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Why do we have this fetish?


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I'm sure this question has been discussed at length already, so sorry if it's repetitive, but it's a question that I've been asking myself for years. Also my first post here so... yey I guess?? xd and a little apology to kyuu or Kozmo who has to read through everything I post... I'm almost at 7 tho! You're both doing a great job!¬†ūüėĀ

I've both read and heard that fetishes like this may develop from certain childhood experiences, although I don't really know if it's true or if there's any research to back it up. 

I do personally have some childhood memories that probably have affected me quite a bit. I wasn't really incontinent as a kid and I can only recall having full accidents about just a handful of times, not more than usual for a kid. However, it was very common for me to have small leaks during the day, not big enough to be visible for others. It would leave my underwear wet for some considerable time and since it happened rather frequently I eventually just got used to my underwear being wet. Walking around with peed underwear frequently probably had a bigger impact on me than I realised. It stopped later when I entered my teens and I discovered I had this fetish, but funny enough the leaks were so normal for me at the time that it didn't even occur to me that this may have caused it to begin with until recently. 

It's likely not the only reason why I've got this fetish, but I wonder if anyone else has any similar memories that may have affected them. Do you think we have this fetish because of childhood experiences or is it maybe some other reason? 
 

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    Well for me its a weird story as this is somewhat of a newer fetish for me? I have a few that are both based in reality and then in complete fiction. So I believe this came to be due to eventually moving from a more fantasy like approach to kinks to being more realistic, however the weirdness or I guess my tastes in unconventional fetishes still came up. I recall first being interested when I was around 17, the school placed a gate at the bathrooms due to people smoking pot in between classes. This caused many desperate instances that I recall to this day. That was the spark, but my full indulgence happened when my ex really needed to pee. We where in a car by ourselves so she acted differently that say in public, she has been desperate but not in this situation. Her moans and her squirming 100% confirmed yep I like this, liked it since i was a teen and I love it now.

    The aspects of this fetish appeal to a few of my other kinks:

.I am a very dominate person when it comes to sex and foreplay. Having a gal beg me and moan form them to let them go before they burst appeals to that side of me in bed.

.Usually they have to drink quite a bit which causing their stomach to sometimes bloat up, I have a fetish for that. I recall rubbing my ex and current gfs stomach if it was super bloated which is 10/10 for me.

.Depending on the person their bladder would bulge so my bloating fetish again.

.The motions they make when they are desperate, the squirming motions and leg bouncing or crossing. My current gf when ever we do my kink which is rare she sit on my lap when she does that. Pretty much she is at my mercy so my dom side kicks in again.

Note i only ever feel these things and feelings toward my gf at the time. Random women who are desperate, it interests me quite a bit but I will act normal and assist them to get to a toilet like any normal person. Oh also this is only for desperation, not into wetting sounds messy.

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It could be different for each person.

For some it could be experiences, or witnessed events. For some it could be something about the way it feels (for those into wetting themselves). It could be the plain "naughtiness" of it after being trained to avoid it, or, on a similar note, the fact that the network considers pee to be inherently sexual (despite it apparently not being or else it wouldn't be called a fetish) and on the same levels as nudity (except butt nudity, which is lower) so that it can't be shown on TV except on purely mature channels. Or some people could just be born with it.

For me? I had a "wet and messy" interest for as long as I can remember. I don't remember what started it, but I do remember that wetting was a "dirtier" branch of this interest, and while wam never became a fetish for me (despite me only really being interested when applied to myself or females), wetting became my biggest fetish once I was old enough to be aroused, feeling a lot "dirtier" than getting wet with water or even covered in mud. (Of course I would fight it because I thought wetting oneself was completely horrible and even though I'd do it all the time I thought I was really weird for it, and in any event - back then and now today - I would be mortified to wet myself in front of anyone. But I later found out that my fetish had a name and that there were many others of both genders into all aspects of it, including both female wettings and engaging in it themselves, and I know I'd never force it on anyone)

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I think it's to do with it being "wrong". Knowing that it's something we've been taught not to do, but beyond that, something that we kind of have to learn. It's not like how stealing is morally wrong and we're told not to do it. It's that it's just not how we're supposed to function as people. Also I think that anybody, whether they have the fetish or not, would admit that pissing feels great. Especially if you're really desperate. I think that enhances the feeling. Some people are turned on by pain, which is great but it's not a universal thing. Most of us couldn't relate to that. Pissing feels great, warm liquid against your skin feels great, and that is universal. So releasing a long held wee, via your genitals, and getting covered in warm liquid. It's a self-perpetuating fetish. Pretty much everything about it is universally pleasing, and the pleasure is exponential.

