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Not to forget myself, I too have Asperger's Syndrome (according to the doctor's diagnosis). I tend to find the reason for misery is other people, especially ones whom do not understand us and share a

In Japan it is thought to be shameful to have diagnosed mental issues, but my parents did not agree with that because they are very progressive.

Yes, I have done quite a lot to defend women from being terrorised. In Hitomi's case, I heard of her from my friend Rin, a police officer, who said that her boyfriend Akira had forced her to go to the

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I have it, although I literally have problems admitting it just because I don't want to be made fun of. It makes it even worse for me because there's virtually no talk at all of autistic/Aspie girls anywhere, and no representation in the media. It makes me unwilling to admit to such a thing until we fix that. I know autism itself is far more common in boys than girls, after all, how many guys have responded in this forum, but that doesn't mean girls don't have it!

 

And damn, Japan's that bad? I remember reading something somewhere recently that talked about how Japan has really good special education, especially for people with autism. Plus, a recent Japanese movie featured a main female hero-with autism! Hearing that they still think that way towards mental disorders is news to me.

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I recall being diagnosed with mild Asperger's while in elementary school, which was probably related to my anger issues. I used to get irrationally angry over silly things and get into fights with other kids. But that all changed drastically in middle school since I didn't want to make that impression in a new environment. So while I can still be socially awkward at times today, I'm not really sure if it was a significantly strong autism for me. Most likely environmental in my case, but even if I did have it, then I've since learned to suppress it.

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Me too. I wasn't diagnosed untik my 20s. I was mostly nonverbal until about 4. Repetitive ticking sounds were terrifying to me., so there could be no clocks in the house. I had many anxieties and over reacted to discipline.

After squating on the floor once, I was compelled to ask for permission to visit the bathroom because I attached the punishment with the urge to go. This was an almost obsessive compulsion, even though it was embarrassing to ask. If too many people were around, I'd try to hide my desperation so that no one would find out because I'd want to ask in privacy. Peeing outside wasn't on option because I thought somebody would see me that I would hold.it in and hide my need or lie about it if asked up to the moment I went in my clothes.

At about the age of eight, I got over asking permission at home, but had already lost my fear of wetting myself.

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Yes, although I don't think it has a big impact on my life now. I work in a job that requires focus and logical thinking, so I do well. I've noticed most of the people I would count as friends work in fields such as engineering or IT and have a similar personality to me, so I gravitate towards those sorts of calm, logical environments and avoid others such as sports events, bars, clubs, etc where people tend to be overly emotional or extroverted. That helps a lot. I stopped trying to fit into mainstream society a long time ago and have felt a lot happier since. If I am forced to venture into 'non-aspie friendly' environments then I'm good at pretending. So I rarely feel anything but 'normal'.

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I have no diagnosis of any kind.... but sometimes I wonder. Oddly enough, I work with people who have autism and other developmental challenges on the autism spectrum, so I've seen and studied the symptoms. Maybe it's countertransference, but I can't help but notice similarities between myself and the people I work with. I do well in my work because I'm really, really good at connecting with the client I serve.... but in terms of connecting with neurotypical family members, both clients and my own, I really, really struggle. I've always felt alien, no matter where I was - always perceived that there was something just a bit different about me, which prevented me from connecting fully with others. They never completely understand me, and I never completely understand them.

 

On a more concrete note, the older I get, the more I conscious I am becoming that I don't read social cues very well. For example, I attended a dance in the last year with a family member, where they introduced me to several of their coworkers. One coworker of hers kept asking me if I enjoyed dancing, and if I planned to dance at any point during the night. I kept answering him honestly that I didn't know, that I enjoyed Zumba but I didn't really know any other forms of dancing, and had never done it before. He persisted in following me around and asking me questions about dancing for at least a half an hour, before, after my family member told me flat out that I should at least try to dance a little, that I realized that her coworker had been trying to ask me to dance with him. Situations like this have happened multiple times before - I've been hit on by people and not realized until days or even weeks later, usually with someone else telling me after I mention the person's strange behavior, that they were hitting on me. And I constantly seem to be having conversations where something is just a little off, and I can't tell what, and then much later, as I'm thinking about it, I realize that the other person really didn't care about what I was saying and just wanted to leave the conversation.

