ian flemming 231 Posted December 11, 2016 Share Posted December 11, 2016 I have pictures of a ex of mine. but here is the catch . She had spinabifida and it's pictures of her wearing diapers. The wearing was for need. they were with her consent any objections before I post? rachelkirwan 1 Quote Link to comment
Shokushuko 0 Posted December 11, 2016 Share Posted December 11, 2016 Shouldn't you have consent uploading pictures of other people to dodgy sites? I think asking her is a better idea Quote Link to comment
mad cat 390 Posted December 11, 2016 Share Posted December 11, 2016 3 hours ago, Shokushuko said: Shouldn't you have consent uploading pictures of other people to dodgy sites? I think asking her is a better idea Seconded. I don't mind her "affliction" (is that even the right word?), I just don't think you should upload pics your ex made for you... unless you're still in contact and she'd like to have them uploaded. In that case, she'd still better do it herself though. Quote Link to comment
Cire 11 Posted December 11, 2016 Share Posted December 11, 2016 If she was ok with you taking the pictures I see no reason why you cant post them.. facade 1 Quote Link to comment
facade 1,947 Posted December 11, 2016 Popular Post Share Posted December 11, 2016 1 hour ago, CireArts said: If she was ok with you taking the pictures I see no reason why you cant post them.. Because taking pictures and posting them on a public website for all to see are two different things you should get consent for. HPattern, John Cena69, PixelatedHeart and 5 others 8 Quote Link to comment
tennyson 465 Posted December 11, 2016 Share Posted December 11, 2016 No objections at all, if she agrees. I have known women with Spina Bifida and they are as beautiful as any other woman. "Each woman has her own beauty" Spenser (R.B. Parker) Quote Link to comment
ian flemming 231 Posted December 11, 2016 Author Share Posted December 11, 2016 (edited) There not great pic's . she did consent at the time she sent them . She is aware they would likely be posted. she is aware of the abdl community . Edited December 11, 2016 by ian flemming (see edit history) HPattern and Redd 2 Quote Link to comment
tennyson 465 Posted December 12, 2016 Share Posted December 12, 2016 I think any DL photos you can post are good photos. :) Quote Link to comment
ian flemming 231 Posted December 12, 2016 Author Share Posted December 12, 2016 Quote Link to comment
Darth_Thorin 49 Posted December 13, 2016 Share Posted December 13, 2016 Does your ex specifically consent to you posting identifying pics at this moment? Quote Link to comment
ian flemming 231 Posted December 13, 2016 Author Share Posted December 13, 2016 54 minutes ago, diaperboydc said: Does your ex specifically consent to you posting identifying pics at this moment? As I still have a active friendship with her , yes she did consent . I asked her specifically the evening after my original inquiry to the community . "By and by a odd conversation to have with a ex , now friend" Quote Link to comment
Darth_Thorin 49 Posted December 13, 2016 Share Posted December 13, 2016 (edited) I still would not be posting her photos, especially ones with her face at this time without updated, specific consent. You said she is aware of the community. But did she specifically say. "Yes, you may show my face in a publically accessible place for all to see?" Edited December 13, 2016 by diaperboydc (see edit history) John Cena69 1 Quote Link to comment
ian flemming 231 Posted December 13, 2016 Author Share Posted December 13, 2016 (edited) 41 minutes ago, Darth_Thorin said: I still would not be posting her photos, especially ones with her face at this time without updated, specific consent. You said she is aware of the community. But did she specifically say. "Yes, you may show my face in a publically accessible place for all to see?" She has given me direct consent to post pictures as you see them. I have more that she specifically asked me not to post as they are more sexual in nature. These pictures were originally taken as part of a plan to do a product review for incontinence sufferers . It fell through mostly do to lack of planning and motivation . im happy to take them down if they seem dubious , even after my further explanation . Edited December 13, 2016 by ian flemming (see edit history) Quote Link to comment
ravia 229 Posted December 13, 2016 Share Posted December 13, 2016 23 minutes ago, ian flemming said: She has given me direct consent to post pictures as you see them. I have more that she specifically asked me not to post as they are more sexual in nature. These pictures were originally taken as part of a plan to do a product review for incontinence sufferers . It fell through mostly do to lack of planning and motivation . im happy to take them down if they seem dubious , even after my further explanation . If she actually has given you direct consent to post these here, then yes it's fine. Question, you say she knows of the abdl community. Does she know about your specific fetish? Quote Link to comment
ian flemming 231 Posted December 13, 2016 Author Share Posted December 13, 2016 2 hours ago, razified said: If she actually has given you direct consent to post these here, then yes it's fine. Question, you say she knows of the abdl community. Does she know about your specific fetish? That's complicated , she knows I like diapers , but I also never pushed it on her when we were dating . I've written before that when I met her she was using pads , and pull-ups . Was being pushed by her continents nurse to use less and less protection. This led her to having accidents that stained her clothes , and work chairs , led to her firing at a company she was employed at. At that time I started to tell her about what I knew about diapers and helping her find stuff that works. I ended up having to explain why I knew so much about them (diapers) to her. She now is a bit of a advocate to people that are in a similar spot as she was. I.e. being pushed to not use diapers because of the stigma attached. She's a good long time friend who is quirky and honest. Who likes 90's grunge music and mosh pits. In short , I wouldn't post anything about her with our her expressed permission . As well as to not disrespect our community I asked permission just for good measure. Quote Link to comment
thiswasnty 187 Posted December 13, 2016 Share Posted December 13, 2016 I think people may be concerned since spina bifida is one of those "comorbid" medical conditions, where very often the physical disability is accompanied by varying amounts of brain damage, which of course can place someone into a "vulnerable" status as far as sex goes. So many medical conditions can reduce the autonomy of a person but spina bifida is a weird one in that it can be anywhere on the spectrum of neurotypical to basically no cognitive function. That, coupled with the potential for a physical disability to be exploited by a fetish group, results in a bubbling cauldron of concern. Which is a good thing! Concern for others should never seem like it's taking the fun out of something. It's important in any sex matters to make sure everyone involved has consented to what's going down. I don't know why but things like confirmed consent or putting on a condom always seem to get framed as "downers" when they're anything but. You say you asked for permission to post, you say you got it, and that's something for which we should all take you at your word, unless we hear otherwise. I'm glad you've been able to share your "hobby" with another person who seems to have been understanding. Honestly, if she's really doing the "diaper advocate" thing, I would suggest you try and help her rekindle that review concept, or retool it into something similar. As most of us here know, Depend and others are currently heavily pushing the destigmatization of incontinence and I think in some ways, it's happening, while in others, it needs a less corporate face to really get past certain barriers. I think a review vlog is maybe limited in scope because there are a finite amount of products to review, while maybe an ongoing guide to living with diapers/other related stuff from someone who knows what it's like could be quite the successful niche. I'm in full ADHD mode right now, please don't mind my rambling. Quote Link to comment
ian flemming 231 Posted December 13, 2016 Author Share Posted December 13, 2016 The concern is a good thing. With that said she is very much in sound mind . she works in the medical profession has a college degree. A normal vibrant member of society. Quote Link to comment
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