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Welcome to the site @emmyg!

I can relate on a few counts here. For starters, the feeling of shame is something that's always bothered me since I began to have omo/diaper interests in my mid teens. I was already a shy guy, and this made me feel even weirder.

I too only watch omo related porn. The "vanilla" stuff does nothing for me. I'm relatively specific with what I like, although it tends to change from time to time. I also don't like anime either and have nothing against it.

I'm in my late twenties now and as I've gotten older I've just learned to accept myself more. I still struggle with self-worth and social anxiety, but that's a whole other thing. We're not hurting anyone with what we're doing. People may find it weird, but who cares? Everyone likes different things. Just be you, because you're awesome.

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I've been ashamed of it too. Not so much for being niche, but for simply liking something like wetting at all. (Partly because I like to do it myself, partly because I felt I was fantasizing about and taking pleasure in something horrrible at the thought of girls wetting themselves)

I've later come to accept it, in part by reading comments like what I'm about to say: It's part of who you are, and it's really nothing to be ashamed of. As long as you're not forcing anyone to wet themselves or making them uncomfortable or peeing on someone else's property, there's nothing wrong with it, it's completely harmless. Including any kinds of omo fantasies about fictional characters. Pee isn't anywhere near as evil as we've been led to believe growing up, a side effect of potty training. (Though to this day I still haven't told anyone I know IRL about either side of my wetting fetish, and would hate to wet myself in front of anyone despite how much I love doing it when no one's around, so I can definitely understand keeping it hidden from anyone you know IRL.

Hopefully talking to other users here, reading their posts, stories, or experiences, can help. (Though you'll need a few more posts approved before all your "newbie" restrictions are lifted, every newcomer gets them to make sure the creeps stay out) I know I was nervous posting my first omo fanfic, and even after joining here it took me a while to admit that I love wetting myself. (And I'm not the only one here)

I, too, am put off by actual sexual content including nudity, despite omo definitely being a fetish for me. To interest me they have to be wetting themselves without actually showing any nudity.

Would you like to say what your preferences are? If you don't want to, you don't have to.

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14 hours ago, emmyg said:

Sorry guys, my first post and I'm not contributing to the fun I enjoy on here. I am female, professional, and while I don't think fetishes have a "type" it just baffles and embarrasses me. Nothing against those who are at all but I'm not into anime, or anything of the like. I don't watch porn except omo related. I have really strong, specific likes in the fetish and kind of get really put off by other aspects. The niches that get me make me feel really ashamed. Not enough not to engage but even typing this makes me nervous. I see so many people on here just embracing and exploring and I'm wondering if you ever felt like this, how did you get past it?

I'm still trying to figure it all out. I go through cycles of self loathing and acceptance. I may also be clinically depressed for what its worth. Not because of omorashi but I don't think it helps.

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I also struggle with shame and I spent a period of time not letting myself think about it and feeling guilty whenever it crossed my mind (fueled by OCD and paranoia that people could read my mind). I had pride in my identity as an intelligent student etc and it didn't fit with my idea of myself and it wasn't until I hit a mental health rock bottom that I no longer had any pride and embraced it again. I associated it with my poor mental health and saw it as a part of me being "deviant" and "wrong". But eventually my mental health improved and I've come to see that it's not that big a deal. It's just a thing that I enjoy. It's just one thing that I do for fun, among many other things that I do for both fun and work. I think it's easy to look at the people on a site like this and assume their whole life revolves around this but really it only looks that way because that's the focus of the site. Everyone else here has jobs, degrees, families, things that are more important to them. But we're here to discuss this thing we enjoy. 

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I don't have a fetish, but I do have a friend who does, and nearly all of my accidents are natural. I really joined for emotional support I barely get IRL. After the accidents started, it took me about a year to accept them as part of who I was and another year to open up to anyone about it. My parents knew about it, of course, but they were more annoyed about it than anything.

