DesperateJill

@nappypants "Well, given the absorbency of disposable diapers you’re certainly not sitting in it as much as you would be with wetting regular clothes and not immediately changing, which a lot of people here are into… hard to explain why any of us are into what we are, anyway! Even if you don’t find diapers “sexy” they can have practical benefits, obviously not saying they’re a solution to toilet scarcity for everyone but as a “just in case” thing in particular circumstances they can be helpful to a lot of people." Well yes, of course, diapers were created specifically for fetish purposes, in fact most things that and up being a fetish of someone didn't start out that way, most people who do use diapers do it because they have a practical necessity for them. However for a person who doesn't have a specific fetish for it the majority of people would find it unappealing to have to wear a diaper. Personally I'm only into the holding aspects so I'm not really into the wetting or feeling human waste in contact with my skin. And you are right it's hard to say why any of us like a particular thing or a particular aspect of this while others don't like it, I guess it just comes down to a matter of personal preference. To me I feel that a diaper is not a long-term practical solution to toilet scarcity either. Sure anyone could just wear diapers all the time, but most people without the fetish would rather not.

@UrineLover1 As I am Irish I try to always write leprechaun stories around St. Patrick's Day, and I actually forgot this is actually my third story involving leprechauns and pee desperation. I was chatting with somebody about this story and they remembered one of the ones that I wrote many years ago that I had completely forgotten about, so I suppose leprechauns do lend themselves well to desperation for whatever reason! A pee dance can very easily turn into an Irish jig!

@jumper79 "When you say "bathroom matters" what is it exactly you mean?" I mean basically everything related to the bathroom but specifically women's bathroom experiences leading to desperation. And basically everything I post on board like this I also put in my journals, so when I die people are going to look at these journals and be like wow she really spend a lot of time focusing on the bathroom, I mean 2800+ posts on this message board, my blog and numerous omorashi novels, in addition to just my own personal journal experiences, anyone who looks at my stuff after I die is going to realize that I put a lot of time and thought into everything related to women needing the bathroom! @trekkie "These days it's easier to find and stay in contact with someone who's not in the immediate area. Of course one has to beware of scams and ax-murderers, but it's not like your hometown doesn't have bad people you have to watch out for too. It's a lot easier to find someone today because you can search the entire world from your desk." This is true. I think a lot of people from older generations don't realize this. I pretty much never go out and socialize but when I say I have lots of friends on the Internet my dad is like that doesn't count. If people on the Internet don't count than I have literally no contact with humanity whatsoever pretty much. But online I can talk to people from all around the world instantly, even simultaneously with people on multiple different continents. It's great to be able to find people like that who share interests with you as it is easier than ever before, but if you wanted to have some type of in person sexual relationship having somebody living on the other side of the world isn't really the ideal situation. But as a person who prefers to communicate in writing any way it does lessen the social anxiety at least.

@TimmyTrihard69 "I’d reckon most people that use diapers aren’t into them" I definitely think that this is true as the majority of people where adult diapers are usually elderly people who are somehow incontinent. Personally I have never understood the appeal of diapers as I have never found anything sexy about the idea of sitting in my own waste. @Kinkhold "Is this job elementary Ed teacher by chance?" No, it was an outdoor job with an environmental group which involves being out in the field were toilets were often not available or if available were closed due to Covid. @just_hold95 "It depends on the mood. Most of time I would rather use the toilet every single occasion, especially at work. During the pandemic I worked from home, but what seemed a perfect solution for me as an introvert, it turned out to be even worse than meeting people every day. That’s the reason I prefer regular job even though I have to cope with many people every day." I'm an extreme introvert and almost all social interaction is stressful for me so is rather ironic that I had spent pretty much my entire life always at home with a toilet nearby and I just happened to get this outdoor job during the time of Covid when everybody else it seemed was working at home making everything especially frustrating since everybody else was getting to pee all day! It is ironic though as I have often said it repeatedly to myself and in my messages on these boards and in my blog that it was rather crazy that the most social time of my life where I was interacting with people the most I was doing so with a full bladder which made the situation doubly awkward, how I managed to deal with that I have no idea, but it was certainly an experience I will never forget!