Ultimately though it must be different for everyone. Some people here seem to have been into it since being young, only then I suppose it was just something enjoyable and it later developed into a sexual thing. I have a few memories of being a kid and pissing myself accidentally (though I imagine it happened loads, there only three that I remember) but they never led to me wanting to do it more. In fact, when I first got into pee as a fetish it was from seeing a video of a girl peeing. It wasn't until years later that I actually thought about possibly wanting to piss myself. I honestly always put any fetishes such as this down to me not having basically any sex life while I was younger. Venturing into different sub-genres of porn to fill the hole left by not having any actual physical contact with women. I guess there's no way to know whether that theory's right or not.

I also think I could have just been really repressed all my life (I definitely have been) and I could have subconsciously been fending off the idea that I like piss when I was younger because of how wrong it apparently was. Even now. I got my first waterproof mattress protector a couple of months ago after finding it tedious have to put towels down and worry about not getting any piss on the actual mattress. I've always thought I just liked being pissed on/pissing on myself, all just as a sexual thing: I'll piss on myself and wank off, then I'm done. It's only since looking around this website for the last few weeks that I've suddenly become really interested in prolonged wetting, not even for sexual purposes (though that's probably where it's going to lead, let's face it), and re-wetting, and desperation which I've never really looked much into before, thinking that I had no interest in it. I even ordered a free adult nappy sample so I can try that out.

I suppose I don't really have a satisfying conclusion. I think everyone has different reasons, but whatever they are, it could be that there are some kinks that were born in you years ago and could yet be stirred to the surface (I'm such a poet).

 

(I actually wrote out descriptions of the experiences I remember but realised that it was going to be a very long post (even longer than this one already is? yes) and not necessarily relevant so I didn't post them... but if you want me to I will)

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I think the previous post is a big part of it, even subconsciously, for most people. A lot of kinks tend to be exciting because they break social norms and taboos, which can be a very exhilarating and primal experience. For example, I remember reading raceplay/interracial type fetishes are actually more common in areas of significant racial divide, or where there is stigma against interracial relationships. This would support the kinky-humans-like-taboo-stuff hypothesis. 

That aside, for me personally, it's all about submission. Like, holding until you physically can't anymore (I'm not personally a fan of wetting 'by choice') is a really vulnerable and humbling sort of experience. Like, when your bladder decides "I don't care what you want, I'm going to release" it just makes you (or at least me) feel very small and submissive and helpless. Like, having your brain just lose control of such an intimate process of your body just brings up so many feelings. 

And, of course, omo can dovetail with a lot of other areas of Dom-sub fetishes. Like, there is some masochism with full bladder pain. The opportunities for humiliation and teasing are pretty obvious. Letting someone else control your bladder seems like a very intimate and personal form of submission. While I don't know if I'd ever be brave enough do public stuff, I can definitely see how holding (or even wetting) in public gives you the opportunity to experience some of the feelings of fear/risk and embarrassment that come along with exhibitionist stuff, but you are far less likely to offend someone or get arrested to holding in public than like, sex or nudity in public. 

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4 hours ago, Tall Cake said:

I think it's to do with it being "wrong". Knowing that it's something we've been taught not to do, but beyond that, something that we kind of have to learn.

This is . . . probably very close to the case for me.  

I've mentioned before that I don't wear diapers.  Why?  Because there's nothing "wrong" with peeing in a diaper.  It's literally their intended purpose.  If you know you're going to pee in your pants, you put on a diaper. 

...but not me, because I don't want to pee in a garment that's meant to be peed in.  I want to pee in one that specifically isn't, and the wetter it gets, the better!

