into omorashi and I don't want to tell her about my kink. Especially because I don't want her to feel uncomfortable whenever she uses the bathroom or thinks she has to do something she doesn't want to just to please me. Plus I'm only into real accidents not into roleplay and I can't imagine that someone who isn't into omorashi would be willing to have a real accident. I guess telling her about my kink would put pressure on her and I don't want her to feel that way. 

A week has passed since the first time the desire occured and at this point it really stresses me out and exhausts me. I don't know how to stop these thoughts and desires, I don't want to think about it everytime I see her. She hasn't noticed anything but I don't know if she will anytime soon and I definitely don't want her to suffer from this. Does anyone have any experience or advice on this topic?

Man, I thought I was the only one who dealt with this hahahaha

I only told one GF about my fetish and she wound up being interested and trying a lot with me. We had been dating for about 2 years at that point. 

My advice is if the relationship is serious, be honest with her, but not overbearing. Make sure she knows that if it makes her uncomfortable, she doesn't have to do anything.  If she cares about you and is kinky, even if she hasnt done anything before she might be open to it. That was my experience anyways. It was the scariest thing I've ever done but man was it worth it haha

 

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On 2/16/2021 at 4:25 PM, Telety said:

Does anyone else have the issue that they really want to see their partner being desperate and having an accident? 

I've never had the desire to see someone I know wet themselves except for when I was a child. I only enjoyed porn and omorashi stories. 

I never thought about expressing my kink to my girlfriend, I always thought it was something I had to keep to myself because people would be weirded out. Therefore her talking about having to pee or going to the bathroom never really interested me, I just thought I had to keep my kink out of our relationship. 

One time, after a long walk, she was extremely desperate and almost didn't make it home. She started to jig and squirm, which she had never done before, everytime we stopped at a traffic light or when we wanted to grab a coffee and constantly complained how bad she needed to pee. That really turned me on to the point where I felt dizzy and couldn't focus on anything else. It was close but she managed to hold it until we got home. 

Since then I can't stop thinking about her wetting herself and nothing else arouses me the same way. I get angry everytime she uses the bathroom and have the strong urge to keep her from going because I want her to hold it. Even when she isn't around I get frustrated because I know I will never see her wet herself. I don't want her to know anything about the negative emotions she provokes, I know it's not her fault and I feel really bad for getting angry even though she doesn't notice. It impacts my perception of her because I can't get the desire off my mind.

She herself is very kinky and open to trying new things but I know she isn't into omorashi and I don't want to tell her about my kink. Especially because I don't want her to feel uncomfortable whenever she uses the bathroom or thinks she has to do something she doesn't want to just to please me. Plus I'm only into real accidents not into roleplay and I can't imagine that someone who isn't into omorashi would be willing to have a real accident. I guess telling her about my kink would put pressure on her and I don't want her to feel that way. 

A week has passed since the first time the desire occured and at this point it really stresses me out and exhausts me. I don't know how to stop these thoughts and desires, I don't want to think about it everytime I see her. She hasn't noticed anything but I don't know if she will anytime soon and I definitely don't want her to suffer from this. Does anyone have any experience or advice on this topic?

I understand your emotions and the guilt that comes with feeling that way. She’s your partner so you obviously respect her and don’t want to put her in an uncomfortable position. I sometimes have feelings similar to yours with my girlfriend but I guess my frustrations lie more with myself In not being able to express my desires to her. I think that you should try and remain optimistic and maybe hint at some things omo related when the time is right.

for example, a few weeks ago I was out with my girlfriend doing some sightseeing in a nearby town and we had a couple beers along our trek through town. I’ve noticed that she has a larger bladder than me and probably pees half as often as I do, and I did stop a couple times to pee at various places we went to throughout the afternoon. After my 3rd bathroom trip she sort of jokingly asked why I was peeing so much. I replied “ha I don’t know, I think you have a bigger bladder than me.”  She sort of laughed at that comment and disagreed, and I said something like “yeah you never have to pee, it’s pretty incredible.” 
that was the extent of the convo but it encourages me to try and bring up the topic of peeing whenever I get a good opportunity (without being super obvious of course). I guess the thesis of my comment is to stay patient and optimistic, you never know when opportunities to introduce it in conversation will happen. I’m certainly going to keep trying 

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I want everybody reading these responses to see what the effect of not telling somebody you’re dating early on what your kinks are. Tell people you’re dating a few months in at the very latest, or you’ll be years into a relationship and carrying a secret that you’re worried they’ll reject you for if you ever tell them.

