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Apologies if this has been brought up before. I didn't see a recent post and wasn't sure if I should necro older. Anyhow. Just curious. I go through highs and lows. Lately more lows but I am also at the appropriate age for mid life so I may just be cliche. My father and brother are clinical bi-polar. I hope and pray I am not.

I don't know. There are 2 groups I feel comfortable in this is one. The other is more mainstream. I enjoy anonymity here but wouldn't mind it there either. Though I find I do crave connection. 

Is there a dr. in the house?

Just curious I guess. I mean it wouldn't change much. But I may identify better.

 

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17 minutes ago, BENAir01 said:

I'm confused what you are asking, but if it means anything, I have been diagnosed with depression. 

Kinda exactly that. Are there more of us here who are depressed. Our we omorashi fans, predisposed to being depressed. I am sorry to hear that you are depressed btw. I suspect I am but need to get to dr to say for certain.

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I would say you're going to find a lot of people on here who deal with depression and anxiety, but I don't think that relates to omorashi, at least not in any significant way.

Now, the fact we're on an internet forum, or maybe that it happens to be porn oriented, especially fetish porn oriented... there might be a correlation with those lol.

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4 hours ago, miss_mimi said:

i live with depression and anxiety since a lot years 
i always been shy and anxious girl and i live with depression since i've 10-11 years old... 
i have to learn to live with it... it's not easy, i try to be strong 

Im a shy and anxious guy too with anxiety/depression. And when it comes to dating, being shy as a guy is THE WORST. It makes women assume were not interested or a dangerous person. But all we are is just a sweet innocent soul thats just nervous around women. I hate to say but women do have it much easier in this case. Some of us anxious guys stay single for a long time

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On 9/14/2017 at 6:00 PM, malegusher92 said:

Im a shy and anxious guy too with anxiety/depression. And when it comes to dating, being shy as a guy is THE WORST. It makes women assume were not interested or a dangerous person. But all we are is just a sweet innocent soul thats just nervous around women. I hate to say but women do have it much easier in this case. Some of us anxious guys stay single for a long time

To add to your thought. Women I feel have a struggle that we as guys don't fully embrace. I feel women struggle with feeling attractive and worthful relative to that idea. The media portray very high standards. In essence, our struggle I see very similar. Just my $0.02 haha

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9 hours ago, WettingFan91 said:

To add to your thought. Women I feel have a struggle that we as guys don't fully embrace. I feel women struggle with feeling attractive and worthful relative to that idea. The media portray very high standards. In essence, our struggle I see very similar. Just my $0.02 haha

They all whine and cry they are fat and ugly and they still find thier lifelong lover, even the overweight ones do just as easily.

All women have to do is wait for that guy to approach them and they are set for life. Men have to master pickup skills which arent easy, empty our bank balance on them to prove were a gentleman. Now the hardest of all to master... To be skilled in keeping them happy and in love with us, so they dont lose interest. And if your not good at those skills, or dont make enough $$$, you are unwanted by the female race and you will be 100% single until you fix it!!

Thats the reality of being a man

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56 minutes ago, malegusher92 said:

They all whine and cry they are fat and ugly and they still find thier lifelong lover, even the overweight ones do just as easily.

All women have to do is wait for that guy to approach them and they are set for life. Men have to master pickup skills which arent easy, empty our bank balance on them to prove were a gentleman. Now the hardest of all to master... To be skilled in keeping them happy and in love with us, so they dont lose interest. And if your not good at those skills, or dont make enough $$$, you are unwanted by the female race and you will be 100% single until you fix it!!

Thats the reality of being a man

Not to be rude or anything, but that’s a pretty sexist way of oooking at it. Just wait for a guy to pick you and then your entire life is set? Sounds like you belong in the 50s...

When I was younger, before I realized I was gay (I was about 15 at the time) I was in a relationship with a girl at my school. And guess what? She made all the moves! She went out looking for me, she asked me out, she started our first kiss, and it was her who broke up with me. I didn’t do a single thing. 

And anyway, what makes you think that once married, a girl has her whole life sorted out? You probably think the man will do all the providing and the women will just do the cooking and cleaning? Not in my family! 

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Hmmm.

 

Well, I'm very bipolar, severely depressed, but my bipolar can also trigger me to be physically combative if the conditions are right, I show signs of borderline personality disorder, have anxiety....I've done a few things to myself (or at least I attempted to) that would have ended my life....most doctors have prescribed garbage to me so I'm no longer on any meds, just kinda riding out my own personal apocalypse into the abyss at this point I guess.

 

But I still enjoy omo.