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1 hour ago, silvermoon said:

I don't have a fetish, but I do have a friend who does, and nearly all of my accidents are natural. I really joined for emotional support I barely get IRL. After the accidents started, it took me about a year to accept them as part of who I was and another year to open up to anyone about it. My parents knew about it, of course, but they were more annoyed about it than anything.

Oh. Really sorry to hear about all that and I might not be the best for emotional support but I hope you're able to find it here.

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It’s been an area of significant growth for me through my twenties. I went from being very picky in my omo Interests, to being very open minded and enjoying a more broad spectrum. However, if it doesn’t suite you, you don’t have to participate. That’s the beauty of it. You can indulge as much or as little as you see fit at any given time. There’s no one-size-fits-all in any fetish. Just enjoy what you enjoy while your here. 

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2 hours ago, Brotaku said:

It’s been an area of significant growth for me through my twenties. I went from being very picky in my omo Interests, to being very open minded and enjoying a more broad spectrum. However, if it doesn’t suite you, you don’t have to participate. That’s the beauty of it. You can indulge as much or as little as you see fit at any given time. There’s no one-size-fits-all in any fetish. Just enjoy what you enjoy while your here. 

^ This. If having a very specific preference is what you're ashamed of, I'm sure you'll find someone here who can appreciate the same. This site is for all types of omo. (Though of course there are some scenarios that should remain fantasy but fantasizing about it is harmless)

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Yeah, I think it’s pretty normal to feel weird about it. I mean, it’s not like it’s something popular and normalised, like, say, video gaming. It’s its own thing, and I guess if it’s something you don’t want to be apart of you, you could probably make that happen. But it’s either that or find happiness in it, which can obviously still be a problem when you’re so unsure about.

As much I absolutely love it, it’s definitely something I struggle to be open about, not even on the internet with basically complete anonymity, and certainly not around people I know irl. 
 

At the end of the day, whether or not you feel confused in any way about it, if it’s something you enjoy, then enjoy it! 😁

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I understand. For me, there's an extra layer of awkwardness in having this kink. Things like foot fetishes, BDSM are still taboo but seem to be more accepted in general sexual communities, whereas stuff involving urine still seems taboo even in those circles.

 

That being said, I am very glad I found online communities to help me discuss omo, it has really helped me accept this part of my sexuality.

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Emmyg,

I think I found the need to straighten out my ideas about sex when I was a teenager. I was a Christian back then, and I believed that God did not want people to masturbate. I had a couple of attempts to stop, and neither lasted longer than about 10 days! This made me think hard about what was genuinely shameful and what wasn't. I realised that some things - like omo - were perfectly OK, but very embarrassing to reveal to the wrong person. I think not making that distinction causes a lot of confusion and pain.

I think the idea of professional women enjoying omo is wonderful! I once got chatting be email with a woman who was probably rather similar to you. She 'confessed' to peeing a little bit in hotel beds. I pointed out that if she looked carefully she would discover that every hotel mattress (at least in the major chains) is really well protected - so she could enjoy a serious wetting without damaging anything. She did this and even sent me a picture of her bed in the morning. She also confessed to being hooked, by the experience and was going to repeat it. I understand she left the maid a decent tip, and heard nothing from the hotel about her naughtiness.

We are all sexual beings, and sometimes that comes out in quirky ways. It is best to enjoy the harmless fun. Why not contribute here by writing some fiction? It is exciting to write down some of your innermost 'dirty' thoughts, and then watch others discuss them - or even implement them!

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I have a professional and very public job that even has me in the media spot light at times. It’s why we all have aliases for our protection. 
I did feel guilt as a woman for a number of years especially for enjoying seeing men really desperate to pee but I reasoned I was t the one causing their struggle nor was I actively making things harder for them say by denying them access to a bathroom. 
Only omo porn does anything for me and only genuine desperation too, particularly male. I don’t feel guilty about watching that because the person has readily made it because they want to share and may even get some sort of sexual gratification from knowing others like me are watching. 
you might not realise this but every single person carries guilt. For some that’s as innocent as feeling guilty for shouting at their kids or coming home with the office pen by accident but fir most it’s much much bigger things. If we truly had the ability to see others minds and see what they were thinking and getting pleasure from you would be amazed. 
well done for joining and huge welcome. Hopefully seeing how many of us there are alone is enough to bring you comfort that you are neither strange, shameful or alone in any way. 

