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I've been a member here since January 2015. I guess I spend a bit of time on here, and I'm familiar with most of the regular members. 

Just lately, it seems there are a lot of old threads being revisited, some from 2013. 

Its very interesting to read through the stuff that happened before I joined, but gee whiz, where have these people gone?!!

Its like looking through somebody else's old photo album. Very interesting, but the names and faces mean nothing to you! It appears that a lot of people who posted good content and comments are no longer active here, and that's a shame. 

I can't help but wonder why some people, who judging by their post count were extremely active, are no longer here. Obviously some die, some move on, etc. but as we know, you can't just stop having a fetish. 

I wonder how many are still here under different names, or just lurking. 

Thoughts?

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Interesting observation, Barry. I don't have the answer. I have nominally been a member here for somewhat longer but wasn't a very active one until this year, which is when I really "discovered" it. But I know the site has changed, in format at least, quite recently and I don't know how much connection there is between the format change and the change you're talking about.

The other thing I know is that the closure or policy changes of several other fetish sites over the last couple of years has sent quite a lot of people who used to belong to those sites into "exile". Two such sites are WetPantsBoy and ExperienceProject. Such disruptions have probably scattered a lot of people in different directions looking for a new "home", and I am one of them. And this is where I have landed. That doesn't explain where the older members who were here have gone but it may help to explain the changing demographic of the site.

I hope some people can answer your question and will write here to enlighten us. It is an important question because one thing I came looking for, and have found, to some extent, is community. Therefore I would like to know more about this community.

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I've seen a lot of people come and go in the fetish world over the years.  Most whom I've talked to have left on account of getting into a relationship, or to work on the problems in their current relationship.  Other people get too busy to spend time online, or get paranoid about their cover being blown.  Some find niches to fill on other sites.  Or, like me, they get fed up with bullshit on a site and say screw it. 

I've taken long breaks (sometimes permanently) from sites myself.  Here I was inactive for two years until just recently, and did not use the internet or a computer at all for over a year.  My reasons for doing so were rather complex...I was forced to use a computer all the time in college, and got sick of them.  I was heartbroken, bitter, and would have only spread negativity, and come across like a whiny little pussy online.  I wanted to prove to my kids that it was indeed possible to live a completely exciting life without the internet.  My laptop broke, and I decided not to replace it.

During my break from the internet, I still did make videos to put on xtube.  A friend filmed me with his camera, and did all the editing and posting for me.  I'm actually currently taking a break from making videos, not happy with how my body looks in them compared to my older videos, so I'm doing something about it.   

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I can't say that I'm exactly a regular member, but I haven't been on the site for a while, and this has been my first post for a good amount of time. It's good to be back. I'm glad to see some familiar people back on here. Forgive me if I am just not realizing that there is a simple way to turn it back on, but has the dark theme been restored yet? 

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5 hours ago, alexwbj said:

Interesting observation, Barry. I don't have the answer. I have nominally been a member here for somewhat longer but wasn't a very active one until this year, which is when I really "discovered" it. But I know the site has changed, in format at least, quite recently and I don't know how much connection there is between the format change and the change you're talking about.

The other thing I know is that the closure or policy changes of several other fetish sites over the last couple of years has sent quite a lot of people who used to belong to those sites into "exile". Two such sites are WetPantsBoy and ExperienceProject. Such disruptions have probably scattered a lot of people in different directions looking for a new "home", and I am one of them. And this is where I have landed. That doesn't explain where the older members who were here have gone but it may help to explain the changing demographic of the site.

I hope some people can answer your question and will write here to enlighten us. It is an important question because one thing I came looking for, and have found, to some extent, is community. Therefore I would like to know more about this community.

I know what you mean about Experience Project! That one really pissed me off!

Before we got a home computer, I would often use my work computer to browse that site. Not knowing a lot about computers at that time, and not having a personal email address, I never joined or commented, but would just browse and clear my browser history afterwards. 

Fast forward a couple of years, and finally got a home computer. I joined up there straight away, and tried many times to post rather lengthy stories, (the same childhood memories ones I've posted here,) but they always got rejected. 

It frustrated the absolute fuck out of me, because I would be able to read all of these graphic stories of other people, but I couldn't even say "I remember wetting myself when I was ten."

