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Is it just me, or is it much more rare to come across a story where the girlfriend/wife/female makes the boyfriend/husband/male hold it. I am a male who would love it if my girlfriend decides to take a controlling/Dom role and make me hold it for her pleasure. Then proceeds to mess with my while I am desperate, poke and prod my bulging bladder, and have me do whatever she wants to enjoy my desperate state, going so far as more explicit things. It doesn't need to go so far as what you might think of for a Femdom role, but just where she is the more Dom one and in control.

Am I among a rare few? Do the guys normally like to be the Dominate ones? Do the girls rarely like to be in control? It just seems harder to find stories of that. Does anyone know of any good stories here or anywhere else where that is the case? 

Thanks!

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Is it just me, or is it much more rare to come across a story where the girlfriend/wife/female makes the boyfriend/husband/male hold it. I am a male who would love it if my girlfriend decides to take

Even though I’m a lesbian, I’m partial to being dominant to men in RP, mostly because it gives me a degree of control that I’ve never had over men when I’ve been in relationships with them. It’s a mor

Oh my goodness, I totally didn't mean anything by masculinity comment toward you! I realize that it may have come across like that I am sorry! I meant more along the patriarchy comment and how th

I can only speak for myself. I am 100% dominant, and absolutely hate not being control. I also consider myself 100 straight... but I find the thought of being with another male less unappealing than being submissive.

 

That being said, there are definitely a fair few stories here where the woman is in control. I try to avoid them, personally, but there is a smaller but sizable audience.

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Yeah, I haven't seen too many stories on this site. I know the patriarchy is a thing, but I am secure enough in my masculinity and sexuality to allow myself to submissive. Its silly that that can't be more the case all around...

I also wonder how small of an audience I would fall in with for this type of thing. 

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I completely respect that. Suffice to say my masculinity has little to nothing to do with my dislike of being submissive. Honestly, I'm borderline asexual, aside from liking to see/torment women desperate to pee... so I don't really ever express my sexuality at all anyhow. Which is fine for me.

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Oh my goodness, I totally didn't mean anything by masculinity comment toward you! I realize that it may have come across like that I am sorry!

I meant more along the patriarchy comment and how that makes it more taboo. 

This is general just comes down to what you like or don't like and everyone has their own tastes.

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No, no, I didn't think it was meant that way. And yes, I agree, everything's down to tastes. I'm sure society has some role on it being rarer for the woman to be dominant, I'm sure some it's genetics, too, and impossible to know how much of it anything is, really. I do feel sorry that it is far rarer for you to find what you are into. Sadly, having a specific interest is pretty rough regardless of which it is, since things like wetting don't arouse me and often turn me off, etc.

It makes things varied and interesting while simultaneously incredibly frustrating at times... which is honestly how life is, I guess!

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That is very true! Luckily for me though, that is just one facet of what I like, and it just comes down to what I am feeling like that day. I play both roles and like many things to do with each. I was just trying to browse for some of that stuff I mentioned above and my search came up kinda dry. 

But overall, yes. Life is just frustrating and hard to understand lol

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1 hour ago, tchord53 said:

Am I among a rare few? Do the guys normally like to be the Dominate ones? Do the girls rarely like to be in control? 

I am actually on the same page with you. I am switch in general and regarding omorashi too. I love to be in control but I also love when woman takes control over. But like it takes a right type of a sub for me to have fun, it takes a right type of domme for me to enjoy submitting. Unfortunately my wife, even being into omo, was never able to dominate me in the way we would click, and I didn't have any other relationships involving omo, so I got to experience it online only, but if my wife and I will eventually meet right woman/couple as a play partner, I would be completely up being dominated in holding games by a topping woman. I love to experience dominating a desperate to pee woman, and I have done it in the past virtually as well as in person with full contact, but I would love some bratty, teasing and sarcastic but firm dominant woman to take control over my bladder in play sessions and make me hold it until she is satisfied while torturing my bladder.

The only difference is that I really don't care for stories in this setup because male omorashi content is a turn off for me. I enjoy doing it myself but any omo stories, videos etc. have to be with women omo content only for me to enjoy them.

But yeah, in the society there is a stereotype that man is supposed to be dominant. That's why if you go to sites like Fetlife and will look at profile of very young single guys who are completely new to this lifestyle and never had an actual live BDSM experience with a partner, the vast majority of them self-identify themselves as a dom or even master (*chuckles*) to start with, and rarely use more appropriate for newbies identities like undecided or evolving, and very rarely you'll see them stating that they're subs or bottoms.

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Yeah, I understand where you are coming from with all of that. I'm also pretty much a switch and I can see how it would take a certain kind of dominate to make it work really well. 

As for stories, I wouldn't mind a story in that fashion, because I would just try to kinda fit myself in place of the male. I am not really turned on by other males being desperate, just myself and females. 

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I also am a guy that likes to be dominated by a woman and I have been in such a relationship before. My GF wasn't into omo, but when we combined it with things she liked, she was able to enjoy it. I've got to say, it was a lot of fun washing dishes and bursting, while wearing nothing more than some pink panties she wanted me to wear. Her teasing made it even better.