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I definitely disagree on diapers. They're fun, convenient, and comfortable, and they let me have Omorashi fun when I'm wearing a nice skirt or dress I don't want to ruin. But we have a saying, 10 people 10 colours.

I think being into Omorashi is just a series of lucky coincidences for me. I like the feeling of a full bladder, especially masturbating or sex on it, and I met a friend at my sports club at university who is into Omorashi and we do holding contests and wet ourselves together, which is really fun. It's really rare for someone to be openly into it, and to have someone to share that with is great. Also I had some embarrassing accidents while out with my husband before I married him, and I think having accidents in that situation made it really sexual for me. Especially with messing. I think the time I humiliated myself in front of him by pooing in my skirt on a date really left a massive impact on me. I remember being so horny from the shame, and having taken off my panties and going home with a bare pussy, that from then on messing was so erotic to me. I wasn't at all into Omorashi as a child and I only ever saw my mom have a few accidents, and those were just funny to me. I don't think that had much impact. It was something I got into as an adult.

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I think I could go either way on nappies. I haven't tried properly yet so I can't say for sure, but it sounds quite fun to wear a nappy and just let go it when I need to. Maybe more than once. If I'm just sitting in my room then I'm still peeing somewhere I'm not supposed to, it's just that it's going into a nappy instead of on the floor. That's another reason why it's appealing to me. As much fun as the mess is, it needs to be cleaned up. A nappy would make that a lot easier, and mean that I could do it more often.
That being said, I wouldn't trade one for the other. Pissing in the bed, or in pants, or both, is wonderful. Like I say, cleaning up is a hassle, but worth it (if it's not every night).

I like the idea of pissing in a comfortable location more than anything. I don't have a lot of options for making a mess that I can fully enjoy and easily clean up later. Doing it in the bath doesn't appeal to me. It seems too calculated and sterile. In the comfort of my bed is where it's at, normally just on the mattress protector, but if I can do it in a nappy and save the huge clean up, I think I'll enjoy that too.

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I'm a bed wetting fan but the clean up is so awful I always wear a diaper to sleep now. I wet the bed sleeping with my husband in it once when we were dating and I was drunk and it was such a mess. He's normally into my accidents but he was mostly just annoyed. It really put me off doing it without a diaper on.

Now, snuggling up to him with a diaper under my dress, and just letting go...that's a lot of fun.

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For me, I mostly like the feeling of embarrassment. Peeing is something that everyone tries to not acknowledge. Not to mention peeing yourself, which is something everyone would shame you for wetting yourself once you've become an adult. The idea of defying social norms turns people on for this fetish, and is also likely a reason people have other fetishes. It could also be the feeling of humiliation, which some people like even without omo.

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6 hours ago, SoggyShorts said:

This is . . . probably very close to the case for me.  

I've mentioned before that I don't wear diapers.  Why?  Because there's nothing "wrong" with peeing in a diaper.  It's literally their intended purpose.  If you know you're going to pee in your pants, you put on a diaper. 

...but not me, because I don't want to pee in a garment that's meant to be peed in.  I want to pee in one that specifically isn't, and the wetter it gets, the better!

I kinda get where you are coming from, but at the same time, I think the little experience I have had with diapers is fun.  I think it's the whole you were supposed to have grown out of them thing.  I think that's why I might imagine various bondage situations where I'm forced into a diaper and then eventually forced to use it as intended.  The idea is that you are forcing yourself to hold it because you don't want to be humiliated and wet your diaper, but prove that you can hold it.  But eventually, you will have an accident and wet your diaper to your humiliation.  It's not everyone's cup of pee, but there is certainly a niche for it.

 

4 hours ago, OmorashiOnna said:

I'm a bed wetting fan but the clean up is so awful I always wear a diaper to sleep now. I wet the bed sleeping with my husband in it once when we were dating and I was drunk and it was such a mess. He's normally into my accidents but he was mostly just annoyed. It really put me off doing it without a diaper on.

Now, snuggling up to him with a diaper under my dress, and just letting go...that's a lot of fun.

I never did any night time bed wetting (though I have peed while on a bed).  I have seen several videos involving facesitting while wearing a diaper and wetting it while sitting on someone's face.  I also think it would be amazing to be spooning at night with a woman wearing a diaper pressed against you and then feel that gentle vibration as the pee hits the diaper and feel the ecstatic warmth growing against the front of your pants as her increasingly wet diaper pushes against your lap.

