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I’m very into omo and water sports and any kind of pee play and I really want my boyfriend to try it with me, because I’ve never felt comfortable enough to do it with anyone and I feel as though I’ve made all his fantasies come to life. What can I do to bring him into the idea of the subject and what I want out of it with out scaring him away or scaring him into it, I want him to want to do it without me being pushy 

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your boyfriend is one lucky bastard 😛

to determine the most possible reaction, it's best to know what kind of relationship you have. how long have you been together and how old are you? do you trust each other, talk a lot, are you emotionally very close to each other? if your relationship is strong, it would be ridiculous for him to just distant himself from you just because of a kink like this. i'd mention about my fetishes while having an appropriate conversation or while turning each other on. maybe even easier if not eye-to-eye, through chat or something. 

if the relationship is not very strong and everything is more casual and sex based, or if you aren't together for some time yet, then i'd wait and see how it evolves. 

 

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If it were me id play the whole oblivious move, do you guys do a lot of foreplay and are you highly sexually active? Have you ever watched porn together? If you have try bringing up an omo video and say it got recommended to you by a friend and watch it, see what his reaction is and kinda play the whole “interesting, is that something you would ever try for pleasure?” Idk, or just try to tell him upfront and be honest about it

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5 hours ago, slovenc79 said:

your boyfriend is one lucky bastard 😛

to determine the most possible reaction, it's best to know what kind of relationship you have. how long have you been together and how old are you? do you trust each other, talk a lot, are you emotionally very close to each other? if your relationship is strong, it would be ridiculous for him to just distant himself from you just because of a kink like this. i'd mention about my fetishes while having an appropriate conversation or while turning each other on. maybe even easier if not eye-to-eye, through chat or something. 

if the relationship is not very strong and everything is more casual and sex based, or if you aren't together for some time yet, then i'd wait and see how it evolves. 

 

We’ve been together for almost 2 years, which doesn’t seem that long but it feels like forever, we have a dog together and live together. We talk about everything and are very close, I would consider him my best friend. He so far has been very much supportive for me on this, he hasn’t tried anything or put us in a position to try anything with it. I know it’s a little early but I think he’s going to be the one I marry (I haven’t told him that yet). I just want to feel like if I marry him I’m going to be able to let my fetishes out as well.

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5 hours ago, Scared:c said:

We’ve been together for almost 2 years, which doesn’t seem that long but it feels like forever, we have a dog together and live together. We talk about everything and are very close, I would consider him my best friend. He so far has been very much supportive for me on this, he hasn’t tried anything or put us in a position to try anything with it. I know it’s a little early but I think he’s going to be the one I marry (I haven’t told him that yet). I just want to feel like if I marry him I’m going to be able to let my fetishes out as well.

that sounds great! but the last sentence really bothers me - don't think about marriage as some trap just to make him stay with you. i know that that's not the reason you'd marry him, but just getting an idea like that means that you don't trust him that much. i STRONGLY suggest you resolve all discomfort like this before making the big step. 

2 years is a completely reasonable time to get to know a person very well, especially by living together and having a responsibility that bonds you. i'm sure that if you ignore your fears, you KNOW that he loves you who you are, learned almost all about you, your personality with ups and downs, and something like a little dirty secret will not make him so scared of you that he would walk away from 2 years with you (and you definitely wouldn't want to marry someone who would do something like that, right?). in the least, telling a secret like this is an important proof of trust, and if he can't appreciate this, he's not worthy of you. i myself would be proud of being worthy to be told a very personal secret. not to mention that sharing secrets like this and 100% opening yourself to each other increases your bond to the maximum.

i know from my personal experience that this fetish of ours is much smaller of a deal that we think. i remember when i was young and discovered i have it.. i hid it just like a criminal hides their crimes, paranoid of thinking that someone might know about it, and spread the word.
today, i can say i learned something important about having this kind of secret: nobody cares. when you tell somebody, they might give you a weird look at worst, but that's it. it's not a big deal. and not being a big deal, they will also not talk to others about this fetish - because not only this fetish is nothing special, but gossiping about others' fetishes is far less desirable than having it. 
so it's not much different from any other fears - when you're afraid, you're paranoid and it seems like a big deal. but when you try it and see it's not, there's a huge relief, huge burden gets off your heart and realizing all that fear was pointless just makes you laugh 🙂

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20 minutes ago, slovenc79 said:

that sounds great! but the last sentence really bothers me - don't think about marriage as some trap just to make him stay with you. i know that that's not the reason you'd marry him, but just getting an idea like that means that you don't trust him that much. i STRONGLY suggest you resolve all discomfort like this before making the big step. 

