petitewonder

Love the antechamber idea!

(Also a lady here), having to sit down to pee much of the time can make the idea of a gas station bathroom sort of gross. I can totally understand not wanting to use one. It also sounded more like you two were just having a light conversation, and you didn't expect him to respond so seriously/nervously. But because he responded the way he did, and because this is a kink for you, I think you felt bad and ended up blaming yourself. With the way my brain works, I'd probably do the same thing lol. But you couldn't have known that he'd react that way; but when he did, you didn't call attention to his predicament or try to drive slow or anything, and when you got back, you responded kindly by telling him you didn't need help unloading even though he offered. Plus, people can't really help what turns them on. So I think you're good.

What would your ideal bathroom for wetting purposes look like? Lots of towels everywhere? A huge rug in the middle? A deep sink in case you wanted to pee in there? A drain on the floor? Have you come across one similar to what you're looking for that gave you ideas?

Today I put a puppy pad in a medium-sized basket (pad was bigger than the basket so all sides were covered); being careful to ensure I took it out properly, it was super effective! Lol. Does anyone else have unconventional places to pee? (Moreso deliberate ones or ones you've thought up before trying them, as opposed to one you found during a desperate time).

I've only really leaked in semi-public as an adult, but if it were to happen in public, I'd definitely prefer people look the other way. Even if I was with another person I'd prefer they just not say anything. I don't know much about fetish clubs (just like, vaguely aware that some BDSM ones exist), or even that people did omo play at them so that's definitely interesting! I don't think they'd really be for me but hearing stories about them (fictional or otherwise) would be cool. Oh yeah if it's a consensual, at home roleplay with a partner then the variety of reactions I'd enjoy would increase for me.

Right?!?! I've noticed this often seems to be the expectation or "you're old enough, you should be able to hold it." I have no idea how some people go on super long road trips with no stops or needing to go.

These are good points; I don't have a lot of experience either but yeah I think it would make more sense that people would pretend not to notice. (A party-type setting would be different but in every day public settings, people are probably more focused on themselves). And yeah adults would have more tact than that (but I fully support if they want to have fantasies/tease and name call their partner in private as part of their play lol).

I agree with you 100%. I haven't had the experience as an adult, of another adult wetting in front of me, but my first instinct would be either to help them if it was someone I was with, or look the other way. As much as I enjoy the sort of slight embarrassment/comforting in fantasy and reading, I could never enjoy it IRL if the other person was distressed. I think that's a case with a lot of kinks or a lot of people; there might be more socially taboo aspects that are enjoyable but only played at in a private and consensual setting. Oh yeah if it's a video being recorded and posted without their consent, that's 100% not okay. I was moreso referring to the videos where the people are partying/laughing/joking around or if they are telling the story later and cutting back to video of a party; there's people who definitely have a sense of humor about these sorts of things or view it as part of a "crazy night" but aren't bothered by it. I've read multiple stories on here as well about people being shamed, punished, bullied, etc. for accidentally wetting themselves and it honestly breaks my heart. Like, you're really going to make someone feel awful for something they couldn't help? I had wetting accidents a few times after I was potty trained and my parents were always frustrated/angered by it. I remember receiving less frustration/anger from my parents for pretty much every other unintentional bodily function, but I'm not sure if that's the norm or not. (It doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me either, because as someone who has had to clean up bodily functions at a previous job I had, pee is the easiest to clean and the least smelly by far.) You're right, I think setting definitely makes a difference. I've heard people recount stories of wetting themselves at or on the way to concerts so maybe that's a setting with less of a strong reaction. It probably also depends how crowded or busy the setting is. People are more likely to not even notice if they're focused on something else.

Yeah, that makes more sense that there would be a wider variety of reactions. I haven't had this experience as an adult but kind of wondered if the sort of intense reactions in college party videos were the result of the partying, drinking, etc. I'm glad not everyone is cruel about it but I'm sorry that you've had to deal with bullying and other mean reactions.

I've noticed this in a lot of videos online: Someone will wet themselves and the people around that person will literally start screaming, laughing hysterically, or start asking a lot of invasive questions about it. Now, a lot of times this is in the context of drinking or college parties/spring break, but not always. The reaction just seems so intense? There is not as much of an "ew, that's gross" reaction as there would be with other bodily fluids. I have to wonder if maybe it feels more relatable somehow, or if it's exciting in a taboo way like the way some people like to skinny dip with big groups of friends, or something else. And I mean, for many people here, if we were to witness a wetting, the intensity would be all internal and we'd be trying to discreetly help the other person/make them feel less bad about it. (Oh dang is that gonna make me more obvious? Lol.) Kidding on that front because having an accident when you really don't want to can be embarrassing and I really would wanna help the person. Just curious if anyone had any thoughts on this lol

I've done that with laundry and towels as well but our washer broke recently so I didn't wanna have that lying around lol. (Good news is we should be getting a replacement this week!) There are some women who can pee standing up and jutting their stream forward, but I haven't seen them jutting it upward. I've heard of very few people with vaginas who can manage a bottle or jug and I am honestly mystified by how that is even possible lol. Yeah I avoided the kitchen sink for the same reason and I'd have to climb up there lmao. Peeing in the trash works if the trash is full enough but if it's not and the bag gets a tiny hole in it, it can very quickly ruin your day lmao. Idk how to pee...forward? Basically, idk how to pee in anyway that's not down that doesn't make a huge mess. Apparently it's a skill one can achieve though. Wouldn't that be bad for a plant? I should really get a bucket tho...lol

How big of a container? And yeah a dishpan could work as well I think. Was it difficult to start and stop between the fills? (It's usually hard for me to do that if I'm really desperate but easier if I'm not).

I'm in a second story apartment so we unfortunately do not have one. (I have tried this before though and it's a good idea.)

Ty! It's just my fiance and I and he'd be understanding about it but I didn't wanna leave a mess. Just for me personally, I'd have trouble drinking/eating out of something I knew I peed in, even if I deep cleaned it and fiance would likely be the same way lol. So, I went with one towel but tried to switch positions partway through because I thought it would create less mess but that was a bad idea lol especially because I struggle to slow down once I start. Lesson learned: - Sitting down on a folded towel controls the surface area a bit better; you'll probably leak through (especially if you have to go more than you realized) but it will at least be in just one area. - Do not squat over folded towel; it is messier and sprays further. (Thanks for the advice btw, I got anxious and couldn't think of something so I'm glad I posted on here lol)