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About thereaverofdarkness

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  1. From what I've picked up by reading other peoples' experiences: women are much more able than men to gain extra control from using physical pressure, while men are much more able than women to gain extra control by walking or running. It really varies from person to person, however. As a man, I can corroborate that physical pressure is essentially useless for me, while I can gain a LOT of time by walking or running. For most people, their first wetting experience, or first few, involve going from dry to suddenly wetting uncontrollably with little warning. You think you're going to lose control long before it actually happens, and when the moment finally comes, there's no actual indicator leading up to it. But for a more experienced wetter, they will lose spurts for a while before having a catastrophic loss. The more experience you get, the longer you spurt before having a full wetting, until you reach the level where you never seem to actually have full loss of control. Most men and women seem to have a similar experience to me here, though how much experience it takes varies greatly. People who have a large bladder or strong sphincter often endure physical pain from holding, and are much more prone to giving up out of discomfort rather than muscle failure. People with a small bladder or weak sphincter tend to lose control painlessly. Your bladder can expand over the years if you hold often; mine certainly has grown bigger and I now sometimes experience pain when holding. It can also "grow" in the short term--your capacity may change as your stress levels change, or just becoming more confident and comfortable can help your bladder relax and enable itself to expand to its full size. Being away from a toilet and away from reminders tends to relax your bladder. Getting your mind off it doesn't make the problem go away, but a relaxed bladder may be able to hold much more. If you are needing a toilet and you think about it a lot, it'll tend to psyche you out and torment you, even if it doesn't cause you to lose control. If your situation is dire enough, it's common to lose partial or full control upon getting near the toilet. I think a good story doesn't need too much realism. I, personally, am a sucker for realism. A lot of stories I read are clearly written by someone who lacks experience. But it's fanfiction and there's a certain allure to that campiness of it all. The important part, I think most omo fans will agree with, is the details of the struggle. The most boring story is the one where the author skips right to the end. "I got desperate...then I wet myself" is the worst omo story. It doesn't need to be good. It just needs to be the right length to tell the whole story. Another tip for realism: tell the story from your own experience. If it's about a boy and you're telling it from your own female experience, that's fine. You can transpose obvious physical characteristics, and otherwise it doesn't need to actually be something a boy might experience in real life, because it's fiction. Happy writing. 😃
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    AB or DL?

    I'm neither but I have a thing for ABs. I don't meet very many, but the few I come across are very interesting people to be sure.
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    Live Action Omorashi

    Sure. I just lost control a bit ago but I can start again.
  4. If you're trying to get her to wet her pants, then have her wet while standing in the bathtub. Or you can have her stand on towels on the bathroom floor and wet. What kind of place/way do you ideally want her to wet?
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    New to wetting

    A lot of things are bad for your health. Urine is probably better for you than beer is. Don't get excessive, and don't drink it if it has odd colors or smells, and don't drink it if you're sick or currently taking any prescription medications. Other than that, I wouldn't worry about it. Can't speak from personal experience here, as I do not drink urine. Might make you feel sick the first couple times because it has high acid content as well as a lot of urea, which is waste from your body's carbohydrate metabolism. Drinking urine will probably also make your subsequent urine thicker, so try not to overdo it. And eat less sweets! Always eat less sweets, that goes for everyone, but especially if you are to be drinking urine.
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    Boobs or Butts?

    I have monster calves, so said some Marines. We measured our calf diameter and I had second largest, with only the ridiculously stocky guy beating me (by a large margin). I'm a tall, slender guy. But I didn't know calves were ever sexy.
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    Pee Dreams

    I often have dreams that I have to pee but every time I go to a latrine, people invade the room while I'm peeing. I don't mind peeing in front of people, but I've been taught that I shouldn't, and so therefore it makes me uneasy.
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    Lonely

    Glad to hear it! We may go our separate ways in life, but I will never not think of you as a cool person! ?
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    Wet myself at my front door!

    I suspect Worm means: rather than almost making it or even having a bathroom as a goal, simply not having an ending on the horizon at all--no hope of ever making it.
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    Post a meme a day thread

    ^ I feel like the worst part of this is that your dad is Patrick Star.
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    What's with wake-up desperation?