@jumper79 "Hell, it took me nearly 10 years to even express it in my private journals!" I'm kind of the opposite, I have millions of words of Journal and from the beginning one of the major things I write about is bathrooms. If anyone reads it after I die they're going be like she was way way way too fixated on bathroom matters!

@Snowgirl "I definitely don’t even think about it until I’m desperate. If I’m going somewhere without a bathroom, sure, I’ll go beforehand, but that rarely even helps. My brain 100% prioritized being hydrated and I’d rather need to pee than have a pounding dehydration headache (which I get so easily)" I always go to the bathroom before leaving the house and usually up on getting someplace new as long as one is available. You can remain hydrated but at the same time you don't have to be like guzzling down the water or whatever drinks. I find it just by sipping water I can stay hydrated without being thirsty but without getting to the point where I get desperate instantly. If I drink anything other than what I tend to get desperate a real lot faster, usually right away I have to go to the bathroom within a half hour at the most, so if I know going to be going out in a place without a bathroom I make sure to limit myself only to water.

Just a really quick story today. The other day I got distracted chatting about my fetish pretty much all day and figured I didn't have time to write any full stories as I only had a half hour left, but then I just sort of spontaneously thought of this really brief story, which is probably my shortest omorashi story yet, as I normally tend to write longer ones, which I thought of would make for a good short St. Patrick's Day story. Enjoy! Can also be viewed in my blog https://desperatejill83.livejournal.com/11812.html The Leprechaun in the Ladies Room Line "I always thought that St. Patrick's Day was really fun because I'm Irish but I've never been much good at holding my liquor," Jill said as she realized her bladder was painfully full from all that drinking. However as she walked over to the ladies room line it was predictably gigantic and snaking through pretty much the entire bar. "And St. Patrick's Day of course is the biggest drinking day of the year so I probably should have planned for this." As Jill looked up and down the impossibly long ladies room line as she stood there crossing and uncrossing her legs and realizing that this line looked impossibly long and that she was in a major bind, that was when she saw something rather curious, towards the very front of the line she saw what looked like a leprechaun hopping up and down crossing her legs and looking like she was extremely uncomfortable. "Hey are you a leprechaun," Jill said as she went up to the woman in line. "No I'm a vampire, of course I'm a leprechaun!" she said as she hopped up and down looking extremely desperate. "My name is Laura and as you can see I need the bathroom very very badly." "I have to go to the bathroom very very badly as well," Jill said as she crossed her legs and hopped around in place. "I guess there is nothing that could persuade you to perhaps let me cut you in line for the bathroom?" "Are you crazy, I have been holding it for 45 minutes and I am ready to pee all over myself, this line is probably close to an hour long," Laura said as she continued to dance a little Irish jig in front of the bathroom door as she put her hands on her knees and looked like she was about to explode. Jill smiled. "Hey isn't it true that if you catch a leprechaun the leprechaun has to basically give you a wish?" "Well yeah, but it's not very easy to catch a leprechaun," Laura said as Jill grabbed her. "Seems pretty easy to me!" Jill said as she held Laura up by her suspenders. "Please can I just use the bathroom first," Laura said as she looked longingly at the bathroom door as Jill held her up there as she continued crossing and then uncrossing her legs. "I don't know, I think I could really use the bathroom more than you could," Jill said as she smiled at the leprechaun. "I could perhaps use my wish to switch places with you in the bathroom line." "You get a leprechaun wish and you were going to waste it on getting ahead of us in the bathroom line," the woman behind Laura said looking annoyed. Jill laughed. "You know that would actually be kind of a waste of a wish I suppose, I mean you have a wish from a leprechaun and you use it just so you can use the bathroom more quickly one time, that does seem like kind of a waste of a wish." Laura smiled. "You have no idea how relieved I am to hear that!" she said as she was about to reach for the bathroom door. "Wait first you have to give me my wish," Jill said as she put her hand on the bathroom door. "Please just make it really quick," Laura said as she grabbed herself and gritted her teeth as she trembled and shook. Jill smiled an evil smile. "My leprechaun wish is that whenever I have to go to the bathroom I will never have to wait in line again and instead you will wait in line for me!" "What," Laura said looking like she was about to piss herself. "You heard my wish, you have to grant it," Jill said holding up Laura who began crying before snapping her fingers and all of the sudden Jill found herself instantly relieved as Laura was now at the back of the bathroom line. "This is the best St. Patrick's Day ever!" "This is the worst St. Patrick's Day ever," Laura shouted from the end of the line as she crossed her legs and realized that she had a lot of holding ahead of her because now that she didn't have to wait in line for the bathroom Jill was going to do a whole lot more drinking! I have to admit this is a really short one that I thought of after spending an entire night chatting about my fetish and didn't think I had time to write any stories that day, but then I thought of this really short one off the top of my head that I thought would make for a good St. Patrick's Day story. Originally when she caught the leprechaun I was just going to have her switch places with a leprechaun in the line that one time, but then I thought it would be better if she wished that the leprechaun always had to wait in line for her as that would be a pretty good use of a leprechaun wish! And strangely enough this isn't my first omorashi story with leprechauns in it (see Lucy the Cross Legged Leprechaun for the other one), and honestly I can't say for sure it would be my last! I guess it just shows that I can appreciate my own Irish heritage.

