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1 minute ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

How often would you need supplemental videos to view if you?

Never ever. I'd have all I needed.

2 minutes ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

Would you need to spend part of your day viewing others pee when you know wetscarlet is going to be home when you get home to kiss you were together with? 

Not a single second.

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Firstly, I just have to say that that all sounds amazing and incredibly wonderful,,,

To answer the questions, though:

1 hour ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

How often would you need supplemental videos to view if you?

Not at all.

1 hour ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

Would you need to spend part of your day viewing others pee when you know wetscarlet is going to be home when you get home to kiss you were together with?

Nope; knowing that would be enough, and it would be something I'd look forward to every minute of the day.

2 hours ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

Would what she does for you satisfy you enough? Is there a point where it would ever be enough?

It would be more than enough, above and beyond satisfaction from day one.

2 hours ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

Especially with lack of compliments is she wrong to feel uneanted or taken for granted if she tries supplying all your sexual fantasies and needs?

She wouldn't be wrong to feel that way...which is precisely why I wouldn't let that happen.  I would let her know always how wonderful and treasured she is to me.

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Well, that relationship sounds like a dream come true to me!!

2 hours ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

How often would you need supplemental videos? 

I really wouldn't need anything else...

2 hours ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

. Would you need to spend part of your day viewing others pee video when you know wetscarlet is going to be home 

No way... I would not watch anything, Purposely focusing attention on you, and building arousal in the process..

2 hours ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

 Would what she does for you satisfy you enough?

By far.. 

2 hours ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

Especially with lack of compliments is she wrong to feel unwanted or taken for granted if she tries supplying all your sexual fantasies and needs? 

Nope.. I would love to make you feel wanted and extremely appreciated  quite often. Being with you would be absolutely amazing! Your beautiful red hair and frequent wet pants would be an incredible bonus ?

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You know, you brought up very interested topic to discuss. In my native country we say "there're as many opinions as many people are", so I will give my input without saying that it is the ony truth.

Some people are 100% monogamous, while some are 100% poly, while most of the people somewhere in between. For some people one partner is enough as long as this partner satisfies all of the romantic and sexual needs, but for some people one partner, even the perfect one, is never going to fulfill all of their needs. This is kind of intro just to give an idea where I am coming from.

What you described doing for your partner sounds amazing, and he is a very lucky man. If my wife would do for me like a half of what you've described you do for your boyfriend, I would be so happy with her! He really has to appreciate you, because it's very hard to find a partner who would be so active and passionate in pleasing you without asking a lot back.

But would it stop me from watching porn ever or looking at another naked woman? My honest answer - no, not going to happen. While I am not a full blown poly, I don't identify myself as a fully monogamous person either. Desire to watch porn or fetish videos with other women or to attend some "adult" shows and events doesn't necessary come from being unsatisfied with your partner. Sometimes it comes from the situation like you may love tiramisu cake, but if you will eat nothing but tiramisu cake, you will sell your toe for a plate of porkchops. It is about variety of experiences, including a variety of other people. If my partner would say that I shouldn't watch porn or have a desire to see other naked women because I should be fully satisfied with my partner, I would be quite confused and frustrated with such interpretation of it.

I don't know your situation and what your boyfriend thinks about everything you do for him, but I want to give 2 opinions to sum it up. First, you do so much for your partner, and so many guys would be happy to have even a half of it in their life, that he really needs to appreciate and thank you for such efforts. Finding such partner like you is very rare. And second, desire to watch other women beside you doing something sexual or kinky doesn't mean that he is dissatisfied with you, and definitely doesn't mean that this desire will vanish if you will start doing more. It all depends on the personalities. I've known couple where a woman thought that after marriage her guy should never watch porn or desire to see another woman's naked body because she should be the only one he is attracted sexually to. He had vision on the situation more like mine. Tbh they broke up years ago because of many reasons including this one.

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If it refers to material as sexual content - I won't. This type of lady fits all needed standards. But there is one exception - with such lady there is a big space for experiments and new activities. And the only reason for searching content through web will be finding new ideas for our plays. And the content will be inspiration, but not the source of sexual pleasure, this will be reserved for the one and only lady.

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Wow. Well it certainly sounds like you go above and beyond in terms of wetting and omo fantasy related fun. On top of that you make great videos, which I assume you like to know that he enjoys watching those. Coming from a somewhat similar situation, where my wife is willing to do a fair amount of the wetting fantasy stuff I have asked her about, we have also talked about whether I watch videos of people wetting and such.  It was always a sort of sensitive topic, but we have been honest with each other over the years and have basically come to this conclusion. She’s not bothered by me watching some videos from time to time, or keeping up with a forum such as this, assuming it’s not impacting our relationship with each other. But, if she’s missing out on my attention or on us being intimate because I’m watching fetish videos all day, then that’s definitely a problem, and I would have to agree that would need to change. 

