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DakotaDriver

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  1. It took me many months of using diapers to really train myself to be comfortable wetting in them. It's hard to unlearn "clothes on = no pee". Even worse to do it while laying in bed or sitting in a normal chair or any other position where normally you'd never go. As others have said, a great way to get started is to be in a "normal" peeing spot while in a diaper, and train yourself to be comfortable peeing there. Eg, on the toilet or in the shower. Just relax, pretend you're using the toilet like you always do- it'll flow eventually. Once you've become accustomed to using it you can try graduating on to a more difficult position, like standing in front of the toilet, squatting, etc... Do it REGULARLY! If you want the best fastest results try to wet a diaper or pants at least once a day or every other day. My months of effort (really probably a year+) was very intermittent, only getting to do it once every few weekends just due to life stuff. That makes it infinitely harder. I saw the biggest changes on weeks where I got to use it at least once every day. But then take regular breaks to ensure you don't lose any of the normal bladder training. I have NEVER experienced any reduction in my normal day-to-day control myself, so rest easy there. It only gets hard to hold when I'm wearing a diaper, because that's how I've conditioned myself. I've also found that since it is a fetish, I'll get too excited about using a diaper to actually release. So consider taking care of those things before starting...
  2. Also male, but i do greatly enjoy the feeling of having freshly trimmed balls when padded. Hair tends to make the padding itchy but it's so incredibly comfortable when things are nice and smooth.
  3. It's partially a mental thing, partially a physical thing. (I am a man for context- but these principles seem to be mostly universal) It's mostly mental. When you are sitting in a position where you wouldn't normally pee, your mind is automatically in "hold it" mode and clenches your pelvic muscles gently, but involuntarily. That's what potty training as a toddler does- your parents told you to ONLY pee in a toilet, and not while standing, sitting, or anywhere in your pull-ups. That mental bloc takes quite some effort to overcome, because it's ingrained so deep into your subconscious and ultimately becomes a trained reflex of the brain stem that controls your autonomic functions. The mental bloc is only ever overcome with repetition and practice. You have to rewrite your brain to accept that being in a diaper, in any position, is OK to pee in. So just like your original potty training- you have to do it over and over again whenever you are free, putting on a diaper, and peeing in it freely in any position that lets it happen. Every time you do it, tell yourself in your head or out loud that it's OK to pee in your diaper, diapers are safe, you can pee here. Yes, this sounds like rubbish, but it has a surprising effect over time. Eventually, your mind will grow comfortable with the idea of letting go in some nice, cozy padding. (You could try one of those bedwetter hypnosis programs available online too- but you have to be receptive to it, which I am very much not.) Personally, I found that I had to wear and use pretty regularly (at least once every 1-2 days) for about a month before I started to get really comfortable with peeing in positions other than standing up. The longer you can consistently wear, the better. It took at least two weeks of wearing to bed every single night, and not ever leaving the bed until i've peed in the diaper, to get comfortable with peeing laying down without a fight. Sitting was always the worst- it doesn't help that my thunder thighs tend to make the pee pool up in front and overflow, where worries of leaks onto my nice office chair add a new hurdle to overcome. The mental reflex also seems to weaken when your diaper is already damp. Something about being wet down there makes it easier to pee. You could pre-dampen the diaper with a few ounces of lukewarm water before you sit down to see if that helps- or just pee standing up, then sit down 'till the next time you need to pee. --- It's partially physical too. Sitting puts pressure on your kegels and generally compresses everything in your pelvis area. So does keeping your legs together (typical sitting posture), which means there's a lot of stuff keeping the walls of your urethra pushed together, which takes quite a bit of extra force to overcome. That's something your natural reflex might not want to do. except in the cases of stress incontinence- where some sudden internal force in your abdominal cavity (sneezing) pushes past a sphincter that doesn't tighten up in time.. This isn't as easy to overcome. I find that if the flow is not forthcoming, holding myself up off the seat by my arms for 5-10 seconds while relaxing my pelvic muscles is often enough to get the flow started. Once it's started about 70% of the time I can let myself back down to sitting normally and it'll keep going. Also try to sit with your legs spread apart, at about a 45deg angle from one another.
  4. It's not often I wear to bed, but I'm usually completely dry when I do. Mentally it still doesn't really feel right to be damp at all when trying to get to sleep. And I never seem to have much luck just getting a "little damp"... lol. I only have access to the Walmart tape-ups and their capacity isn't always the best anyway, so staying dry gives me the best chances to not leak in the morning. Now, I have on multiple occasions, been able to wake up around 3-4am with a need to pee, let it out after a little effort, and then go back to sleep afterwards. That seems to work just fine.