2 years is a completely reasonable time to get to know a person very well, especially by living together and having a responsibility that bonds you. i'm sure that if you ignore your fears, you KNOW that he loves you who you are, learned almost all about you, your personality with ups and downs, and something like a little dirty secret will not make him so scared of you that he would walk away from 2 years with you (and you definitely wouldn't want to marry someone who would do something like that, right?). in the least, telling a secret like this is an important proof of trust, and if he can't appreciate this, he's not worthy of you. i myself would be proud of being worthy to be told a very personal secret. not to mention that sharing secrets like this and 100% opening yourself to each other increases your bond to the maximum.

i know from my personal experience that this fetish of ours is much smaller of a deal that we think. i remember when i was young and discovered i have it.. i hid it just like a criminal hides their crimes, paranoid of thinking that someone might know about it, and spread the word.
today, i can say i learned something important about having this kind of secret: nobody cares. when you tell somebody, they might give you a weird look at worst, but that's it. it's not a big deal. and not being a big deal, they will also not talk to others about this fetish - because not only this fetish is nothing special, but gossiping about others' fetishes is far less desirable than having it. 
so it's not much different from any other fears - when you're afraid, you're paranoid and it seems like a big deal. but when you try it and see it's not, there's a huge relief, huge burden gets off your heart and realizing all that fear was pointless just makes you laugh 🙂

I hope, some day, I’m as comfortable with this as you are. It feels good to talk about it to people who understand. Im definitely not using marriage as a trap with him I just really like him a lot 💕 he’s very different from anyone I’ve ever dated or been friends with, he feels like the better half to me. I talked to him about this last night and wanting to try it and he said he’s nervous because it’s new and he’s always had a thing about not liking pee. I told him that’s okay, but I would like to try it with him if he was even slightly interested. I told him to tell me if he doesn’t want to but he hasn’t given me a definitive answer which I take as a he doesn’t want to 

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12 hours ago, Scared:c said:

I hope, some day, I’m as comfortable with this as you are. It feels good to talk about it to people who understand. Im definitely not using marriage as a trap with him I just really like him a lot 💕 he’s very different from anyone I’ve ever dated or been friends with, he feels like the better half to me. I talked to him about this last night and wanting to try it and he said he’s nervous because it’s new and he’s always had a thing about not liking pee. I told him that’s okay, but I would like to try it with him if he was even slightly interested. I told him to tell me if he doesn’t want to but he hasn’t given me a definitive answer which I take as a he doesn’t want to 

i think it's best to go slow. now he knows you like it, you know he's accepting it, and that's enough for now. give it time, he will probably think about it and eventually want to try it himself.

there is so much nervousnes when it comes to sex nowadays, in general. the problem is that most people divide sex and emotions into seperate things, and they make sex all about the skill, techniques and all that. this anxiety about how good the sex is going to be pretty much destroys all the passion and lust, which is exactly what sex is about. all two people need is to have strong feelings for each other, trust each other enough to be comfortable with, and the joy comes from that. 

limit the number of people you talk about your fetish, and sex in general. i only talk about it when it's necessary, but still try to hide it. not because of shame or anything, but simply because i want to keep my sexuality private, intimate, limited to people i want sexual relations with, because that way it makes it way more enjoyable. the big problem about sexuality nowadays is that everybody talks about it so much with everyone that it loses that special intimate feeling. sexuality should be a secret between two people without anyone else knowing about it, that's where it's meant to be 🙂 it's the weirdness and that taboo "doing something wrong" feeling of this fetish that makes it so enjoyable. 

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It depends how/what you want to play. I've had quite a few g/fs who are happy to pee on me (which is what I want and love) but very few who want me to pee on them. To be honest that doesn't appeal to me. To me its all about drinking from the fountain of love. Seeing her pee, especially thru her panties, or out in public is a turn on. I have yet to meet a girl who wants to see me pee, other than as part of sexual foreplay.

Take it slow. Make a list of what you would like and approach him with it. Good luck, and as has already been said he is one lucky guy

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