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4 hours ago, Mbgpeelover said:

Only omo porn does anything for me and only genuine desperation too, particularly male. I don’t feel guilty about watching that because the person has readily made it because they want to share and may even get some sort of sexual gratification from knowing others like me are watching. 

This is exactly why I post on this site and a couple others. For my own desperation  sometimes to the point of wetting  to be truly arousing I hope it is enjoyed by females.

I have been sexually aroused by pee since I discovered sex.  While I often wondered why , I was never ashamed by my kink. It felt awesome some 20 plus years ago when the internet showed I was not the only one. It is not something I broadcast but it is great to share my love of pee desperation with like minded folks.

Now at age 68 I don't care so much what others think of my fetish.

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On 9/14/2020 at 8:30 AM, emmyg said:

Sorry guys, my first post and I'm not contributing to the fun I enjoy on here. I am female, professional, and while I don't think fetishes have a "type" it just baffles and embarrasses me. Nothing against those who are at all but I'm not into anime, or anything of the like. I don't watch porn except omo related. I have really strong, specific likes in the fetish and kind of get really put off by other aspects. The niches that get me make me feel really ashamed. Not enough not to engage but even typing this makes me nervous. I see so many people on here just embracing and exploring and I'm wondering if you ever felt like this, how did you get past it?

I am female too. I like to think we all have our own sexual interests, and as long as it doesnt hurt anyone, we should embrace it.

For me personally, I stopped felingcashamed after I met my boyfriend and discovered by chance he was also into omo. Since then, I have felt more and more comfortable, and now I really embrace it. To the point where one if our female friends comes out with us to watch me wet myself while he films me, and then I'll sit in the car in wet jeans for the rest of the evening and just hang out and chat and have a laugh.

I think your own attitude towards a fetish directly affects how other people around you perceive it.

If you treat it as just a bit of fun, most others who find out also see it that way. 🙂 I think a very large amount of people secretly have fetishes. It's very normal, just happens some people see things as more taboo than others. 

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1 hour ago, AliceWetting said:

 🙂I think a very large amount of people secretly have fetishes. It's very normal, just happens some people see things as more taboo than others. 

I think this is very true, and it is only those fetishes that have a genuine negative effect on others that need to be avoided - above all, paedophilia.

Even plain vanilla sex involves doing things that are 'abnormal' by everyday standards. I once heard a clip on the radio in which a girl of about 9 explained how disgusting she thought adult kissing was! She insisted that putting your tongue in someone else's mouth was something she would absolutely never do! Since that was a fair few years back, I dare say she changed her mind at some point! Somehow the fact that something would be normally disgusting, adds to its attraction when turned on.

My partner, who sadly more or less lost her interest in sex after the menopause, says, "Oh I used to go a bit mad for a while!"

 

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I've been on this site for like ten years... and honestly it was like a porn site to me at first... but then i notice the art that came from it... people get on here and write there own stories, produce there own artwork, and speak openly about there insecurities. All while remaining anonymous.. nothings black and white.. i say add it to your arsenal its just another tool to help you. But yeah i just now posted some stuff for the first time this year... 

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On 9/14/2020 at 11:22 PM, Bravestone said:

I'm still trying to figure it all out. I go through cycles of self loathing and acceptance. I may also be clinically depressed for what its worth. Not because of omorashi but I don't think it helps.

If there is one thing you must know after browsing here, it is that you are in a big group of friends - who accept you completely!

 

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18 minutes ago, David_E said:

I think this is very true, and it is only those fetishes that have a genuine negative effect on others that need to be avoided - above all, paedophilia.

