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Do I like guys?

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I’m female, and I know I like girls. The thing is I don’t know if I like guys. I really like male omorashi, sometimes I even prefer it, but when I think about kissing a guy or doing other stuff I don’t know how I feel about it.

I’m really confused and would love for some input!

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If you're not sure and curious, the best way to know is to experience. If you like some guy, try to go on a date with him or something, and see how you feel.

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If you don't know how you feel about it, just try it and you'll know if you like it or not. Fantasies and thinking about something is not the same when it comes to a physical contact and do it for real. 

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Well, are you sexually stimulated by thinking about either? I don't necessarily mean fantasizing about doing anything with them, I mean just thinking about their bodies and behavior. Every bi- or pansexual person I ever met has a preference. I strongly prefer girls, too, but that doesn't mean men are not sexy under certain circumstances.

And please don't let anybody talk you into doing something with a man "just so you can find out". Just occasionally  thinking about it is just as valid as having a different guy in your bed every night. Either it fine.

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why do you bother with generalization? not all guys/women are the same, some you lke, some you don't like. 

if you meet a guy you like him, that doesn't make you straight.
if you meet a guy and you don't like him, it doesn't make you a lesbian. 

focus on people you like and enjoy the life instead of bothering with definitions of what they are and what you liking them makes you.
it's really sad so many people nowadays are obsessed with those dumb definitions - it only results in dividing people into groups, which always only causes discrimination and hate. 

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What is it about the male omorashi you like? Knowing this might help you out, but also do ever just think like, “that guy is hot” or, “he’s cute”? You don’t even have to want to kiss them, but now imagine that guy and imagine him having to pee and doing everything you enjoy about omorashi? How do you feel now? Most likely, I’d say you could be bi. In the end, it’s you decision to make and don’t let anyone’s judgment or pressure choose for you; decide yourself.

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On 3/23/2020 at 6:59 AM, randomkath said:

And please don't let anybody talk you into doing something with a man "just so you can find out".

Agreed wholeheartedly. Sexuality is a spectrum anyway. I call myself bisexual because the people I have considered to be scorching hot are 2 females and 2 males. I would have been worried about this at one time, but not any more. And, just in case anyone's wondering, I didn't get the chance to go with any of them.

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Hey! So I'm a bi/pan woman who identified liking women before identifying liking men, as well. Because of a bunch of internalized biphobia, it took me several years to figure everything out too. For the longest time in high school, I thought I was a lesbian who just happened to have a massive crush on Richard Hammond. That's, uh, not something that's typical of lesbians. So I'll offer the advice I can. 

First, are you familiar with the Kinsey scale? It's a scale ranging from 0-6, with 0 being entirely heterosexual, 6 being entirely homosexual, that describes the spectrum of sexual attraction. Alfred Kinsey, the sexologist who developed it, intended on it being used to describe behavior, but it's more commonly used now to describe feelings. I tell you this because sexuality doesn't have to be something that's perfect this or that. You don't have to feel exactly as attracted to men as you are to women. Hell, you don't even need to be consistent with how you feel. Some days I wake up and man am I into my male partner, and other days I'll see a woman, and just instantly want to do everything to her. This is super common. Most people don't actually fall at a 0 or 6 on the Kinsey scale; I have a friend who identifies as heteroflexible because he's a 1 on the scale. That's totally fine. I'm a 4, described by Kinsey as "Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual" 

Secondly, I agree with the advice not to let any guy talk you into experimenting with him. But, I will encourage you to experiment with people, regardless of gender, who you find attractive. Figure out your own boundaries first, though. Also, I don't know what kind of sex ed you've had, but do make sure you're informed about pregnancy prevention before doing any activities that could result in a pregnancy. That's all I'll say on that so this doesn't become even more of a wall of text. 

Thirdly, I just have some random bits of information from my own experience. I figured out I liked women through omorashi, funnily enough, probably because the professional pornography market is so heavily targeted towards straight men. For a while, when I was trying to figure out my sexuality, I thought it might just be the fetish pulling me towards girls. I ultimately decided it wasn't, but that's me. Your experience may be different. "Questioning" is a perfectly valid label about sexuality. I use the labels bi and pan in different contexts, because I believe the only real value in labels is to effectively communicate complex ideas, and if I'm in a situation where "pan" won't be understood, "bi" ends up being more efficient. So if you don't feel like you relate to any label at first, that's fine. Figure out how to describe to yourself how you feel before you figure out how to describe yourself to others. Like I said, "questioning" is totally valid for as long as you need it! 

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On 3/20/2020 at 4:56 PM, Rycmika said:

I’m female, and I know I like girls. The thing is I don’t know if I like guys. I really like male omorashi, sometimes I even prefer it, but when I think about kissing a guy or doing other stuff I don’t know how I feel about it.

I’m really confused and would love for some input!

I am a MTF (undecided), regardless I have a very feminine gender expression. Though I am mostly attracted to women, I find feminine guys and MTFs really cute. Other guys I can't even think about kissing or being intimate with. have you ever thought of dating a guy who embraces femininity? There are plenty of them that are attracted to women, it's not very common but its is not very rare either. We are out there

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