I was on ADISC for a while, (and still am,) but I got upset there when I didn't log out one day while using my phone, then when I tried getting on the next day, my account had been suspended for ????? (Something like spng, which I'm guessing means spamming or something) but I honestly have no idea why. When they cut you off, you can't even contact them for an explanation! I ended up joining again under a different name, but I don't use it much. That site has really de-volved into a bunch of neurotics all asking for help and advice. And God help you if you should disagree with anyone. 

But it was through that site that I heard of this one, so at least some good came out of it!

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30 minutes ago, Barry said:

I know what you mean about Experience Project! That one really pissed me off!

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Fast forward a couple of years, and finally got a home computer. I joined up there straight away, and tried many times to post rather lengthy stories, (the same childhood memories ones I've posted here,) but they always got rejected....

EP was a rather good site when I first joined, with a stable fetish community and lots of good content and fun stuff. Then it started changing and the changes were not for the better, so some members got upset and complained or left. Some content was removed and members were banned and people got pissed off. It just kept getting worse. They ended up destroying the site, then closed it down. And they destroyed our community in the process. Very sad.

This is the best place I've found since then, I think.

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Very Intersting thread. 

Ive been a member since 2012 but the amount of times I logged in or even visited the site at that time were minimal, I didn't really understand the site, I didn't really understand what it's purpose was at that time. 

Then some time ago I decided to log in and become active, it was them I realised that this is somewhere where I can share my experiences with like minded people without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. I'm a member of a number of other forums (not fetish related) and I can safely say this is the least toxic community I've ever come across. 

I took a break from this site some time ago and tbh I didn't know if I would come back, I didn't feel I had much more to contribute. 

But I imagine there are a whole host of reasons why people leave and don't come back, or perhaps they do intend to return? 

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Some  have members posted outstanding stories but, due to circumstances in real life don't have any new content to post. Perhaps their real life partners did not appreciate their sharing intimate stories, or there is nothing new to talk about.

 Personally, I have not had any new stories to post.

Also I know some members are having difficulty with , or don't like the changes in the new format here. Apparently that is not going to change.

Also, as with anything in life , people leave organizations and new one join.

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13 hours ago, alexwbj said:

EP was a rather good site when I first joined, with a stable fetish community and lots of good content and fun stuff. Then it started changing and the changes were not for the better, so some members got upset and complained or left. Some content was removed and members were banned and people got pissed off. It just kept getting worse. They ended up destroying the site, then closed it down. And they destroyed our community in the process. Very sad.

This is the best place I've found since then, I think.

When was EP ever a good site?  When I was on it, it was garbage, to put it mildly, full of fish stories, fakes, and the classic attention whores who just had to create "I love [their own EP username]" as experiences.  I got fed up with digging for real experiences, and left.  I wasn't around when it started changing, but I'm glad it's gone now, that was the best thing I heard all day!

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I met some wonderful people at EP, but in 2014 the censors ruined the site. Too bad. I hope the owners lost everything.

I have even more of a gripe with PeeSearch. The PS moderators in 2011 were very intrusive and had unchecked authority, and their decisions were not explained and could not be appealed. But I made some great friends there too.

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This is something I wonder now and again. When I first joined the site in 2012 there were quite a few people who I talked to regularly and were pretty good friends with who have since disappeared. Although its sad that they are no longer active I do like seeing new people becoming regular posters and getting to know them. 

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I've been a member for over 6 years now and I've seen a lot of people come and go. Some people come, get worn out, move on in life. Some people come here in early adulthood, then go to school and get married and while the fetish won't go away, a community like omo-org may no longer fit into their lives. Time passes, people change. I've seen people show up, pump out an insane amount of content, and depart as fast as they've shown up, a quick burn out type.

There's also the fact that quite a few people on here have tended to not be who they've seemed to be. I've got quite a few friends on here and as a result I've heard quite a few stories, some that didn't surprise me, and some that honestly did.

Nonetheless, the winds of change come and go. I'm personally not surprised a thing like this occurs, in fact its only natural in my opinion. I'd be weirded out if it was any other way.

I even know personally a person who loves this site, but due to an extenuating life circumstance likely won't be visiting it anymore by 2017. Just you know, shit happens.