They may not even reject you! But the stakes get oh so much higher. Just do it early. Just do it. Do it.

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Seriously, talk to her.

This has been said before, she's kinky so she will at least be understanding. 

But more importantly...you build up so much tension inside your relationships by keeping that in. 

And you're also seeing and trying to manage the negative impact it has on you. 

So you'll use up that energy anyway. I understand that it's scary. But when you open that door, you can work with it. However that will work out. 

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Speaking from recent experience, I couldn’t agree more that you should consider telling her. Telling my girlfriend (who doesn’t express many kinks herself) was honestly the best thing. Not for the bedroom experiences, for what it’s done for our relationship.

She’s always been really open and honest. It made me feel terrible that I was keeping a secret like this. I felt gross, dishonest, and honestly terrible. Like you, I didn’t want to ‘put on’ her by making her feel obliged to do things she didn’t want to do.

After telling her I realised what a big thing it had unnecessarily become in my head, and what a dark cloud that had bought between us.

Remember that telling her needn’t be a big serious heart to hear either. I had planned all the words and the apologies I was going to make. In the end it sort of came out accidentally in what was a short, jovial conversation. It’s just a kink. It may mean the world to you because you can’t see the woods for the trees, but to her it will be almost trivial.

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Like everyone else has said, just talk to her about it. There is basically no other way to get closure on something like this without doing that.

Don't be weird, don't be forceful. Just be genuine! Say "hey there's this thing i like, maybe we could try it sometime, it's okay if you don't want to". Worst case scenario is she's not into it and you don't have to talk about it anymore. Best case scenario, well... use your imagination.

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I appreciate your advice. Recently I kind of talked to her about it. We discussed different kind of kinks. Since she doesn't know the term omorashi I described to her what I like, or rather indicated that I would be willing to try things in this direction. She seemed uncomfortable and said she'd be open to various kind of kinks but she finds piss kinks and anything similar disgusting and wouldn't like it. 

I don't think I will address the topic again, she seemed really averse, and I don't think I can tell her that it's basically my main sexual interest and the only thing that turns me on apart from physical touch. 

It doesn't help that we are spending more and more time together, thinking about moving together. Because recently she developed this thing where she needs to pee from one second to another. She gets extremely desperate out of nowhere. I guess it's because of her caffeine intake. Most of the time she stays a few minutes before going because she likes to finish tasks. In that time she squirms and bounces a lot, is vocal about having to go badly and has this desperate look on her face which drives me crazy. I always have a strong urge to make her stay but now I know for sure that she wouldn't like it, even worse, would find it gross and would be uncomfortable with me getting turned on by it. I know I can't tell her to change her behaviour since she can't control her bodily functions. So telling her the whole thing wouldn't make a difference apart from making her even more uncomfortable and probably causing tension whenever she has to pee.  

I don't know what to do. I find myself in this situation almost every day and it's getting more and more frustrating. I definitely don't want to leave her, everything else is perfect in our relationship. Does one simply get used to seeing their partner desperate? We have an open relationship so I could try omorashi with other partners. But that doesn't solve the situation where she is getting desperate and I get stressed out because my mind is turning her into an object of my desire. I hate to phrase it like that but it really describes the way it feels. Plus I'm not really sexually attracted to anyone else except for her. 

 

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Sorry to hear it, and understand your conflict. Don’t close the book though, it sounds like you have a good relationship and it’ll hopefully get stronger when you’re living together.

Best thing I can suggest is to try not to shut down over it. Keep talking to her about your sexual preferences and be open about needing space to do things on your own, or consume online content etc. I’d like to think she’ll understand. You can keep everything bottled up.