It is true with female peeing you really cant aim to try and hit the side of the bowl to make it quieter, or at least it would require a lot more effort. I never tried to put a silencer on my peeing but I'm usually not that loud unless I have to go really badly.

@Kat_ie "Like yea, its pretty stupid that I drank bottles of water in my long bus ride, but in the moment I just don't really think about it because I'm just not paranoid over it I guess. It's one of those things to me thats logically very dumb but I don't care because its part of something that I don't care to worry about daily. If I'm thirsty then I'm thirsty what am I going to do about it yk." I'm one of those people who always has a bottle of water with me everywhere I go as I am paranoid to leave the house without it and my family is always saying that's why I have to pee all the time. When I don't want to be a really long time without a bathroom I do carefully watch my liquid intake, but again I don't dehydrate myself, but I realize if I drink anything that within a few hours no matter what happens I'm going to have to go pretty badly.

@trekkie "I'm an INTP, which usually means you're autistic AF." It was funny because I have been watching a ton of videos about my type of INFJ and I was actually thinking that a lot of these similar characteristics are similar characteristics that are tribute to autism and I thought maybe there was some connection to it and then I came across a long video about this autistic woman who basically said that the characteristics of an INFJ and somebody with autistic traits were basically the same and that she found from talking to a lot of people there seem to be a huge overlap between those two things, just like there seems to be a big overlap between being neurodivergent and having this particular fetish. I do think that one of the aspects of the fetish that I can definitely relate to the Myers-Briggs personality type is that people with my particular type and most of the other introspective types related to that seem to be much more socially aware and socially observant of all of these little things that are going on, so in a situation when you or someone else's desperate probably realize what's going on and read a lot more into it and it creates a lot more social tension. And since people with this personality type usually want to make other people feel comfortable they take all of the burden of the discomfort on themselves. So that was something I could definitely relate to my Myers-Briggs personality type in regards to my fetish.

Knowing I won't be able to pee for a while makes me want to pee!