    Sorry for the micro-necro, but I'm super onto this topic right now. It is a very common experience. When I was in boot camp, we would be required to drink a whole canteen of water right before bed, and we were very tired so we'd sleep all night and then wake up with a strong urge to pee. It was pretty universal. One time the final shift firewatch didn't get out of bed and the rest went to sleep so I was the only person on firewatch, I couldn't wake anyone until finally the DI found out and got everybody to get up and stand on the line, standing perfectly still while he chewed us out for the behavior. Within a few seconds, three of the guys wet themselves. I'm pretty sure I'd have been a fourth if I hadn't have already been awake for a while. I think while you're asleep, your body relaxes your bladder and tightens your sphincter, thus making it easier to hold your urine. But when you wake up, the urgency increases as the sphincter relaxes and the bladder tightens. Then after a while it goes back to normal. Usually this just makes you rush to the bathroom when you get up, but if you have the right amount of desperation when you have the right amount of sleepiness, you can fit within a threshold in which you lose bladder control within a few seconds of waking. I wish melatonin had the same diuretic effect that caffeine has. That way I could learn the right amount of melatonin and water to trigger a morning wetting. I love morning wettings but they are so rare. =( I have experienced one morning wetting in boot camp and a couple more in my drinking/partying days, but with alcohol it has been much more common that I wake up drenched in pee. It is very difficult to measure and time the alcohol right primarily because it moves through you so fast. You have to get pretty drunk to get your bladder going repeatedly, so it'll keep going for long enough to sleep through it. Then you have to wait a while until you've begun to pee less frequently. Then you have to hope you didn't overdo the alcohol and cause excessive delirious sleep, which will just make you wet yourself without waking. And trying over and over again to get it right is quite hard on your liver. Caffeine has a nice diuretic effect that works more slowly than alcohol and is a lot less drastic. It's more gentle on your system, and usually just gives you one single full bladder. I wonder if there's some non-stimulant similar diuretic I can combine with melatonin (or just normal sleep) to get the effect I am seeking. I tried diuretic tablets from the pharmacy (made to relieve feminine bloating) (I think it was called Diurex?) and I do not recommend these! They took days to take effect, they changed the taste of my saliva and the smell of my breath to the smell/flavor of a urinal cake. During the effect, my body couldn't retain water. I didn't have to pee suddenly, rather instead the water would just run through my intestine and give me painful diarrhea. I was constantly dehydrated for the next few weeks until it began to wear off. I didn't feel the slightest bit of bladder stress during this time. If any of you know a better diuretic, please recommend it! And maybe someday I will write a fantasy story about a world in which melatonin is the perfect diuretic. I can think of several premises already: - a chemist-y type goes for an experimental night while alone at home - an unfortunate small-bladdered person takes melatonin without reading the info - a slightly-creepster slips melatonin into peoples' drinks just to make them pee themselves when they fall asleep - someone wakes up early, still groggy from the melatonin, and begins a desperate search for a place to pee, struggling against their drowsiness all the way - a person on melatonin wakes up to pee but their sleepiness causes reality and dreams to merge, so they must analyze clues around them to make it to the bathroom without sleepwalk-peeing in the wrong place - a woman has to get an ultrasound--she is told to arrive with a full bladder. She gets a crafty idea: holding pee is easier while sleepy, right? (she doesn't know melatonin is a diuretic in this universe) - someone accidentally mixes up their pills and takes melatonin instead Feel free to write a story with any of these prompts or your own, and if you write one about this, please PM me about it! ?
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    Rise of Messing Content?

    I think it should be an option to have the search hide results with any of some given tags. Just type in all the tags you keep seeing commonly but are squicked by. Then it works for everybody! That way we can all be in one community instead of segregated. Because we aren't two groups of people; there are many types of lusts here and we're all overlapping across each other, that's why we're all here together.
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    Wet myself at my front door!

    You should tag this <almost made it>. That's one of my favorite tags! ?
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    The definitive Extreme Desperation

    While I find it fun to see how much bladder capacity I can achieve, and I also enjoy releasing a large amount at once, I still find it most fun to have a low capacity. The lower my capacity, the faster I reach loss of control, and the less stressful it is to reach that point.
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    Am I Doing Something Wrong?

    You can probably grow your bladder larger than it is, but you have to do it gently and over time. Maybe it's at its limit, so it might not get any bigger. 1200mL isn't really that small. I've read somewhere that the normal full bladder capacity is around 300-400mL so you're already above average even at just 800mL. Are you lacking willpower? That depends. Did you discover your limit by losing bladder control, or did you give up and choose to release? Even in the latter case, if it's painful to hold, it's not good for you. Many people have a strong enough sphincter muscle to cause damage by holding for as long as they can. Most people will lose bladder control before damage but the reverse is by no means rare and you shouldn't press your luck. Ideally, holding shouldn't cause any pain, and certainly it should not cause a strong pain. If you can't increase your capacity, then it's best for you to learn to love what you have. But it may also just increase gradually over time. Finally, if you have worked too hard to increase it, you may be experiencing temporary capacity reduction due to bladder stress, and letting it rest may be what it needs. I myself remained around 800mL max capacity for a couple years before I suddenly managed a 1500mL hold once. My capacity gradually went up to 1200mL after that. I spent a few more years trying to avoid holding, and my capacity went back down to around 800mL. But I have also noticed it just varies a lot by the situation. Usually holding leads to a lot of bladder spasms, but every once in a while I get super relaxed and I just feel the fullness of my bladder without spasms, and that's when it gets the fullest.