slovenc79

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  1. slovenc79

    How can I be sure if I'm bisexual?

    the way i see it, the problem with these definitions is the assumption every gay man it attracted to all men in general (which is also why homophobia exists) and every heterosexual to anyone of opposite sex. its depends on the individual feelings towards every individual. i consider myself to be heterosexual, but in a room full of women who i don't find sexually attractive, i am pretty much asexual. also, there can be heterosexual women who are sexually attracted to one specific woman, but not any other women in general. in short, all the theories and definitions are mostly a big waste of time. maybe these feelings are complex for a reason - to be only understood by the one who feels them, and not to be entirely explained to everyone. i will never understand how anyone can see a male sexually attractive, but i don't need to understand that. and neither does any lesbian. everyone should let each other be, and also themselves be 🙂
  2. slovenc79

    [Request] Woman messing in public

    if it's Dany (in black leather jacket and blue jeans), then i was the one who uploaded it. i still have it, but i don't think it'll be good to upload it here. message me, i'll give it to you some other way.
  3. slovenc79

    I want to get my girlfriend back!

    because you didn't change. you may seem to have an idea what you could change, but you're still focusing on getting her back at any price. which is understandable, but still the wrong path. it is my strong belief that a person, as personality, never changes. what you CAN change is your perspective on things in life and changing the response to them. which requires new experience, new way of doing some things and enough time. it is interesting to see how young people develop nowadays: at 15, they start worrying about anything, desperate to find an easy solution to every problem they can think of, and cling to the first thing someone convinces them is right. at 20, they are convinced they found perfect solutions about everything - politics, life, relationships, and their beliefs are so strong they rebel against everything with all the protests, activism and everything (also they are most annoying at this stage of life). at 25-30, they slowly learn life is way more complicated than that, and practically no thing is entirely good or bad. they overgrow all the ideologies they had, which is an existential crisis to many. but after abandoning all the ideals, they become truly mature - they think rationally and are mostly neutral, and most importantly - they realize they actually don't know much at all. what i'm trying to say is that changing is slow, and involuntary - by abandoning what you once strongly believe in, you accept some thing of what was previously completelly opposite (that's why some things you dislike the most are good to try - like inviting an ex-bully to a drink). the life shapes you, not other way around. only thing you can do is choose to act, experience, and learn. and the best thing about changing a perspective is that when you look back and think about something you were then crying about, you now think of it as a useful experience that makes you smile, and you even feel glad it happened. people like to say to move on, thinking it's just giving it time and it passes by itself. WRONG. if you're overthinking, without anything else to do, it becomes even worse. to actually move on, you'll have to take a burden on yourself that is bigger and more important than your love for the woman. and you have a good opportunity here: working on relationship with your family. besides that, solve problems in life, or make some things better. start small - setting small things right will motivate you to deal with large things better. also, my strong suggestion to anyone is to start working out, because it's a pure form of action and it brings nothing but positive changes in life. one thing you should also be careful of - never depend on someone. if your ex-girlfriend was your shelter from the problems with your family, that's not a good relationship. also, you see how painful it is when you lose that shelter as well. one of the most important thing you have to realize is that you're an independent person who can deal with his own problems, and if you don't feel you're capable of that, you have to become that and prove that to yourself. one good way of getting that feeling is also helping others - many people do volunteer work - to do something good for others, and also they realize there are much more serious problems in life than their own might be - when you see someone who lost a house and all their belongings in a tornado or something, you realize your problems are actually minor inconveniences. with more experiences, your perspective changes and it results in much more mature way of thinking and behavior.
  4. slovenc79

    How to not worry about having to pee in school?

    i think that because autists don't really understand the problem they have. they feel different and therefore act differently, which feels right for them. they have their own way of understanding things. PoloniumGermap here seems to totally understand his problem. he also seem to completely understand the way other people think and act, and the social norms he lives in - he explained his problem and feelings on this forum in a completely understandable manner, and his ability to communicate with others is very good. well, i've never been on an an airplane trip, so you can be sure that i would overanalyze the whole procedure as well 🙂 maybe not after several trips, but if i had to drink a lot (and pee a lot), i would definitely want to make plans. do you have another example maybe? something a non-autistic person wouldn't have? i'm asking that because so far, both of you seem very normal to me. also, can you tell me what were the symptoms that led to your diagnosis? i'm asking that because autism diagnosis is mostly confirmed by the nature of social interactions, and i don't know how that could be suspected on an one year old baby.
  5. slovenc79

    How to not worry about having to pee in school?