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7 hours ago, malegusher92 said:

They all whine and cry they are fat and ugly and they still find thier lifelong lover, even the overweight ones do just as easily.

Since the proportion of men and women is around 50/50 in our early twenties, men die at a higher rate, most people are older than that, assuming polyamory impacts everyone around the same just like aromanticity and the amount of homosexuality is around the same for men and women, I'd say

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The rest of your comment is real old-school sexism. After just reading a topic of you subverting gender roles this is appalling. I don't get how you combine that with this load of bullshit. "The female race" ffs

 

But on topic, I've struggled with depression but don't feel that is related to omo. Rather it sometimes feels like an out, but also might add to the feeling of being an outcast but is not the source I think.

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I'm diagnosed with depression, anxiety and ADD. To address your question, it's impossible to say without someone doing a study on omorashi fetishists that people with this fetish are more likely to be depressed, and since my experience with others with this fetish is entirely limited to people online I can't speak from personal experience.

To address you as a person though, I'd urge you to get to a doctor. I've spent years trying to ignore my mental health issues, years self-medicating with alcohol and drugs and at now at 3, almost 4 years clean and sober I've finally found a psychiatrist and (soon) a therapist who I can actually work with. It's a struggle to find doctors who will truly be able to help you with depression but the search and effort is well worth it. Modern medicine doesn't have absolute cures for most mental illness, but it does have a lot to offer in the way of help. Getting help is WAY worth it.

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I've struggled for years with depression and its impacted my life pretty severely. Its hard to say if its more common among omorashi fans in particular but I've often found people venturing in alternatives directions (whether sexuality, lifestyle, music tastes... whatever) seem to have a higher prevalence of mental illness. Then again, I'm speaking from the perspective of only having people in my alternative bubble open up to me about mental illness so I could just be speaking with blinkers on here.

On 10/17/2017 at 1:45 AM, molhado said:

To address you as a person though, I'd urge you to get to a doctor. I've spent years trying to ignore my mental health issues, years self-medicating with alcohol and drugs and at now at 3, almost 4 years clean and sober I've finally found a psychiatrist and (soon) a therapist who I can actually work with. It's a struggle to find doctors who will truly be able to help you with depression but the search and effort is well worth it. Modern medicine doesn't have absolute cures for most mental illness, but it does have a lot to offer in the way of help. Getting help is WAY worth it.

It can feel like a long road to recovery but for some people this is such an important step and things have got better for me since I started seeking it about a year ago. I also self medicated with alcohol and drugs for a long time, which can become an additional problem by themselves when used too much. Almost 4 years sober is admirable and something I hope I can reach one day :)

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On 10/13/2017 at 3:30 PM, malegusher92 said:

They all whine and cry they are fat and ugly and they still find thier lifelong lover, even the overweight ones do just as easily.

All women have to do is wait for that guy to approach them and they are set for life. Men have to master pickup skills which arent easy, empty our bank balance on them to prove were a gentleman. Now the hardest of all to master... To be skilled in keeping them happy and in love with us, so they dont lose interest. And if your not good at those skills, or dont make enough $$$, you are unwanted by the female race and you will be 100% single until you fix it!!

Thats the reality of being a man

 

I'm not sure if you're just joking or if you're dead serious...I hope for your own sake that you're joking.

Women don't wait for a guy to approach them, in my case I pull the strings to make sure he notices me so that *I* can go home with *him*.  Mastering pickup skills is bs...if a guy hits on a girl, she goes to the bathroom with like 3 other girls to debate if he's someone you should go home with....either that or they have already talked about if the guy in question is someone they should consider. 

My point is, the process that goes down is a loooot more complicated than I think you understand really. Women don't just go home with the next guy that shows them interest, in my experience it is kinda the opposite, although nothing is that black and white.

And it's not a "skill" to keep us happy and in love with you....you're either someone who is able to or you're not. Someone who can make one girl really happy can drive another crazy...certain personalities fit with certain personalities. SIMPLE. AS. THAT.

And if I really cared about "my guy" making more money than me, I wouldn't be working 2 jobs. Women aren't simple minded beings that you "male race" was created to please and spend your money on so they can fuck you and cook food for you and raise your babies. 

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On 10/13/2017 at 8:30 AM, malegusher92 said:

They all whine and cry they are fat and ugly and they still find thier lifelong lover, even the overweight ones do just as easily.

All women have to do is wait for that guy to approach them and they are set for life. Men have to master pickup skills which arent easy, empty our bank balance on them to prove were a gentleman. Now the hardest of all to master... To be skilled in keeping them happy and in love with us, so they dont lose interest. And if your not good at those skills, or dont make enough $$$, you are unwanted by the female race and you will be 100% single until you fix it!!