Never tried it myself, but if you wear a diaper to bed and your partner is spooning with you, they are incredibly lucky to get to experience that with you.

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As a matter of fact, I can pinpoint the exact sequence of events that turned me into an omo lover (or at least awakened the fetish I might have ended up with anyway).

Being a curious kid, I'd try to reason my way through things I didn't understand or have enough context to understand. Somewhere along the line I got the idea that boys just peed on girl's crotches and that was "sex". 

A little later on around 10-11, I started masturbating in the shower (even tho I didn't know it at the time) by running the water flow over the head of my penis. It made it felt like I had to pee until it reached a peak where my muscles contracted (orgasm), so I would RP in my mind that I was in the bathroom needing to pee, trying to get my pants off and failing. I don't know why, it just came to mind and I rolled with it. 

Probably around 13, probably in a horny daze, I wondered what it would be like to pee in my pants. During a rare time where my parents were both outside, I had to pee, and I also had laundry to do (I was doing my own chores very young!), I stood in the shower, and after a few minutes of fighting my natural instinct to hold I let loose a wonderful warm wave into my crotch. After that I was hooked.

I think around 14 or so, I discovered a half-used bag of adult nighttime diapers that my grandma (already passed at that time, may she RIP) had left behind. I snuck one of those out and tried peeing in those, and fucking loved it; at this point I would lay a dry one out flat on my bed, and hump it until I came into the padding, reusing the same diaper probably 5-6 times before using it for a big pee and then discretely throwing it into the dumpster. Unfortunately, even with rationing, this only lasted about 3-4 months before the bag was used up and I had no way to get new ones until like 6 years later.

Even without having access to diapers (which I vastly prefer), I would still make wetting a weekly thing. I'd time my loads of laundry to coincide with my shower times, that way I could hold for quite a few hours, load up on fluids, then go into the shower and wet my jeans. Often put 6 or 7 pairs of underwear on, or stuffed some wash cloths in there to recreate the warm bulky diaper-feel.

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When it comes to diapers I feel pretty much the same as @Tall Cake
I could really go either way. The idea of wetting yourself wherever and whenever you want without anyone noticing without making a mess does sound appealing to me. I don't know for sure, as I haven't tried it. I'm also not sure it would be as enjoyable as wetting for me personally, though. I'm open to the idea at least and I can definitely see the appeal.

15 hours ago, Tall Cake said:

(I actually wrote out descriptions of the experiences I remember but realised that it was going to be a very long post (even longer than this one already is? yes) and not necessarily relevant so I didn't post them... but if you want me to I will)

Also I'd be interested to read about your experiences, so do post them if you want!

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According to Havelock Ellis (see here), one of the greatest sexologists of all time (himself a urophile), it all depends on the relationship with the mother. He once saw his mother who, in dire need of peeing, urinated standing up in a park while he looked at her. She knew he was looking at her, and it was as if she were incestuously flirting with him.

It happened to me, in the fifth grade, that, coming back from a long school trip, a little girl I liked was in a row for the toilet in front of me: she was holding her legs and modestly whispering: I can't hold anymore, I'm about to piss myself... She run into the bathroom, and I heard the rustle of her dress while she was lifting it up, a deep sigh and the roar of her very long piss. Then she didn't pull the water (I think she did it on purpose), I went in after her and saw and smelled her urine, and the effluvium of her vagina, which was surely already a little wet when she finally peed. 

Another time, always in the same year, under the pool shower a beautiful girl in a swimsuit told me, under that plentiful roar, that she had to pee badly, that she could no longer hold it; so she spread her legs a little, she closed her blue eyes, she bowed her blonde head, and let her piss flow out, with a subdued aaaah.

These two episodes made a durable impact on me.

Our erotic imagery is always shaped by childhood.

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7 minutes ago, Peegasm said:

According to Havelock Ellis (see here), one of the greatest sexologists of all time (himself a urophile), it all depends on the relationship with the mother. He once saw his mother who, in dire need of peeing, urinated standing up in a park while he looked at her. She knew he was looking at her, and it was as if she were incestuously flirting with him.