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9 hours ago, gobphus said:

 

I have even more of a gripe with PeeSearch. The PS moderators in 2011 were very intrusive and had unchecked authority, and their decisions were not explained and could not be appealed. But I made some great friends there too.

A guy I knew was banned from PS for speaking out against a racist comment left on a file by another user, but the racist was allowed to continue spreading their venom.  I never wanted anything to do with the site after hearing that.  Someone also joined PS claiming to be me, I found out about it through friends who used the site.

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As a new member, I've spent a good amount of time reviewing this site's history. Many points of view, likes and dislikes, things that must be just so - as you say - it's a fetish. Lucy said it best: grow, get into a relationship, move on. Still, from one person's overview, I see this forum rumbling along with occasional  gleams of talent in media and personalities for many years to come.

It now seems to be a fomenting time, when the writing is fresh and wild and growing. As the talent matures, it gets sent off into the Amazon World and flies away. There is a great amount of really good writing here hidden away in a medieval labyrinth of episodes and comments, and all but unusable!

Unless members PM regularly, develop a subterranean culture if you will, the surface omo forum will chug safely along providing advice, comfort and endless titillation for the erotic romantic oddballs, of which I've proudly been a part of for many wonderful years.

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I'd like to try to provide an alternate perspective for you. ^.^

As someone who has been using omorashi.org since early 2011, not more than a year after it was created I think? maybe a year and a half.. When I first made my account I was mostly just a very active reader and occasional commentor on a few threads for about a year and then I took a pretty long break from the site. Eventually after a year or two of not signing in and occasionally reading a random thread I'd stumble upon, I ended up become pretty active again and actually tried to become pretty active on the site. I may not be on the forums as often as I'd like, but I'm still in the IRC daily now.

Now for the part I actually meant to talk about. It was especially noticeable when I first came back after that long break, but even now I'm still surprised by the number of people I get to meet and recognize from back when I was a lurker on the site's early days. It was almost like getting to meet the people I'd looked up to and getting to have a regular conversation with them, an example was getting to talk to the story writer that wrote  [this masterpiece] (That story is how I found omorashi.org for the very first time and it was the reason I made an account, I still love it and respect the author! ). Or getting to talk to some of the other frequent posts from the original days of this site. Say OmoCommando, or LivingInfinite, who I realize now made accounts around the same time as myself but became active much earlier. Or even some of the old mods (From back when omorashi.org had a team of mods that helded kirito), like Ranpalan and Ronyo, or Antifairy (now known as Facade). Or even getting to catch online and get to know LedinWind a little bit, seriously go to the members list and sort by joined date, and go to the final page, see who the oldest member is.  (edit: I'll go on and admit right here this whole paragraph has basically been me fanboying over various personas on a fetish site ._. not my proudest realization, but I don't regret or take back any of it.)

All of this wasn't until in the 3+ years after my account had been made, since that was when I really started to introduce myself and post and stay on IRC. (so, more than a year ago now, but not more than 2-2.5)  And with few exceptions every one I named is still active, even if only occasionally now.

To give a more legitimate reason for your question though. People change, people may lose interest in the fetish itself and see no reason to be here even if they could just use the site as a general community and not get involved with omo. People get busy, life happens, they grow up or find themselves in new situations that limit their free time and they forget about places like this easily. I mentioned going to the members area and sorting by joined date. Do that again, except in the filter, only show users that have more than 1 post. Note how many there are in the last week, thats how many new people joined this site in the last week and contributed one (or in some cases more) posts. Of those a small percentage will continue to use this site and get upwards of 10-20 posts. And of those far fewer than 1 per week will actually be here actively a year from now. It's just the nature of online communities in general. So that is why when you look at posts from 2013 you'll see so many users that have <50 posts and only used this site for a few months before disappearing. And soo soo many more commentors on those threads with a fraction of that post count and staying time, who've made in the single digits of posts and left after a week or two.

 

(Sorry for the long post, when I started writing this it was seriously supposed to be about a single paragraph of a couple sentences >.< I might have gotten a bit nostalgic retelling my point of view.) And it's worth noting that the names I mentioned are only a fraction of the number of people I could have, there are so many more that I remember from the original years and still have the opportunity to strike up conversation with. 