Thats the reality of being a man

Thankfully the reality for you is you'll never reproduce

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On 10/13/2017 at 12:30 PM, malegusher92 said:

They all whine and cry they are fat and ugly and they still find thier lifelong lover, even the overweight ones do just as easily.

All women have to do is wait for that guy to approach them and they are set for life. Men have to master pickup skills which arent easy, empty our bank balance on them to prove were a gentleman. Now the hardest of all to master... To be skilled in keeping them happy and in love with us, so they dont lose interest. And if your not good at those skills, or dont make enough $$$, you are unwanted by the female race and you will be 100% single until you fix it!!

Thats the reality of being a man

This saddens me, disgusts me, and infuriates me in ways I can't even hope to describe. I'll just hope you're really ignorant and have no idea how people work.

If not...well...pardon my unprofessional french, but fuck you.

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On 10/13/2017 at 11:30 AM, malegusher92 said:

They all whine and cry they are fat and ugly and they still find thier lifelong lover, even the overweight ones do just as easily.

All women have to do is wait for that guy to approach them and they are set for life. Men have to master pickup skills which arent easy, empty our bank balance on them to prove were a gentleman. Now the hardest of all to master... To be skilled in keeping them happy and in love with us, so they dont lose interest. And if your not good at those skills, or dont make enough $$$, you are unwanted by the female race and you will be 100% single until you fix it!!

Thats the reality of being a man

None of the things you mention – having to master pickup skills, make and spend lots of money – are true. Nor are women a separate race. They're just people. Like you.

And do you need to keep them happy and loving you? Well, if you want them to stick around, yes. But it's not mysterious. Approach them like human beings, listen to them and treat them the way they want to be treated. Just as you'd expect them to do for you.

I won't join others in hoping you never reproduce. I hope you're as young as you sound, some 17 year old who's just frustrated at not getting laid. I hope you start hanging around with better people instead of reading 4chan or wherever you're getting this nonsense. I hope you find someone who loves you and whom you love in return with all your being and all your humanity, and I hope that experience makes real for you everything that I said above. And then I hope some day you'll say something similar to some other poor lost soul who is aching for love and sex and is listening to the wrong people tell him all the wrong things about how to find what he's looking for.

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Im sorry to anyone ive insulted here. Im a 25 year old sad single man thats never got past a 1st date and probably never will. I didnt mean to take it out on anyone else. Ive been rejected by women all my life. I dont know how to treat them and I dont even deserve one. I can see already I will be single for the rest of my life

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2 hours ago, malegusher92 said:

Im sorry to anyone ive insulted here. Im a 25 year old sad single man thats never got past a 1st date and probably never will. I didnt mean to take it out on anyone else. Ive been rejected by women all my life. I dont know how to treat them and I dont even deserve one. I can see already I will be single for the rest of my life

If you genuinely feel this way, take this collective reaction as as a learning experience and adapt the way you think about women. Not all of us start out on grounds that make dating and relationships early or easy. The ones that stay single all their lives are the ones that don't learn. There's still hope for you yet, but only if you can change.

For the remainder of the patrons of the thread, please resume posting on the original topic, I think malegusher gets the idea that post wasn't probably the best one.

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I dunno, kinda bouncing off that....I mean I don't have any views about the whole female sexism thing that was being discussed but I think another thing that he brought up that reminds me of myself is how I consider myself garbage.  Like a literal trash mammal.  For example it actually bothers me when people come up when I'm doing something that requires skill (like Dance Dance Revolution, which is honestly a stupid "skill" to have hahaha), and go all like "oh wow you're good."

I always mention that I'm in no way good and there's usually a better player around that I'll point out and say that he basically stomps me into the dirt.  One guy then tried to compliment me that I'm humble and I was like.....but I'm bad at this game why would you compliment me?  But I always consider myself to be the lowest status and usually try to make sure to treat other people better because they deserve it.

I'm not exactly sure what mental illness this trait falls under, or if its just severe self-depreciation.  Might be bipolar or depression related then, dunno.  Also I'm finding quicker and quicker alcohol seems to take the edge off of my life and at least lets me temporarily forget how fucking awful of a human being I am.

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14 hours ago, malegusher92 said:

Im sorry to anyone ive insulted here. Im a 25 year old sad single man thats never got past a 1st date and probably never will. I didnt mean to take it out on anyone else. Ive been rejected by women all my life. I dont know how to treat them and I dont even deserve one. I can see already I will be single for the rest of my life

You've literally talked about your past girlfriends elsewhere... And if these posts are the truth and the others not, it might be helpful to look into misogyny and how to get rid of it, that might be a huge factor.

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