Wishing you both the best.

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This is just so sad. Listen to yourself. You are planning on taking a big part of your sexuality and keeping it a secret from your main sex partner... forever. For the rest of your life. I can’t possibly urge you strongly enough not to do this. Tell your partner. She has a right to know! And you have a right not to have to keep this secret from her for the rest of your life. You have no idea the ways that it’ll poison your relationship.

Be open with her about your kinks. If she’s not interested and doesn’t want to participate, well I’d consider that a red flag for a relationship, but if you want to go on with it, negotiate space for yourself to do it on your own in a way that you can still communicate with her about it. DO NOT LIVE IN THE CLOSET.

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On 2/16/2021 at 10:25 PM, Telety said:

Does anyone else have the issue that they really want to see their partner being desperate and having an accident? 

I've never had the desire to see someone I know wet themselves except for when I was a child. I only enjoyed porn and omorashi stories. 

I never thought about expressing my kink to my girlfriend, I always thought it was something I had to keep to myself because people would be weirded out. Therefore her talking about having to pee or going to the bathroom never really interested me, I just thought I had to keep my kink out of our relationship. 

One time, after a long walk, she was extremely desperate and almost didn't make it home. She started to jig and squirm, which she had never done before, everytime we stopped at a traffic light or when we wanted to grab a coffee and constantly complained how bad she needed to pee. That really turned me on to the point where I felt dizzy and couldn't focus on anything else. It was close but she managed to hold it until we got home. 

Since then I can't stop thinking about her wetting herself and nothing else arouses me the same way. I get angry everytime she uses the bathroom and have the strong urge to keep her from going because I want her to hold it. Even when she isn't around I get frustrated because I know I will never see her wet herself. I don't want her to know anything about the negative emotions she provokes, I know it's not her fault and I feel really bad for getting angry even though she doesn't notice. It impacts my perception of her because I can't get the desire off my mind.

She herself is very kinky and open to trying new things but I know she isn't into omorashi and I don't want to tell her about my kink. Especially because I don't want her to feel uncomfortable whenever she uses the bathroom or thinks she has to do something she doesn't want to just to please me. Plus I'm only into real accidents not into roleplay and I can't imagine that someone who isn't into omorashi would be willing to have a real accident. I guess telling her about my kink would put pressure on her and I don't want her to feel that way. 

A week has passed since the first time the desire occured and at this point it really stresses me out and exhausts me. I don't know how to stop these thoughts and desires, I don't want to think about it everytime I see her. She hasn't noticed anything but I don't know if she will anytime soon and I definitely don't want her to suffer from this. Does anyone have any experience or advice on this topic?

My bf knows very well this situation, in fact he's like u, he wants me with a bursting bladder, me having an accidents, and sometimes he gets angry if I use the bathroom, but he was also very reluctant to tell about this kink on the first months of relationship. While on the first weeks he didn't show nothing about that, after he started for example, if we were late on a trip, he tried several times to blocking me before I got the chance to go to the bathroom, saying that we were sooo late and etc etc, also making me hold for all the trip, without any stops. Other times, during the few occasions that we ended up drunk, he was ready to not letting me go to the bathroom, not for much in this case, but still, quite annoying after 2 or more beers. I'm enough omo to not be concerned about this very much, except for one thing, because I know that (this didn't happened very ofter, so nothing too serious) sometimes I got pretty annoyed if I had to go when I went out with my bf, because I was pretty desperate and still he wanted me to hold it. We after talked about this argument, and at long last he admit it. I faked to be surprised and then after some other talk, he was pretty embarassed to talk about this kink, also because I was angry about that (I faked to be angry about that) in fact 30 minutes later) I said hey wanna see something cool? He said yes, and then I leaked some pee, and at first he was so excited, but shortly after he realized that there was the possiblity that I did this only to please him, and I said, luckily for you this is OUR kink, but only one thing, DON'T DO THIS WHEN I GET THE CYCLE, OR I SWEAR THAT I'LL THROW U A SPECIAL BEAM CANNON, OR AN EARLY 2000'S TV

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Thank you guys, I guess you are right. I try to take any opportunity to talk about it or anything related. Last time I almost told her what I like but I got nervous and my brain and mouth stopped working, I just stared at her and couldn't say anything. I guess I have to work up my courage next time. Maybe if I gain more experience and confidence with omorashi I will try to talk to her again. But for now I honestly don't think I'd be able to tell her everything...