    what was the cause that made you suspect that? it's very improbable that an autist at 11 can recognize his condition, and all other adult people in his life, including parents, with years of social experience, don't. it's completely normal, though, for a 11 year old to feel weird, worry too much, and look for explanations. a good amount of people here are under 18, the requirement tells nothing. if all the horny kids didn't register on adult websites, they'd had two thirds less visits (and i wouldn't use "79" in my nick to hide my youth back in 2007, while i was actually born in 91 🙂 ) you never said the sitting in classroom alone was a problem. or at least i didn't see it. and even being uncomfortable in a room full of people is pretty normal (and completely logical if you're worried about using bathroom). nobody said you "want" to have a problem. read what i wrote again: i'm saying that you are clinging to diagnosis as an excuse to justify your fear. and you can NEVER lose fear if you are constantly justifying it with something that cannot help solving it. that's why problems are so problematic 🙂 the biggest problem i see, however, is that you're clinging to a diagnosis that makes you feel helpless to find a solution anyway. as i said, i am positive that the right approach contains forgetting about the diagnosis and face the fear as anyone else would. it will take courage, but that's what facing fear demands. i told you about my fear and how i felt and justifyed it. did you read it? i hope i didn't write all that for nothing.
  6. slovenc79

    I beg you

    yea we're a cruel bunch of bad seeds, not giving people viedos n' shit. whole internet is afraid of us :) #thuglife
  7. slovenc79

    How to not worry about having to pee in school?

    even professionals make mistakes. i'm not saying i'm in any way smarter or better educated/experienced than those guys, neither that they actually did make a mistake diagnosing you, but i think you should leave the chance of you not being an autist very open. i do believe autists have those symptoms - but not every person with those symptoms are autists. autism is one possible explanation for your problems, but i think if you really were an autist, you would have much harder time coping with everyday life, and discover that much sooner in life. as goes for the problems - anxiety is practically normal these days. avoiding eye-contact with people is also very common with people who have low self-esteem or feel shame or anything else. liking or hating anything, including feeling of materials is also very common. that's another thing why i doubt the diagnosis - your fears, problems are completely rational and simmilar to any other average person. it would be different if they were completely irrational - autists are afraid of completely irrational things, like even/odd numbers, colors, words, things people usually don't even notice, and also they cannot explain why something makes them uncomfortable in the first place. you haven't told me your age, but from what i've read i think you're 16-18 or something like that, not much older. and it's almost impossible to find a teenager who doesn't cope with some kind of problems and constantly think there is something wrong about them, and also think about diagnosis about a lot of things. people with problems are desperate to find anwsers and they will cling to anything close that would explain it all, and once they believe it, they will search for proves that supports that anwser (even if it's actually a wrong one!). that's how whole religions were invented. the problem i see it is that instead of facing those problems, you could be leaning to autism as an excuse to yourself that your medical condition prevents you from actually facing and solving the problem. because a person accepts themself more if they get a diagnosis saying it's not their fault instead of admitting to themself they are too afraid of solving a problem. example: i used to be afraid of driving a car. when i was driving to get a license, i had way above average hours of driving before i passed it. even after getting a license, i avoided driving a car, i didn't practice driving and the longer i didn't drive, the more fear there was. when i did drive, i made mistakes. i was genuienly convinced that i just happen to not be a good driver by nature, and people who rode with me agreed, since i was making mistakes all the time, they felt uncomfortable being with me. i was trying to accept myself with all sorts of excuses, like "well einstein was a bad driver and he lived well", "i live in a city with good public transport, so i don't need to drive anyway", "cars pollute earth so it's better is i don't drive anyway" and so on. then it happened that i earned some money (i also have fear regarding working for any kind of boss or customers, but i'll not get into that) and i started thinking of buying an used car. nothing special, just to learn and not lose too much if i crashed it. father encouraged me that i should also get some more driving lessons with that. my brother also moved away so there was an empty garage at home - slowly i was running out of excuses. then, one day, we went by a car dealer and stopped there. he convinced me to seriously think about the buying a nice car we found, for a good price. i was hesitant, but i decided to ignore the fear and go for it. so, i was a car owner, and still afraid of driving it. it was sitting at home and every now and then i gathered courage to drive it just a bit. every time i sat in my heart was pounding, and i was very afraid. also when i drove, i made mistakes, sometimes just someone sounding a horn behind me made me drive home and then kept me awake at night for several days, thinking what i have done, what accident could happen and how to prevent it. well, last year, i got a job in some warehouse. it just so happened that it was an ideal distance to use a car for, so every day, i took a car. you can imagine having a fear of driving and new place to work in as well. but i had to make some money. so i was forced to ignore all my fears and do my best. 2 months of everyday driving made me overcome the fear completely. not only that, i also discovered that i'm actually a very good driver, i predict movements of other cars very well and gave great orientation. and all those mistakes i made were entirely caused by fear. it didn't go overnight, but whenever it comes to a situation, my reaction is not "omg what to do now" anymore, but "well, let's solve this mess, worrying won't help". i should also mention the boost of self esteem after i overcame the fear- see, not being a driver doesn't mean only that, but it lowers your social status - a man should know how to drive, and in general get things done instead of chicken out - which for me, as i am a cautious and fearful person in general, is anything but easy. but all it takes is to get courage to get over the first obstacle in life, and from then you get more courage to move on to next. and life is full of problems and obstacles, also fears, but when you get going, when you face them, it's a joy of seeing them solved. so, this is one of my stories about my fears, one of many 🙂 and i sure am not the only one full of them. i am sure that soon, you will overcome your fear and after years, not even think about there was one. and the more mature you become, problems will also be bigger and more serious, but if you approach them the right way, everything can be solved, even if it seems impossible at first.
  8. slovenc79