At the same time, if you feel hurt by him watching others when you do so much, it’s understandable that you would want him to stop. Have you told him in a straightforward way how you feel about it?  Hope you are able to get some resolution to how you are feeling. 

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I think a relationship like that would be wonderful, and anyone experiencing something like that ought to take one time and see what they have in front of them, and whether or not they’re truly appreciating the other person.

At the same time, I would say that, at least in my opinion, love and sex are mutually exclusive. You can love someone without be aroused by them, and you can obviously be aroused by someone without loving them. That can really suck sometimes, because I feel like people confuse the two, and it never ends well. But it happens, and sometimes it can’t be helped, because people are flawed.

I would say in a situation like this that love can potentially be neglected when sex becomes the centerpiece of a relationship. I would also say that, from a mans perspective, it can be easy to get carried away with sex anyway, until it’s all that matters. That’s not your responsibility though, that’s his.

We wish you the best Scarlet!

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The best kind would be just doing it infront of your partner unannounced.

 

or if in a distant relationship, a random video

 

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It's a tough question and yes, you sound like an amazing person. I think with anything that you enjoy and is a part of you, you're always going to be looking at or for it. I guess what I'm trying to say, even with something like a car collecting hobby for example, you could have the best cars that most people could only dream about having, but do you stop looking at other cars? I don't think so. It doesn't mean you don't appreciate what you have, it just means you like cars.

 My wife isn't quite like you, but does what she can to make me happy. Do I love and appreciate her? Yup. Do I look at wetting videos and pix on line? Yup. Does she sometimes feel the same way you do right now? Yup. Do your best to not let it bother you. It's probably never going to change and you'll just drive yourself crazy. Hopefully that makes a little sense.

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Right yeah it's the price you pay more so I believe with being female with the higher inclination of being more emotional. I feel guilty of not sharing with the person if I needed supplement. Alwayd refused to put myself in situations where someone could get the wrong idea etc. Yeah not easy standing next to your man checking out other women while you busted your ass to look sexy or do sexual things when all it takes is a good looking woman to steal that away. Hard to feel good about yourself when you do what you can ...especially coming from a past with multiple extra marital affairs it's a huge struggle for me. ??

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14 minutes ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

Right yeah it's the price you pay more so I believe with being female with the higher inclination of being more emotional. I feel guilty of not sharing with the person if I needed supplement. Alwayd refused to put myself in situations where someone could get the wrong idea etc. Yeah not easy standing next to your man checking out other women while you busted your ass to look sexy or do sexual things when all it takes is a good looking woman to steal that away. Hard to feel good about yourself when you do what you can ...especially coming from a past with multiple extra marital affairs it's a huge struggle for me. ??

This is really another big topic to discuss, but have you tried checking out other men when he is around and making it visible to him? How did he react if you did so, was he mad or he didn't find it disturbing at all?

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1 hour ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

Right yeah it's the price you pay more so I believe with being female with the higher inclination of being more emotional. I feel guilty of not sharing with the person if I needed supplement. Alwayd refused to put myself in situations where someone could get the wrong idea etc. Yeah not easy standing next to your man checking out other women while you busted your ass to look sexy or do sexual things when all it takes is a good looking woman to steal that away. Hard to feel good about yourself when you do what you can ...especially coming from a past with multiple extra marital affairs it's a huge struggle for me. ??

I can totally relate.. I have experienced an affair too. Kind of causes you to second guess yourself on occasion.. ?

Hang in there and do your best. That's all anyone can ask for

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All of the things being said here resonate a lot to me and my relationship too. I wouldn’t say you should ignore your feelings and definitely don’t let yourself be taken advantage of, but if you are getting honesty and openness from your partner in regards to what he is doing, and feel like you can share how you feel as well, I’d say you you have a good foundation. Just make sure you keep that communication open. If the furthest he strays from you is watching some other videos can you be ok with that? If not, or if it brings up other issues because of things that have happened in the past, hopefully he can be accommodating in some way that is acceptable to you both.  I think you (and many others who make wetting content) are beautiful and make amazing videos, and at the same time I don’t wish to leave my wife and jeopardize our relationship either. I’ve just always endulged in wetting videos and stories, etc. since I was old enough to know I liked it.  It would be hard to stop altogether, or make a promise about it that I wasn’t able to keep, but I’m glad that I’m able to be honest about it. Not sure if that’s any consolation, but it’s my honest experience with this same concern in my relationship. 

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Uh.  Not sure if this is a strangely worded experience, a poll, or what...

To be honest, that really doesn't sound like my cup of tea, so I don't think I can ask the question as intended given that description.  But, looking at my previous relationships: there were definitely regular cases when I'd rather just read a story or watch a video than do sexual things with my girlfriend.  Or when I'd rather see someone else desperate (and fortunately, my girlfriends so far have all been perfectly fine with that).  Heck, there's a whole lot of other stuff I'd rather do with someone other than my girlfriend, too: I can hardly imagine a way to ruin a relationship faster than demanding attention all the time.