On 3/28/2021 at 6:38 AM, Mystic007 said:

My bf knows very well this situation, in fact he's like u, he wants me with a bursting bladder, me having an accidents, and sometimes he gets angry if I use the bathroom, but he was also very reluctant to tell about this kink on the first months of relationship. While on the first weeks he didn't show nothing about that, after he started for example, if we were late on a trip, he tried several times to blocking me before I got the chance to go to the bathroom, saying that we were sooo late and etc etc, also making me hold for all the trip, without any stops. Other times, during the few occasions that we ended up drunk, he was ready to not letting me go to the bathroom, not for much in this case, but still, quite annoying after 2 or more beers. I'm enough omo to not be concerned about this very much, except for one thing, because I know that (this didn't happened very ofter, so nothing too serious) sometimes I got pretty annoyed if I had to go when I went out with my bf, because I was pretty desperate and still he wanted me to hold it. We after talked about this argument, and at long last he admit it. I faked to be surprised and then after some other talk, he was pretty embarassed to talk about this kink, also because I was angry about that (I faked to be angry about that) in fact 30 minutes later) I said hey wanna see something cool? He said yes, and then I leaked some pee, and at first he was so excited, but shortly after he realized that there was the possiblity that I did this only to please him, and I said, luckily for you this is OUR kink, but only one thing, DON'T DO THIS WHEN I GET THE CYCLE, OR I SWEAR THAT I'LL THROW U A SPECIAL BEAM CANNON, OR AN EARLY 2000'S TV

It does sound like your boyfriend shares my interest and I have to admit I always have a strong desire to prevent my girlfriend from using the bathroom everytime she wants to go. But I find it very rude that your boyfriend actually acted upon it and actively tried to make you hold it. Even if I was into holding, I'd be really mad if someone forced me to hold. Afterall it's uncomfortable and can even put your health at risk. 

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I'm enough omo to not care most of the times, also due to covid restriction, we don't have the opportunity to go out regularly, we are lucky cause we have the oppurtunity to do usually once in 1-2weeks, so I don't feel that i'm stressing soooo much my bladder. Still due to covid restriction we literally didn't go out, so we met in my or his home, so even if he makes me hold until I pee myself, I don't care, I'm at home, we are both omo, how could possibly something can go wrong?

28 minutes ago, Telety said:

Thank you guys, I guess you are right. I try to take any opportunity to talk about it or anything related. Last time I almost told her what I like but I got nervous and my brain and mouth stopped working, I just stared at her and couldn't say anything. I guess I have to work up my courage next time. Maybe if I gain more experience and confidence with omorashi I will try to talk to her again. But for now I honestly don't think I'd be able to tell her everything...

The problem is that your gf isn't involved in the omo department, so she will go crazy if discovers your kink (or at least I think so based on my experiences before I became an omo)

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On 3/22/2021 at 7:48 PM, Telety said:

I appreciate your advice. Recently I kind of talked to her about it. We discussed different kind of kinks. Since she doesn't know the term omorashi I described to her what I like, or rather indicated that I would be willing to try things in this direction. She seemed uncomfortable and said she'd be open to various kind of kinks but she finds piss kinks and anything similar disgusting and wouldn't like it. 

I don't think I will address the topic again, she seemed really averse, and I don't think I can tell her that it's basically my main sexual interest and the only thing that turns me on apart from physical touch. 