Even plain vanilla sex involves doing things that are 'abnormal' by everyday standards. I once heard a clip on the radio in which a girl of about 9 explained how disgusting she thought adult kissing was! She insisted that putting your tongue in someone else's mouth was something she would absolutely never do! Since that was a fair few years back, I dare say she changed her mind at some point! Somehow the fact that something would be normally disgusting, adds to its attraction when turned on.

My partner, who sadly more or less lost her interest in sex after the menopause, says, "Oh I used to go a bit mad for a while!"

 

Couldnt agree more 😊

Fetishes add a level of excitement to things like nothing else does!

For me, it still hasnt lost its appeal of naughtyness even when I've done it regularly. It still drives me wild! 

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I used to be really embarrassed by my fetish and hoped it would go away when I was like 15/16. Even now that I have basically accepted this part of my life i'm still reluctant to talk about it with people even anonymously. I think a lot of it from my own point of view is from a misunderstanding in the wider public when it comes to basically any fetish (and possibly my own) and what it would do to me socially if people found out. Especially because Im a reserved pretty plain person in real life, so I think it might be more of a shock than if it came from a more outwardly sexual person. But at the same time I've somewhat come to terms with it as a porn fetish even if its not a real life thing for me.


As for specific likes and dislikes I think that is pretty common in any fetish, especially one that can be as broad as this. Even in regular sex people will have favourite positions or acts, or favourite categories they search on porn websites, so Its kind of like that in my mind. Im sure a lot of people that wouldn't consider themselves to have a fetish search far more extreme stuff than they have done in real life because they have a fantasy to do it. The only reason that its not considered a fetish is because it probably still involves "typical" sex, even if less people do it than partake in this fetish. Something that put my mind slightly at ease was realising that most major porn websites have a category for this sort of thing, and if so many users are uploading and watching content that they have to put it up there with "brunette" "Toys" or other more explicit categories then this fetish probably isnt as niche as we might all think. 

 
Although as mentioned in some of the other comments this fetish definitely has its fair share of not ok / completely immoral minefields, its why I more or less dont browse the videos section of this form any more. All too frequently the ugly heads appear and can make me more ashamed of this fetish because there are people in it that push it way too far for my liking. But then on the other side there are amazing threads like this one! So at least for me its important to remember how other people behave in this fetish / forum isn't a reflection of you as a person even if you share the same fetish.

If you are a good person in everyday life and have a pee fetish, it doesn't undo everything else!

 

Bit of a tangent from here on out but I thought it might help? sorry if it doesn't. 

I've only ever told 3 people about this fetish, all previous girlfriends / current girlfriend and two of them were not open minded or didn't want to talk about it because they thought it was some kind of voyeuristic prevention. In their minds they were expecting me to find any desperate sighting arousing but thats not the case at least for me. One of those is my current girlfriend of 4 years, but after I talked to her about it openly she now thinks its just like any other fetish. She herself has a big BDSM kink so that might be why she was more receptive to changing her mind but the other was as straight as the come and was ok with it although we didnt talk about it.

The way I explained it to her/ talked about it was to explain in the same way that if as a heterosexual who enjoys regular porn you go shopping and two people started having sex in the middle of the isle, most peoples responses wouldn't be "thats so hot" it would be "what the fu*k are you doing" / running away red faced. Likewise with BDSM, if you see someone tied up 99.99% of people in that community would go over and check the person is ok because at the end of the day even if you have a fetish you are still a human being under it. Once someone realises its more like just a porn category / sex act that you like, I think it normalises it with them a lot and might hopefully do the same with yourself? (Assuming im not just talking out my Arse / just about me at this point)

As you talk about with Omo, BDSM and im sure other fetishes have lots of sub genres that people can be into or not into and for my current partner there are parts of her fetishes that I 100% will not take part in like Choking and actually hitting her during sex (Massive turn offs for me) and she doesn't expect me too. In the same way I dont expect her to join in with this fetish because she isn't into it. It's all about respecting peoples boundaries and spending the time to understand them, even when it comes to our own fetishes.

 

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