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This is a topic that was suggested to me by somebody that I chat with in private who noticed that there are some women who have small bladders and yet they will drink a lot and go out and take their chances with becoming desperate. And yet there are other women who are more careful and plan their day around bathroom access and things of that nature. So my question here for everyone is how does your bladder dictate your activities if at all? Does having a small bladder make you restrict liquid intake or make you more cautious about bathroom access, or does having a big bladder make you completely oblivious to any problems like that that might arise and perhaps get you into trouble. I can say that for my part I am normally near a bathroom and I always stay well hydrated and everything. When I am out I always make sure to know exactly where the bathrooms are when I arrive at a place and know when I will have access to a bathroom. But the most part it's not an issue, although I go to the bathroom frequently I am usually not wanting for a bathroom. The only exception was during my summer job when I had to wait 6 1/2 hours without a bathroom, during which time I made sure to carefully limit my intake of liquids and tried to minimize my movements to a bare minimum. That was one situation where my bladder and the fullness thereof definitely dictated how my day went and it was quite a harsh new reality! I went from being home all the time having the bathroom inches away to suddenly having to plan my day around the fact that my bladder was getting consistently fuller with each passing hour. It was certainly eye-opening and made me realize the importance of taking into consideration things like liquid intake and bathroom access, because when you are without it you have to be much more careful! But normally my bladder size has little impact on my day-to-day life. And going along with the other topic that I started you about does bathroom access affect your patronage I would say that for the most part despite the fact that I pee often I probably wouldn't boycott a place simply because it has bad bathroom access, if all other things were equal. But I know that there are definitely some people who have small bladders and you are out and about and they have to really take things into consideration, such as access to a bathroom and how much liquid they will take. And also I think that every woman, regardless of bladder size, when she has to go to the bathroom at a crowded place has to take into account the fact that there might be a very long line, so you had better not wait until the last moment! You do so at your own peril! Men of any bladder size usually don't have such concerns.

Okay so here's something that has been on my mind that, as I think most people who have followed my posts and my blog by now know this summer I had a job where I had basically no toilet access all day and ended up having to hold it for about 6 1/2 hours and then by the end of the day was pretty much bursting. As I have also said this experience proved particularly humbling to me given my previous attitudes of finding seeing women in that situation rather amusing. But the thing is before I had that experience myself I would often ask other women who had been in that situation themselves how do you deal with that without going completely freaking insane?! And I would try to offer advice I couldn't you just do this or do that etc. and often the answer was no, sometimes there are situations where as a woman you simply have to hold it because there is no other practical option available. And I realize now that trying to advise somebody on their situation when you haven't experienced it yourself and don't really know what they're going through can sometimes perhaps be a little bit patronizing, like can't you just do this sort, what's wrong with you how could you possibly accept something like that?! Doesn't it drive you crazy?! And here's where the humility part came in, because when I found myself in that situation I would talk to other people about it and they would start asking me the same questions. But can't you do this or can't you do that? And with gritted teeth I would have to reply, no, sometimes simply the only option is that you just have to hold it in. And even though people were trying to be helpful at the same time you are thinking, you have no idea what the situation is like, you don't know what you are talking about. So the crazy thing is that I always thought that any woman who had a job like that would just go crazy after a few days. But people would tell me you can get used to anything, and that was perhaps the one piece of advice that I should have really listened to and taken to heart. You think there's no way I could possibly just go all day without a bathroom, sure millions of other women do it, but not me, I'm special, there's no way that I could possibly do that. And that you find yourself in that situation and you find yourself doing what all these other women have done before you, you hold it because you have to hold it. And sometimes that's the only option, your options are hold it or hold it some more. So you just sort of cross your legs, smile and hold it and try to be as pleasant as possible just like all those millions of other women did before you and do every day. After all that though I still think that there must be millions of women out there who just silently seem to go along with this, and I have to think that there must be women out there who are holding very full bladders all the time, and yet they have just gotten so used to that's that they don't even think about it. I never reached that stage, believe me every single day I was at work I was thinking, how on earth do other women manage to put up with this?! I mean maybe it was just because up until then I had been really privileged and not having to deal with it, but when you really really have to pee and you just have to hold it you simply have no choice, so you do what you've gotta do. And after all of that the only advice that I could come up with for a person in that situation is you gotta do what you gotta do, however unpleasant it is, it comes with the territory. Sometimes you have to hold it all day, then wait through traffic praying that it goes quickly and then fight a bunch of other women to be first in line for the restroom so that you can use the less than wonderful toilet because you're just so happy to use it. As humbled as I was by the experience as soon as it was over I had to admit that I was back to my old ways. The wheel of karma had been harsh to me and while I learned many lessons, as soon as I was freed from this hell without toilets I was immediately back to my old ways, secretly hoping to find another woman who had my terrible luck to be stuck in a situation where she has no bathroom all day at work while I was now once again among the toilet enfranchised. But the truth is I really didn't find any other women who had been in that situation, so my chances to enjoy the situation that so many have enjoyed seeing me in simply did not come up. And now it's the holiday season, a season many people make holiday wishes. So I guess I was sort of making a holiday wish that please please please let me find another woman in that situation that I found myself in. Then one day I get a call from my old employer saying Jill you did such a good job at your job we would like to have you back on a more long-term basis starting in the new year. And of course being a self published novelist is not a high-paying job, so it was pretty much a no-brainer that I wasn't going to turn down the opportunity for an actual job. So that is the story of how your good friend Jill went from being a woman who always had access to toilets, to finding herself among that group that she once ridiculed as insane, women who have to hold it at work for whatever reason, because that's what you gotta do when you gotta do what you gotta do, to finding herself freed from the female desperation dystopia that she found herself in, only to find herself now once again, and on a more permanent basis one of those women who has to learn to deal with having a job where you can't always pee when you want to, because sometimes your only option is to hold it, hold it and hold it some more. So to all of you people out there, particularly you women out there who have long endured careers that didn't allow you for frequent bathroom access, women who I might have poked fun at in the past, do you have any advice, however patronizing for a woman who now finds herself among your ranks on a long-term basis as one of your fellow sisters in holding for an indefinite amount of time. Again I realize the supreme irony of the situation, so for anyone who wants to be snarky go right ahead, I probably deserve it. So if your advice is sorry Princess it looks like you're going to have to get used to holding it just like all these other women do, I fully accept that advice because when it comes down to it, what are you really going to do? And for all those who enjoyed hearing of my bathroom ordeal, Merry Christmas, it looks like Santa gave you what you wanted, so you're going to have a very happy new year at the expense of one woman's very full bladder.