trekkie

Thank you so much for this!

•You're trying to conceal your desperation from whoever you least want to have an accident in front of, who sees right through it and tells you to stop suffering and just go in your pants, telling you one of their own accident stories as well. You try to hold anyway and don't make it. You should be relieved that this person doesn't mind at all if you have an accident, but it's just so weird to be told "good, like that, just let it all out" and "see, don't you feel better now?" as you do. •Going in your pants to comfort someone else who did. •Two people with some level of incontinence

Funny, that happened to me the very first time I tried to pee my pants on purpose, when I was a kid. I pushed so hard I messed myself despite not even feeling the need to poop beforehand, but could only get a trickle of pee. (Then I had to dispose of the evidence. Underwear went into a small plastic bag from the store, carefully hidden in the bottom of the trash.)

Not knowing about Mario... I feel terribly sorry for you, it's truly tragic.

Hey, haven't seen you around in a million years (okay, a couple months. ) How are you, and how's getting better at making control worse? (Sorry for going off-topic, Jai.)

A question for those who wet in their sleep: just exactly when does it happen? You know, is it right after going to sleep, is it just before you wake up, or when you're most deeply asleep, or most likely to dream, etc.? And is it different for everyone, or does the cause of the accidents play a part? I imagine someone with less holding ability in general might leak all night, while someone else might only have accidents when the need hits when they're most deeply asleep. As for me, I have no idea. When I wake up peeing it's usually a couple hours before I'd normally get up, so maybe

I think all the reasons @ascela mentioned are factors! Any muscle that's overworked will tire, anyone who's into this might not try as hard as others to avoid situations where accidents are possible, and having real problems holding might lead you to interests like ours.

That is SO ending up in soaked shorts for me.

Last time my stomach was bad, I decided to walk normally instead of trying to rush or even walk in a position that helps me hold, but otherwise try to make it. I described it in a status update at the time but may as well put it here: Because of the clean-up factor, I don't usually do it on purpose. But, there are a few times I didn't make it because of my stomach... thing. More fun in hindsight than at the time, of course. Most dangerous is when it feels like you can hold it so you put it off. Putting up Christmas decorations with my family this past year, a small cough made me mes

It's sad that it didn't go the way you'd hoped, but it's still better than never knowing what might've been, and having the fact that you're into this as a deep dark secret that you feel guilty about. It can remain something you enjoy on your own or with others. As for the way seeing her desperate feels, well... you're not pressuring her or doing anything to make her uncomfortable, just feeling a certain way when you see her desperate (and it's not like you can make her not desperate; last I checked, we all gotta go!) There's no harm in it, and as for her being an 'object of your desire,'

I’ve never found it to actually help.

Thanks for writing this out! I hope you do more of these.

How about pretty much any romantic snuggly sleeping position, initiated by the one who has just told their partner (who is still shy about having a bedwetting problem) for the hundredth time "I don't mind getting wet, I just need to be close to you." (Which end of that is best to be on? I don't know!)