This is something that I have chatted about often and I was just thinking it might be interesting to do a poll on this. I have noticed that in a situation where people actively know there's not going to be a bathroom, particularly for women, that most do not alter their behavior. Despite the fact that they know there might not be a bathroom break or that there will be a limited amount of time to use the bathroom or a situation where not everybody gets to use the bathroom, I have noticed that a lot of people don't alter their behavior to plan for this contingency. Women who know that there is going to be a major line for the bathroom or maybe not an opportunity to go seem to continue drinking normally and don't seem to plan their day around the bathroom and sort of take this cavalier attitude and not worry until it happens to be a problem. Personally I have never understood this attitude, as I am hyper cautious and I plan for everything. When I know there's not going to be a bathroom I make sure not to drink as much, and when I get to a place I always scope out the bathroom situation to know where things stand on that matter so that I will always know how to plan my day around it. So my question for everybody out there is if you know there's going to be a lack of opportunities to use the bathroom or that there is going to be long lines, or you don't know when you're going to get to a bathroom next, do you alter your behavior so that you can do a better job of holding it or do you just continue to do things as normal and you just worry about it when you come to it? I think one of the best examples was when I was on my tour guide trip and when the women arrived and there wasn't enough time to use the bathroom. Despite the fact that there was this woman who clearly had to go very badly after four hours without a bathroom, and despite knowing that it would probably be at least an hour before she got to a bathroom again she just Guzzling down the liquids. Again you don't want to blame somebody for a situation that they shouldn't be in in the first place rather unfairly that they perhaps were I'm expecting, but at the same time you see them drinking and you are like I don't think this is going to make the problem better! You have to kind of wonder what is going through someone's head like that as they are obviously not planning for the long term. Maybe it's just human nature, I think that people are not good at planning for the long term or even the short time very well, but considering that most women have been in situations like this you would think that more people would anticipate the situation and plan and alter their behavior accordingly, and yet I feel that the majority really don't.

@wetting_fan "Did you ever consider wearing some light protection, like a discrete pull-up, to help take the edge off? It seems that it's getting more and more acceptable for a woman to just casually wear something to use during her day. That really should be illegal to have no bathrooms available for you like that, that's totally not cool, sorry that you had to deal with that!" It's over now so is no longer an issue. But I'm not into diapers.

I was just going to start this topic but decided to see if somebody else already had because I am in INFJ and I find it extremely accurate and I have gotten into it a real lot lately and I was wondering if there were more among this type among people with this fetish, as apparently a large number of people with autism are this particular Myers-Briggs personality type, and I knew that there were a lot of autistic people represented in this fetish that seem disproportionately represented with this fetish, so it's not surprising that there seemed to be a lot of other INFJs here despite the fact that it is the rarest type, and it seems that other people here are mostly introverted as well, even if they are not INFJs, so this thread actually seems to confirm my suspicions that there seemed to be more INFJs here given their general small size of the population at large.

@soo-pis-sed "You're in need of a part-time job and can choose one of these: A. Teaching aid to ultrasound doctors in training. You must show up a few times a week with a bladder filled to the absolute brim, then stay like this for at least an hour until all trainees had their turn pushing and pressing on your abdomen. You're expected to show no impatience to pee and be able to hold it until the end without complaining, asking to hurry up, or distracting the trainees. Leaking is absolutely unacceptable. B. Assistant to the ultrasound doctor. You must communicate with people who came for a bladder ultrasound to make sure everyone can hold it until their appointed time, but also is substantially full, so that the doctor wouldn't have to wait until they drink more and fill up. You'll have to find out how much liquid they consumed and how long ago, how strong their urge to urinate is, sometimes ask people to drink more, sometimes allow them to let out some pee to relieve the pressure and make sure they won't have an accident before/during the appointment." I'd go with B. I had an ultrasound once and ending up peeing myself! My new question would be which options would you rather have. A) You have a job with a really attractive coworker who can't go to the bathroom all day while you can and they are your captive audience. Or B) You have a really attractive coworker who can go to the bathroom all day while you can't and who openly discusses the fact that you have to go to the bathroom and is fascinated by it.