It doesn't help that we are spending more and more time together, thinking about moving together. Because recently she developed this thing where she needs to pee from one second to another. She gets extremely desperate out of nowhere. I guess it's because of her caffeine intake. Most of the time she stays a few minutes before going because she likes to finish tasks. In that time she squirms and bounces a lot, is vocal about having to go badly and has this desperate look on her face which drives me crazy. I always have a strong urge to make her stay but now I know for sure that she wouldn't like it, even worse, would find it gross and would be uncomfortable with me getting turned on by it. I know I can't tell her to change her behaviour since she can't control her bodily functions. So telling her the whole thing wouldn't make a difference apart from making her even more uncomfortable and probably causing tension whenever she has to pee.  

I don't know what to do. I find myself in this situation almost every day and it's getting more and more frustrating. I definitely don't want to leave her, everything else is perfect in our relationship. Does one simply get used to seeing their partner desperate? We have an open relationship so I could try omorashi with other partners. But that doesn't solve the situation where she is getting desperate and I get stressed out because my mind is turning her into an object of my desire. I hate to phrase it like that but it really describes the way it feels. Plus I'm not really sexually attracted to anyone else except for her. 

 

It's sad that it didn't go the way you'd hoped, but it's still better than never knowing what might've been, and having the fact that you're into this as a deep dark secret that you feel guilty about. It can remain something you enjoy on your own or with others.

As for the way seeing her desperate feels, well... you're not pressuring her or doing anything to make her uncomfortable, just feeling a certain way when you see her desperate (and it's not like you can make her not desperate; last I checked, we all gotta go!) There's no harm in it, and as for her being an 'object of your desire,' well, aren't you both normally objects of each others' desire, and what if she was turned on by something you did that you didn't consider sexy? Like... to use what I hear is a common fetish as an example, let's say feet. What if she felt very excited every time you took your shoes off? Would you want her to feel the way you do over this about it?

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I had the same problem, @Telety, and our stories are a bit similar IMO.

Omorashi is something I've always enjoyed in private and masturbated to, but it never occurred to me to bring it into my (shared) sex life, and that didn't bother me in the slightest. Sex with my girlfriend had always been amazing and extremely fulfilling, nothing amiss, and it made me climax several times in ways I had never experienced before. I actually enjoyed the fact that I was able to keep my omorashi interest away from it because I feared things would become entangled in ways I didn't want them to.

Cut to an evening on the beach, a year ago before COVID restrictions. We'd been together for about four months at this point. We were drinking beers and there was a problem in the only working bathroom, so it shut down earlier than usual. I had just been to the loo so I was fine, but my girlfriend has a bit of a weak bladder (which I didn't know about until then) so she got super desperate in a matter of minutes. She decided to call an uber to her place and all but pulled me into the car by the hand - we had to leave so fast due to her desperation that I even forgot my wallet there! In the car she was bobbing up and down with her hands between her legs, cursing god and the heavens because the public restroom at the beach had closed early. We were literally 4 minutes away from her building when she yelled at the driver to stop because she wouldn't make it all the way and didn't want to wet his seat. I was so aroused by this point I was both dizzy and dumbfounded, and could barely help her or say anything truly comforting. She hobbled into a convenience store across the street and literally threw her purse at me, before running inside with both hands pressed between her legs. I just watched agape as she ran into their restroom without even bothering to ask any of the employees if she could.

Long story short, she didn't make it all the way. Her clear linen pants had a small damp spot when she came out - nothing too dramatic, I probably only noticed because I was specifically looking for it. She told me this happened sometimes and confessed she has some slight incontinence issues, which is the reason why she hates going anywhere that doesn't have plenty of working bathrooms. The only reason she agreed to drinks on the beach was because I suggested it, and she said she had been trying all night not to focus on the lack of toilets there. Because I'd always enjoyed omorashi in a private manner and never associated it to our relationship (or to her), I had never even noticed any of that until she told me directly.

When we got home that night, she told me about a very public and humiliating accident she had a couple years earlier, too long to write it down here. That situation really traumatized her, and she told me she had been scared it would happen again in that uber. I felt awful for being so aroused - both from witnessing her desperation and then hearing about her previous accident, her slight incontinence and inability to hold for long. For a few weeks, I thought about those situations everytime we had sex and/or when I masturbated, and it was amazing, but I also felt guilty as fuck for everything, like I was somehow getting off on her suffering.