 

I also have what I have come to recognize as some kind of sensory problem, particularly with sounds. I hate background noise; for example, if someone turns on the dishwasher or a laundry machine while I am trying to watch television, I am unable to hear the dialogue and have to use the subtitles, even though the machines are not even in the same room. Even with the subtitles, I feel myself becoming very agitated. I also struggle with music in public places such as stores and restaurants; apparently, when I am exposed to such sounds, I end bouncing or rocking or performing odd little gestures with my hands. I don't always notice I'm doing these things, but I've had people I'm out with grab my hands to stop them, or tell me to calm down, which is rather embarrassing. I think sensory difficulties may have contributed to my current love of omorashi, as I always seemed to have a hard time sensing when I needed to go; I would always wet, usually from laughing, without having experienced any sensation at all of needing to go. This still happens to me on a not-infrequent basis, probably every six weeks or so.

 

I also experience what I have come to recognize as some symptoms of social anxiety. I hate making telephone calls and answering the phone; I'm always afraid I will say something wrong, and that the person I am talking to will get angry - I even dread talking to my own parents on the phone, even though I have done it many times, and I logically know that it is always pleasurable when it actually happens. I get nervous about going out in public with people and often end up being silent for long periods of time when I do go out with friends. I have one friend with whom I am relatively comfortable, and two other friends whom I am friends with because they are friends with my first friend. Another weird, random example is that I cannot stand to shop in the same aisle in the supermarket at the same time as someone else. I'm terrified of being too close in the same space with them. I'm also afraid that they might look at what I am buying - even if it's something absolutely without stigma, like peanut butter.

 

Perhaps the most difficult thing, though, is that I get "stuck" fairly often. There will be something I want to do, like cook, or clean, or get up and go to the store or to the gym - and while these things may sound like chores, I genuinely want to do them , and have often been looking forward to doing them - but I can't. I literally cannot make myself get up from my bed or my chair and do them. I think about the process, over and over, and am stuck just thinking about it. If I even start to move, my brain will supply "one more thing" I have to do while I am sitting, before I can get up and do whatever it is I would like to do. I don't even WANT to do these other things, but something in my brain compels me to do them before I can do what I really want to do. As a result, I feel like I don't accomplish very much, which is very frustrating to me.

 

In addition, when I am seeing some of my clients and their family members say "He/she keeps doing this, and we don't know why," I find myself saying (at least 4-5x per week) "Oh, you know, I always did that at that age, too, and it was because ____." I look back over my childhood, and many idiosyncrasies my parents report that I had as a child come straight off a list of behaviors which are considered warning signs for autism or Asperger's.

 

Again, technically, I have never been diagnosed. Maybe I'm just interpreting things in light of what I see from my clients, transferring their behaviors onto myself. But I can't help but think I have SOMETHING going on, even if it's not autism or Asperger's. What do you think? I would welcome insight, particularly from those who deal with the diagnosis, to see if any of you have similar experiences.

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It's hard to really tell if someone is autistic just from a description, so I would suggest speaking to your doctor if you think it would help getting a formal diagnosis. I've met a lot of other autistic people over the years and we are all a bit different in terms of 'autistic traits'. I normally find it much much easier to talk to other autistic people, which is generally how I can tell. My family and teachers called me a 'friendly computer' when I was little and I think that's quite a good description. When I meet other 'friendly computers' I can just relax and be myself and they just understand what I mean and vice versa. Everything just makes sense. There is no need to try and read between the lines as we just say exactly what we think and no one is offended. With a non-autistic person I always feel as though they are speaking in a different language and I only understand half the words. In the situation you described above, an autistic person would just ask 'do you want to dance with me now?' rather than go through all that ridiculous subtle hinting.

 

As for physical mannerisms, I think that also varies. When I was younger I really enjoyed anything spinning or that made me spin - first it was a spinning top toy, then I had a fascination with sticking my head inside the empty washing machine and spinning it around really fast, then those spinning rides at the park. I would get my older relatives to swing me around in the air whenever I saw them. I just found any spinning sensation really calming. If I couldn't spin then I would sometimes rock to get the same feeling. I still occasionally do this now if I'm by myself and feeling really stressed or listening to music, although I try not to as it looks really odd to other people that might walk in. I didn't really do the 'flapping' mannerisms that people associate with autistic kids. I went through a stage where I would continuously tap or count everything, but I quickly grew out of that after kids at school kept pointing it out.