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On 10/9/2016 at 6:25 PM, facade said:

I'm sorry, "antifairy"? I don't know this name and have never gone by it.

We have always been at war with Eurasia. :P

Personally I find myself getting on here less and less lately, but that has less to do with waning interest and more to do with so many other things eating up my time and attention, like work and the book I'm trying to write and publish. Not sure exactly where the line is between actively leaving and no longer visiting, but probably some people have stumbled into that.

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I think I was mentioned! Thanks for the shout out FallingDusk.

But I pretty much am just gonna echo the same things people have been saying; we all get older and our lives change for one reason or another. I know my reason is because I now have a pretty time consuming job and I'm there 6 days a week for 10 hours a day (Sometimes 7 if I wanna work on Sunday). I just no longer have the time to go through each new topic and be as active as I once was. If I have the time and feel like giving the effort, I'll share something that I think the community will like.. but that just doesn't happen as much anymore. I'm still into the fetish and my fascination with it hasn't wavered but.. showing the internet world how much just doesn't fit in my schedule anymore. As I'm typing this, I'm in my work clothes at 3:45am because I got off of work about an hour ago. (Damn Daylights Saving making time roll back an hour)

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Hey! I'm still here, babbling on about weapons and hating chipboard in between Omorashi stuff!

I think some people do stuff like change username and profile picture, which can cause confusion. Besides that, some members may forget the site for a while (going to other Omorashi ones instead) or may even have other interests/fetishes that are stronger than this one. Who knows?

Perhaps some get partners/spouses and this site may be considered porn or some such. I know if/when I have a girlfriend/wife, I would want to explain this site to her and have her involved in seeing what I do here (to avert false suspicions and alleviate paranoia). Others may quit the website instead.

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People who were highly active in this forums early years were younger and had a lot more time then they do now. But there is another reason that never gets covered that much and it is the very simple fact that we saw everything there is to be seen concerning the fetish. There are only so many ways you can discuss and explore a topic and that includes fetishes, if I had a penny for every single time I've seen repeat topics I wouldn't need a job to pay the bills. People get bored and move on, splintering off and forming groups that originated from here.

There is also the fact that when this site was new people who joined generally hadn't been part of something like before and it was highly novel, everything we talked about was new and we were laying the foundations, very large amounts of content were placed here by a comparative few which everyone may enjoy.

Also, concerning something someone mentioned: roughly 90% of all users will do nothing of constructive value on this forum, they will never talk, nor upload files, or in fact make any difference. These are the people who swing by, get their porn, and leave. The remaining 10% do everything, and even then only a fraction of that adds significant levels of content.

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On ‎20‎/‎11‎/‎2016 at 2:26 AM, Ronyo said:

Also, concerning something someone mentioned: roughly 90% of all users will do nothing of constructive value on this forum, they will never talk, nor upload files, or in fact make any difference. These are the people who swing by, get their porn, and leave. The remaining 10% do everything, and even then only a fraction of that adds significant levels of content.

Ooh! Do I count for the gold star?

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I've been on the site for 4 years though I definitely used it without an account for awhile before that.

I probably get a post in every few days or so now but there's times I take a few months off and times I go nuts posting a bunch.   I'd never permanently leave unless my significant other wanted me to.  It really is a nicely set up and run site, ty Kirito.

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I can't believe I've been on this forum for 6+ years.  I joined back when it was AnimePee if I remember correctly.

I was pretty quiet at first.  I share 0 experiences here, other than an occasional video (but male wetting really isn't an interesting subject for a website and kink that's  seemingly dominated by the same gender).  Mainly because I don't think people want to read experiences about myself.  Back in 2014 before we had an interactive story forum, I dabbled with writing one.  I sort of let it drop but since activity in that forum seems to be pretty active now and I actually want to work on my writing skills (or lack thereof, I feel like I'm probably not the best writer), I revived it and started posting that.  Honestly my story will probably be my "project" on this site.  As long as people are interested in it I'll keep posting.

 

Otherwise I'd been absent due to bouts of depression caused by my bipolar disorder, a lack of interest due to it as well.  Other reasons why I didn't post as much is also work-related and time-constraints IRL.  But I'm trying to keep up with my work now since people have told me my story content was pretty good.

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