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I feel like I've seen more guys posting about being dominant so far so I guess I'll jump in. 

I'm a cis woman and pan/queer but I identify as a switch in various ways and actually prefer to be dom with men/sub with women or non-binary folks (though I haven't been with anyone who is non-binary, I'm mostly guessing at that one). There is certainly some fluidity there as well, I wouldn't mind a man controlling my bladder at all. But I'm also excited by the idea of controlling a man's bladder/teasing them when they need to pee. 

 

As for the comment about the patriarchy - I think that's absolutely true. Men in general are taught they have to be a certain way, and I quite enjoy flipping that on it's head and seeing a man willing to be vulnerable, controlled, and desperate. 

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It's not nearly as rare as you're implying. I've definitely seen male desperation stories involving female dominance. I know of one damn good one on this very site:

It may be comparatively difficult to find these kinds of stories, but bear in mind that male characters are less frequently the subject of porn in general. With that starting point, once you filter for both omorashi and more traditional BDSM, you're going to end up with a pretty limited selection. In fact, in my experience, even explicit dominance of a female character by a male character is a comparative rarity in the genre of desperation and wetting. That's because they're technically two different fetishes. Plenty of people are only into omo, and therefore write stories in which a (usually female) character becomes desperate due to various circumstances not involving a partner's command.

As to the comments about the patriarchy, I think the conclusions in this thread are mistaken. Traditional gender roles do indeed make it more difficult for men to embrace a submissive persona. But I'm pretty sure that that makes male submissiveness - as a fetish and behind closed doors - more common, not less. It's for this reason that you've probably heard a lot of references to professional dominatrices, and not to professional dominators. Femdom is definitely a very familiar genre of pornography. Search for it outside of the context of omorashi and you'll find a veritable bonanza. And even within that context, there's plenty, as this thread attests:

 

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10 minutes ago, Spectator9 said:

I know there are omo stories on the Internet with a female dominating a male, and it may happen in real life.  I can envision a scenario whereby a woman promises amazing sex if her mate puts on a good full-bladder performance.

I recall reading a story similar to this once, but I cannot remember where I read it (it was not on this site, as far as I know). It was a story about a female who made her drinking buddies hold their pee while they were around a campfire and she offered a sexual reward to whichever one held it the longest. It was a long time ago that I read it, but it was interesting.

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17 hours ago, Spectator9 said:

I know there are omo stories on the Internet with a female dominating a male, and it may happen in real life.  I can envision a scenario whereby a woman promises amazing sex if her mate puts on a good full-bladder performance.

I do that often if I'm playing with someone. :)

That being said, female dominants are just *way* more rare, in general, than male dominants. When you partner that with the fact that watersports and omorashi is more rare in women than in men, it leads to a very small subset of women who might be into it. I've only met a few other female omo-friendly dominants, and I've been around Omo stuff for a loooong time. 

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Even though I’m a lesbian, I’m partial to being dominant to men in RP, mostly because it gives me a degree of control that I’ve never had over men when I’ve been in relationships with them. It’s a more appealing concept in fiction, because I’m not actually attracted to men so I don’t get sexual gratification from it, but I think I’d enjoy “femdom” just for, oh, the dramatic irony of it all :tongue:

Basically, in real life and in roleplay with women, I like playful and gentle stuff without any BDSM aspects, but when I’m RPing with men, I’m inclined to be dominant because I’m not emotionally invested in or attracted to them, and I’d HATE being submissive.

As for the comments about the patriarchy, even though most omo doesn’t explicitly have BDSM dynamics, one of my biggest problems with finding appealing female omo is that all of it seems to be “oh no, I’m supposed to be a Proper Lady!! now I’m all Dirty and Humiliated!!” It almost always paints the woman in a submissive light, even if there isn’t another party involved (and if it’s not that, it’s straight-up porn, usually). See: the post on the same page as this topic talking about women being denied the bathroom while men are allowed in.

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I'd be hugely happy with either being the dominator or being dominated!

I have a huge fantasy about this kind of thing that would be one of my perfect omo experiences if it ever played out!

Firstly,  I'd be dominating my girlfriend. Forcing her to hold her pee. She hasn't been for 7 hours but unless she can make it till 8 she's going to get punished!

She is begging for help holding and I just can't help give into her pleas. I let her sit on my lap and I put my hands around her and help her hold tight.  She says "Maybe if we were kissing it'd take my mind of it" So she then turns round and sits on my lap facing me. Legs either side of me, Still holding her self tight.

Then she smiles all naughty like. Kisses me once and then demands that I let her go pee otherwise she will soak me. There is nothing I can do! She wraps her legs tight round me and lets a huge leak out soaking her leggings and making a wet patch on my jeans.

I am then being dominated by her. Begging her not to pee all over me. But she doesn't care! She will soak me if she wants to!

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I am a switch when it comes to omo. And given my attraction to girls I am really into another girl making me hold. Although I am also into BDSM so any idea of a girl controlling me is something I'm into. Though weirdly I am a sub in most other circumstances and it is omo that makes me more of a switch.

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