  5. The idea of hypnosis putting me completely out of my own control, forcing me to pee myself, is a big one. Unfortunately my mind and iron bladder seems to not be receptive to that. Another more accessible one involving my minor BSDM kink would be to do a hold till I'm fairly desperate, then be tied up quite tightly in the thickest diaper you can buy, so I can't put my legs together or physically hold myself at all. And then be given regular fluids until I have no choice but to repeatedly potty in my diaper, maybe even until I leak.
  6. My grandparent's old house had a full tile bathroom with a no-step walk in shower. Everything drained to the shower drain and you could basically hose the whole thing down if you wanted. So yeah. Probably that.
  7. A very simple rule I thought up to add some excitement, and minimize how much control you think you have. IMO this will be the most fun in diapers, but it's quite applicable to those who prefer normal wetting too. It will also work the best for those of you with weaker bladders that tend to leak a lot. Unfortunately I have an iron bladder that basically doesn't leak at all until I start having straight up abdomen contractions, so I don't think it's going to work well on me, but I'm going to try it tonight anyway. The one simple rule: Start your holds as you normally do, whatever you do, and go about your business. The only thing that changes now? As soon as you leak once, even a little drop or spurt, you must IMMEDIATELY relax and release your entire bladder right there. No ifs, ands, or buts. No repositioning, no checking if your diaper's in the right spot, you just piss yourself right there, because you clearly don't have any control, right? You never really know exactly when you'll let go.... Now you get to feel the battle to stay dry without that uncomfortably long period of leak-stop-leak-stop where nothing is really happening. 🙂 try it, and report back on your experience!
  8. Yes, I have no issues with continence when not diapered. I have always had to wake up and consciously make a decision to wet, it's just the act of wetting itself that's gotten progressively easier. I have a lot of shit going on in my life right now so I only wear very occasionally- maybe once every few weekends at most. Unless you really want to commit to potentially losing your night-time control, I'd probably keep it casual like that. Going every-night can and eventually will turn you into a bedwetter, if you let it.
  9. It's all in your mind. You've been trained for your entire life that the bed is not the right place to pee, so your subconscious will always fight you to hold back. You need time to re-train, so that peeing in bed while wearing a diaper is OK. (Feeling sexual excitement from peeing a diaper doesn't help either...) Drink more water before bed so you have to pee more. Just having a stronger urge often helps. I found when I first started wearing to bed, I would sometimes have to lay there for an hour intermittently relaxing and trying to push before I could get the flow started, and even then wouldn't usually have more than just a little trickle... It took a couple months of occasional wearing, plus a week or two of constant wearing with a few 24/7 days mixed in, before I really started to get comfortable with peeing in a diaper while in bed. Now, even though I only wear maybe once every couple weeks, it's quite easy to let go while laying down. You may also try standing up to pee, getting the flow started, then immediately laying back down. Once you've "broken the seal" it's easier to keep peeing. Or, if you still can't keep the flow going: get up, pee, lay back down, and stay in the wet diaper for a bit. Just getting used to the feeling of "being wet is OK and normal" helps break down your subconscious barriers. Keep up with it, try to wear and pee consistently every night for a week, or even a month. Everyone is different so your results will vary, but you'll get it eventually given enough time.
  10. Maybe not after, but part of my loss of bladder control (the all of two times I've been able to reach it) involves insanely strong contractions of my pelvic muscles forcing the pee out against my will. Like, actually doubling me over kind of contractions. As soon as they start I feel euphoria like I definitely had a full orgasm. Which I'm not sure if it's a result of, or a cause of, the strong contractions.
  11. The idea of not having to change or even think about the bathroom for a whole day sounds great. But if I stay wet more than 3-4 hours I start to rash up and it's not particularly fun. Let alone the fact that finding a diaper that could hold up to 24 hours of my kidneys is not exactly practical.... lol.
  12. This one is an all time personal favorite: https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5dac16bc4b9e1
  13. I happened to watch an older LockPickingLawyer video on a time-lock that can be set only to open after some set amount of time. Obviously, it is of plastic construction and ridiculously easy to break or bypass, but it's still an interesting concept. I was wondering if anyone here has ever used one in their omo/DL adventures, either alone or with a partner? It seems like it could be quite exciting even just by yourself, to load up on liquids, get all dressed up (or wrapped in a diaper), then time lock yourself to your bed for some x number of hours, completely removing your choice in the matter of when you get to pee. Preferably long enough that you just can't quite make it...
  14. I can't be sure, but I seem to remember that in Star Trek: The Next Generation, there's an episode where Q (an omnipotent astral being) is punished by his continuum by becoming a mortal human, which he's obviously never done before. They touch a few times on him suddenly experiencing human problems, like back pain, and hunger, and for some reason I think I remember them mentioning him having to learn what the bathroom is. might be worth a watch. well, star trek is always worth a watch lol EDIT: ST-TNG, S3 Ep13 "Deja Q"
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