My girlfried is a bit vanilla IMO, but willing to try most things once - except things relating to pee, humiliation, or anything that would make her feel "dirty" in a literal sense or remind her of that time when she publicly wet herself. When I say it's traumatic for her, I really mean it - during the past year we've practically moved in together, and I started to notice how she uses the bathroom several times before leaving any place and before going to sleep, how she doesn't drink even a sip of liquid when we take roadtrips (however short they might be), how she often even refuses to go anywhere where a bathroom might not be readily available. When I asked her about it she always said it was because of her accident, and that I already knew that.

I started getting more and more obsessed with the idea of her wetting herself in front of me as time went on, especially because I was trying so hard to push it down and hide it from her completely, but paradoxically it was something she herself mentioned often, as is the case for most people for whom the need to pee isn't a fetish or an obsession, bur rather just an everyday thing.

I found some ways of dealing with it and talking to her, without fully explaining omorashi, but in a way that made it bearable for me and not-uncomfortable for her. A middle ground for different sexual interests, really, that has worked for us so far... I feel like for every relationship those boundaries will inevitably be different, but I can share how I've been dealing with it if you're interested.

Best wishes for you and your girlfriend.

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On 3/30/2021 at 11:55 PM, Mystic007 said:

I'm enough omo to not care most of the times, also due to covid restriction, we don't have the opportunity to go out regularly, we are lucky cause we have the oppurtunity to do usually once in 1-2weeks, so I don't feel that i'm stressing soooo much my bladder. Still due to covid restriction we literally didn't go out, so we met in my or his home, so even if he makes me hold until I pee myself, I don't care, I'm at home, we are both omo, how could possibly something can go wrong?

The problem is that your gf isn't involved in the omo department, so she will go crazy if discovers your kink (or at least I think so based on my experiences before I became an omo)

Well then I guess your boyfriend got very lucky. Yeah, I know for sure my girlfriend would react differently. 

 

On 3/31/2021 at 3:29 AM, trekkie said:

 

It's sad that it didn't go the way you'd hoped, but it's still better than never knowing what might've been, and having the fact that you're into this as a deep dark secret that you feel guilty about. It can remain something you enjoy on your own or with others.

As for the way seeing her desperate feels, well... you're not pressuring her or doing anything to make her uncomfortable, just feeling a certain way when you see her desperate (and it's not like you can make her not desperate; last I checked, we all gotta go!) There's no harm in it, and as for her being an 'object of your desire,' well, aren't you both normally objects of each others' desire, and what if she was turned on by something you did that you didn't consider sexy? Like... to use what I hear is a common fetish as an example, let's say feet. What if she felt very excited every time you took your shoes off? Would you want her to feel the way you do over this about it?

I actually never thought about it that way. She has some kinks I do not share and I know she gets turned on by seemingly random things. The difference is that she wants me to degrade and torture her when it comes to her kinks, so I'm in a more powerful position, whereas my fetish involves her being powerless and suffering. But I guess you're right. As long as one doesn't harm others in any way, keeps it all in one's head there's no need to feel guilty. I guess I just have to get used to it. 

 

On 3/31/2021 at 3:40 PM, wtv said:

I had the same problem, @Telety, and our stories are a bit similar IMO.

Omorashi is something I've always enjoyed in private and masturbated to, but it never occurred to me to bring it into my (shared) sex life, and that didn't bother me in the slightest. Sex with my girlfriend had always been amazing and extremely fulfilling, nothing amiss, and it made me climax several times in ways I had never experienced before. I actually enjoyed the fact that I was able to keep my omorashi interest away from it because I feared things would become entangled in ways I didn't want them to.