Yes! I've actually been reading up on Ellis' work! In The Psychology of Sex vol. 7 he talks at length about pee and wetting fetishism. It's a very interesting read that I definitely would recommend to anyone who hasn't read it yet!

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10 hours ago, Viridis said:

 I'm also not sure it would be as enjoyable as wetting for me personally, though. I'm open to the idea at least and I can definitely see the appeal.

Yeah, I don't think I'd enjoy it as much, but I imagine enough that it's still worth doing to save cleaning up after.

10 hours ago, Viridis said:

Also I'd be interested to read about your experiences, so do post them if you want!

I'll try to remember. I typed it up on my tablet and now I'm at the computer. It's still on my tablet though so I'll try to remember to post them when I'm using that.

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I can remember my kindergarten telling us how boys and girls peed differently, and that switched something on in my brain.

 

I can remember any cartoon or TV show that had a character desperate to use the bathroom made me feel kinda funny.

 

Some of the first porn I looked at online involved urination, and it's been a fetish of mine ever since.

 

I'm not into wetting, diapers, bondage, and some other things this fetish involves, but desperation, just made it scenarios, and peeing outdoors are some of my favorite things, and I'm glad to be a part of this community

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17 hours ago, ilikeadultvids said:

I kinda get where you are coming from, but at the same time, I think the little experience I have had with diapers is fun.  I think it's the whole you were supposed to have grown out of them thing.  I think that's why I might imagine various bondage situations where I'm forced into a diaper and then eventually forced to use it as intended.  The idea is that you are forcing yourself to hold it because you don't want to be humiliated and wet your diaper, but prove that you can hold it.  But eventually, you will have an accident and wet your diaper to your humiliation.  It's not everyone's cup of pee, but there is certainly a niche for it.

 

I never did any night time bed wetting (though I have peed while on a bed).  I have seen several videos involving facesitting while wearing a diaper and wetting it while sitting on someone's face.  I also think it would be amazing to be spooning at night with a woman wearing a diaper pressed against you and then feel that gentle vibration as the pee hits the diaper and feel the ecstatic warmth growing against the front of your pants as her increasingly wet diaper pushes against your lap.

Never tried it myself, but if you wear a diaper to bed and your partner is spooning with you, they are incredibly lucky to get to experience that with you.

Actually we were kissing face to face and I really had to pee, and I got so excited I just starting peeing in my diaper. I told him I had an accident and we ended up having sex, ha ha. I'm so turned on after I have an accident like that.

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2 hours ago, OmorashiOnna said:

Actually we were kissing face to face and I really had to pee, and I got so excited I just starting peeing in my diaper. I told him I had an accident and we ended up having sex, ha ha. I'm so turned on after I have an accident like that.

Lucky guy.  Thank you for sharing.

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I'm pretty sure it's related to how much I used to accidentally pee myself as a kid.

 

Then I just kinda figured it out slowly as a teenager. I went from "gee clothed sex is pretty hot" to "gee what if those clothes were wet" to the logical conclusion.

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I've have heard that it stems from your childhood and I think that's where it stemmed from in me.
I know personally I was always a weird child and I remember vividly being intrigued by pee. I would always try to pee in inappropriate places outside and I even remembered having a childhood best friend when I was 5-7 and one of our favorite things to do was go behind the slide of his playset and dig a hole in the sand and pee in it. Sometimes he would do it, sometimes I would do it, and sometimes I would hold his dick while he peed. 
I didn't start thinking of it in a sexual nature until I was about 12 and at first I just liked the omorashi aspect of it and I liked looking up anime wetting pictures and I thought I wouldn't mind the thought of peeing myself or having someone do a hold and pee in front of me. Then I was like okay, I wouldn't mind someone peeing one me from the knees down, in a bathtub/shower. From there when I was about 20 I got more curious and the thought of someone full-on peeing on me aroused me quite a bit. And as of Now I think I'd like someone to pee IN me. (I still don't like the idea of being pee on around my face or pee drinking, but who knows, only time will tell when I actually indulge these fantasies and am in a placed where I'm really aroused.)

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