 

Not connecting with other kids was definitely a huge problem for me. I was terrified of school and felt as though I was being locked inside a zoo with wild animals. I had no idea what was going on most of the time, despite doing really well academically. I couldn't follow spoken instructions or do any group work. It was just chaotic. I would scream and beg my parents not to leave me there at the start of every day and for a long time I was convinced they hated me and I was being punished for something I had done wrong. Even now it makes me feel a bit sick thinking about it, although as an adult I logically understand why I felt that way. I wasn't properly diagnosed until high-school, so up until that point I wasn't a very happy child.

 

Sensory issues I definitely recognise. I have synesthesia and get mixed up with sound and vision/textures. It's great when I'm alone and can watch classical music or some really interesting dubstep. I basically get a really colourful movie when I hear sounds. But if I'm in public around other people or trying to watch something and can hear noise at the same time then it gets really overwhelming and confusing. Multiple conversations in a group just overlap and become one giant conversation that makes no sense. Trying to hear someone on the end of a phone when there are other people talking in an office is just impossible. I would probably find it really weird and dull just hearing sound without any colours or textures and I only discovered three years ago that most people don't experience sounds in the same way, so I always assumed people were being deliberately irritating by talking over music or each other. Just hearing sound by itself would definitely make every day life a whole lot easier! I've met other people who have issues with smell or taste or mix numbers with colours, but I've never experienced that. I'm very good at maths and pattern recognition, but numbers are just plain numbers to me. So I don't think there is any set rule for sensory issues amongst autistic people.

 

I don't mind being near other humans, although I don't like being hugged or grabbed tightly even by my own family. I really really hated it when I was younger, but as an adult I've learned to deal with it as I know other people see it as a positive and caring gesture rather than a threat. I also don't mind socialising with other people, although as I mentioned before I tend to hang out with other very logical, blunt, unemotional people and don't go to loud or crazy places. I definitely don't care if other people see what I'm buying in shops. Most of the time I don't really consider what other people are thinking about me. I probably should as I know how others view me can have a positive or negative impact on my life. I would likely be a lot more antisocial and dislike going out in public if I was forced to be around non-autistic people all the time (and non-autistic people would likely find me just as exhausting)!

 

I don't think I've ever experienced the 'stuck' sensation that you mention. If anything, I tend to get really focused on something and find it hard to remember to stop and change what I'm doing (like remembering to eat or sleep). I write myself a list every day of the things I need to do, so I usually just follow that. I also have certain fixed routines for every day stuff - like getting ready in the mornings. Every single minute is planned out in advance and if I get interrupted then it's really disorientating and almost painful. Or I have reminders set up on my phone/computer (at work, for example, as my schedule sometimes changes and I use technology to keep track of what I'm supposed to be doing at certain times). I don't like just sitting around doing nothing unless I'm asleep, so I get a lot done. But perhaps other autistic people have experienced that 'stuck' sensation and can advise you better.

 

If any of the issues you described are bothering you or having a negative effect on your life then go and speak to your doctor and ask to be referred to a specialist. I'm sure they could help you out. I've had a lot of help from various people at different stages of my life and it has definitely made things easier. I can function really well now. I've just had to learn 'cheat modes' for certain things that didn't come naturally.

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I also have Asperger’s (although I personally don’t like the term) and one of the worst parts of it for me is when people accuse me of faking it.

 

When I ask people why I would do this I am most often told that it is probably for attention, avoiding responsibility, or both.

 

Some people I know have even suggested that I might be doing this for free diapers, etc. People  who say this don’t know that the “free diapers” thing is a complete myth.

 

 I have some Depend Night Defense undergarments that I got at Target a while back when I had urgency and leakage from a large (roughly 8 mm) kidney stone and they were definitely not free.

 

 I am also interested in Omo but I haven’t practiced it as much since last year’s kidney stone because I don’t want another one if I can avoid it.

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