Cut to an evening on the beach, a year ago before COVID restrictions. We'd been together for about four months at this point. We were drinking beers and there was a problem in the only working bathroom, so it shut down earlier than usual. I had just been to the loo so I was fine, but my girlfriend has a bit of a weak bladder (which I didn't know about until then) so she got super desperate in a matter of minutes. She decided to call an uber to her place and all but pulled me into the car by the hand - we had to leave so fast due to her desperation that I even forgot my wallet there! In the car she was bobbing up and down with her hands between her legs, cursing god and the heavens because the public restroom at the beach had closed early. We were literally 4 minutes away from her building when she yelled at the driver to stop because she wouldn't make it all the way and didn't want to wet his seat. I was so aroused by this point I was both dizzy and dumbfounded, and could barely help her or say anything truly comforting. She hobbled into a convenience store across the street and literally threw her purse at me, before running inside with both hands pressed between her legs. I just watched agape as she ran into their restroom without even bothering to ask any of the employees if she could.

Long story short, she didn't make it all the way. Her clear linen pants had a small damp spot when she came out - nothing too dramatic, I probably only noticed because I was specifically looking for it. She told me this happened sometimes and confessed she has some slight incontinence issues, which is the reason why she hates going anywhere that doesn't have plenty of working bathrooms. The only reason she agreed to drinks on the beach was because I suggested it, and she said she had been trying all night not to focus on the lack of toilets there. Because I'd always enjoyed omorashi in a private manner and never associated it to our relationship (or to her), I had never even noticed any of that until she told me directly.

When we got home that night, she told me about a very public and humiliating accident she had a couple years earlier, too long to write it down here. That situation really traumatized her, and she told me she had been scared it would happen again in that uber. I felt awful for being so aroused - both from witnessing her desperation and then hearing about her previous accident, her slight incontinence and inability to hold for long. For a few weeks, I thought about those situations everytime we had sex and/or when I masturbated, and it was amazing, but I also felt guilty as fuck for everything, like I was somehow getting off on her suffering.

My girlfried is a bit vanilla IMO, but willing to try most things once - except things relating to pee, humiliation, or anything that would make her feel "dirty" in a literal sense or remind her of that time when she publicly wet herself. When I say it's traumatic for her, I really mean it - during the past year we've practically moved in together, and I started to notice how she uses the bathroom several times before leaving any place and before going to sleep, how she doesn't drink even a sip of liquid when we take roadtrips (however short they might be), how she often even refuses to go anywhere where a bathroom might not be readily available. When I asked her about it she always said it was because of her accident, and that I already knew that.

I started getting more and more obsessed with the idea of her wetting herself in front of me as time went on, especially because I was trying so hard to push it down and hide it from her completely, but paradoxically it was something she herself mentioned often, as is the case for most people for whom the need to pee isn't a fetish or an obsession, bur rather just an everyday thing.

I found some ways of dealing with it and talking to her, without fully explaining omorashi, but in a way that made it bearable for me and not-uncomfortable for her. A middle ground for different sexual interests, really, that has worked for us so far... I feel like for every relationship those boundaries will inevitably be different, but I can share how I've been dealing with it if you're interested.

Best wishes for you and your girlfriend.

Our stories really are similar. What you described is exactly how things took course for me. Even your girlfriend's experiences and behaviour are quite similar to what I learned about my girlfriend in this case. I would love to hear how you've been dealing with this 🙂

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Well done for at least telling her. Either way, you don't have to spend the rest of your life hiding it as a secret and wondering 'what if'. I realised a long time ago that I can't be with anyone who isn't as kinky as me. They don't need to have all of my fetishes (there are many) and they don't have to be to the same detail, but they need to at least vaguely enjoy some things that I'm into or it won't work. Even when I've been very open about what I like and they've shown no interest, eventually the relationship fell apart as I still craved certain things and not having to hide it didn't really help.

I assume it's the same for people who just like regular sex. They might be willing to date/marry someone who had no sex drive and hide the fact that they liked sex. Or they might at least be honest about wanting sex, even though they knew their partner wouldn't. But I think in the long run it would cause problems. You would end up being incredibly frustrated and then resentful. I've found it's better for me to remain single than be with someone who isn't into the same kinks. You can both be lovely people, but still incompatible as partners.

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