In terms of an actual frequency estimate, I think wanting something different once a week is perfectly normal, though it really depends on how horny I am in the first place.

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2 hours ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

Lol he hates it all. Hed lose his mind if things were reversed. 

Then I feel like like it's some BS situation, at least from my perspective. How can he get mad at you doing the same thing he does while thinking it's ok for him? I check sexy women around in appropriate situations, but it doesn't bother me at all when my wife does it too with men or women (she is bi), we both know we love each other, but we see each other every day, all the time, so we consider it's kinda natural if some "eye candy" pops up and one of us looks at that person. There is no jealousy between us over it and we're both comfortable with some sexually related attention given to other people by one of us. But if he does it while it bothers you, but hates when things are reversed, it's kinda shitty behavior in my opinion. I would question what he thinks of your place in this relationship, and double standards are never good. Reminds me BS like "boys will be boys". But it's of course if he knows that it all really bothers you. Did you let him know how it all bothers you, or there is a chance he may not understand it that you get... jealous (?) over such things?

I think you both need to openly talk to each other about these issues, communication is the key, and sometimes it takes a while to figure things out between two people. It may not bring you together and rather split you apart even more, but I feel like there is definitely some lack of communication between you and that gives you reasons to be uncomfortable.

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2 hours ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

Right yeah it's the price you pay more so I believe with being female with the higher inclination of being more emotional. I feel guilty of not sharing with the person if I needed supplement. Alwayd refused to put myself in situations where someone could get the wrong idea etc. Yeah not easy standing next to your man checking out other women while you busted your ass to look sexy or do sexual things when all it takes is a good looking woman to steal that away. Hard to feel good about yourself when you do what you can ...especially coming from a past with multiple extra marital affairs it's a huge struggle for me. ??

 Some more useless thoughts from me. When it comes to your feelings or what you need, you need to say it. Most guys I know, including myself, are idiots when it comes to that stuff. My wife has bottled things up for months and when I would finally get it out of her it seemed silly to me, but was a big deal to her. I'm a moron and I should have known, but I'm just not good with that stuff.

 As for the affairs issue, I have nothing other than that's a difficult one to get past. "multiple" would bother me too. That's something that you need to work out. Without trust, there's nothing in my opinion.

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Gonna just weigh in with the shortest possible opinion I can:

I don't believe a committed partner should be prohibited from viewing porn, nor do I think that the act of doing so should immediately be taken as an offense.
However, I do think that it's something that should be talked about, and not done secretively. 

I personally consider viewing it together occasionally, and talking about it openly or sharing content that one of you found interesting to be the ideal way to handle it.

In past discussions of this topic (This gets brought up regularly on various advice forums on reddit at least) I've often seen trying to prevent or guilt a partner for watching porn to be considered unhealthily controlling and an unrealistic expectation.

I for one, though I may turn away from porn mostly, or even all together stop watching it, would still consider it a deal-breaker if someone tried to make me feel like I was forced or expected to stop 100%.


Edit: To add a reassuring tone: I don't believe the reason it's still watched (not needed, since "need" is perhaps the wrong word - even for someone not in a relationship), has nothing to do with any sort of lack of satisfaction. It doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong, and it doesn't mean they want someone else.

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And what do you think if he feels completely okay with looking at videos quite frequently of women wetting but gets super angry if you say in return that you'd watch porn videos of men stroking themselves? I say it's him having a double standard I'm to color between the lines while he colors outside of them. Then he gets mad and end of discussion.

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4 minutes ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

And what do you think if he feels completely okay with looking at videos quite frequently of women wetting but gets super angry if you say in return that you'd watch porn videos of men stroking themselves? I say it's him having a double standard I'm to color between the lines while he colors outside of them. Then he gets mad and end of discussion.

Seems like he needs to chill out a little bit... Maybe he has a porn addiction ?

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19 minutes ago, Wetscarlet511 said:

And what do you think if he feels completely okay with looking at videos quite frequently of women wetting but gets super angry if you say in return that you'd watch porn videos of men stroking themselves? I say it's him having a double standard I'm to color between the lines while he colors outside of them. Then he gets mad and end of discussion.

Sounds like an unhealthy relationship and I wouldn't pursue it any longer. However this is coming from someone who doesn't desire to pursue a relationship at all so maybe it's a bit biased.

As for the rest, this whole thing sounds like the girl is doing a lot and isn't getting much in return. A few people have stated here that they would be completely okay with her and what she's offering and nothing more. It's my understanding that a relationship requires 50/50 effort on both sides and even though it sounds like the man is getting a sweet deal of a lifetime, what are they offering her? Just adoration for her being a kinky little pee princess? I can only foresee problems with this "relationship" that I hope is hypothetical and just a fantasy.

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