    How to not worry about having to pee in school?

    seriously, this is getting too far... you had a discomfort of using bathroom (which is not common at all), and instead of facing the fear and getting over it, you hide behind autism diagnosis (which i have no idea how you got) and made it into a serious problem. a real autist could NEVER overanalyze this problem in such detail. that's actually what makes autism so problematic - autists cannot understand some life/society functions and therefore cannot adapt. you, on the other hand, understand them entirely. only thing holding you back is FEAR. you're a completely normal, functioning, even intelligent person who has inflated this fear of using a toilet to make your life almost unmanagable. and that can happen very easily, as fear can be VERY very powerful if you feed it well and CAN greatly impact one's life quality. just for once, stop thinking about it, when you have to go to the toilet, just GO. you will go once. you might feel horrible, but that's something you just have to go through. hen you got the second time and there will be less terrible. then you go the third time and it will be even better, and you will realize it's no big deal, and feel enormous relief, and the problem will be GONE.
  9. slovenc79

    Parking Garage Video Request

    what was she wearing, and what did the car look like? and the girl herself (hair, body, etc.)? the vid sound really hot, i'd love to see it too 🙂
  10. slovenc79

    Dirty Dani Picas

    creepy, but it's the way it is. one thing that could make them feel better is that most of this video trading is private. actually the biggest nightmare for producers are those "i'll upload everything because free internet" guys.. but, well, we actually get most videos from those guys. that's why we constantly browse around. well, here's the dilemma - models like it when customers go crazy about them and mindlessly spend money to see them, and get custom vids, some even buy gifts for the models. the model is all happy, except when some customers go too crazy about them, fall in love (in an insane way) and start to stalk them, meet them in person and all that. the same attention that models like, because it brings them money, leads to their worst nightmare. of course no means no, but when a person gets so crazy over someone, they don't care. you can't just say "no" to your emotions and stop them, right? that's one of the biggest problems with the sexual business itself - sex and emotions are strongly connected. sexuality is supposed to be intimacy between two people who love each other, not a business - and that's why sexual business has always been a taboo and is on the edge of laws for those reasons. the way i see it, parents don't have that much control over a child anymore. children are practically raised by internet. and parents who do want to control their children are seen as repressive and "not allowing the child the freedom to explore". in general, we live in a very complex time and place, people see so many options they get confused, and are in contact with such a large quantity of people they can't establish quality relationships. all i can say is: i'm glad my childhood was simpler than moderns kids' 🙂 sorry for being overly philosophycal 😄
  11. slovenc79

    Dirty Dani Picas

    well, although i agree and support this way of thinking, there are 2 things: 1. when people are horny and want to see something, they will do everything to see it. that's why people PAY for sexy videos in the first place - that's the whole purpose of fetish videos. and massively deleting some video will make it rarer, more desirable and more valuable, in short - a gem among those who trade videos for videos. 2. it is INSANELY naive to try to get attention to make good business at one point, and when you change your mind, thinking everything can just disappear. you cannot delete your past - that's the fact so many people nowadays simply refuse to realize, trying to avoid responsibility for their own actions. and whoever does something and shares with the internet should know better from day one, that when you share your stuff publicly online, realize it will be there for ever. if they regret uploading something, well, tough luck, they can blame anything and anyone they want, it's them who put it on and you who will suffer the consequences (they didn't regret making money from that same attention, eh? 😉 ) people nowadays really lack the sense of keeping anonimity and responsibility. some are paranoid and afraid way too much, and others are way too confident, revealing everything (and later freak out). i think when my generation (i'm born in 91) grew up while internet was practically growing up with us, took these warning more seriously, and there wasn't that much danger since internet was very basic and not as easily available. nowadays though, a horny 14 year old can get online via smartphone, without any basic knowledge about internet safety, carelessly upload few dirty pics which spread worldwide, and in the matter of minutes gets their teenage years ruined, or even fuck their life up completely.
  12. slovenc79

    Dirty Dani Picas

    i find most for-sale videos like that, and how could they not be, if models only do it for money, without having any actual fetish and pleasure out of it... anyway, a model closing the store and wanting the vids gone just makes the videos more valuable and desirable, and they will spread a lot.
  13. slovenc79

    Bed wetting

    why not at least limit alcohol if you're not giving it up? and what is the history of your alcohol consumption? substances like that eventually leave consequences. you're 43. take care for your health in any way you can, because you're going to need it. as a person ages, the troubles will start to pile up if you're not careful, and they won't go away like in a body of a 20 year old. there's a saying - warranty expires at 50. and at being 43, being 50 is practically day after tomorrow.
  14. slovenc79

    i squatted down and peed my pants

    i'll never forgive myself for not saving those pink jeans wetting in the snow pics.