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Once you're an adult it's very rare to be in a situation where you need permission to go to the toilet, I'm fact I didn't think it happened at all. It's been three years since I've had to do so. 

But now I've got a new job for the summer and suddenly found myself back in the world of needing to ask permission to go to the toilet. It wasn't a problem until yesterday when I had an 8 hour shift and was sent on my break very early so I had 5 hours straight to work after it. I always make a point to drink as much as a can before my shift and during my break because the kitchen is very hot and there's very little opportunity to drink when it's busy (which is most of the time). There's also very little opportunity to pee when it's busy for the same reasons. 

I was then put in a significantly cooler part of the kitchen working on a different station to usual and so my bladder filled up really quick. An hour in I had to pee but was holding it to go at more like the mid point of the five hours coz I knew I couldn't ask to go twice. By two hours in it was very full and I was trying to find the courage to speak up and ask to go. But then we had an influx of customers (I work at a service station and coaches of people come in, or there's just a rush of traffic at some times) and so I spent the next hour working flat out, knowing that I could not be spared. 

By three hours in, I was really desperate, fighting to keep myself from squirming, and it was quietening down. 

So I went for it, I asked the guy nearest me, as he would be the one to take over my station while I was away, if I could nip to the toilet and he told me to ask the shift manager. I asked the shift manager and he told me to sweep and mop the floor first coz if it got busy again there wouldn't be a chance. 

I never would have thought I'd be denied or delayed a visit to the toilet as an adult! 

Does anyone else have a similar situation? 

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Interesting! I’d imagine that it’s quite common in large (Amazon-esque) warehouses and on busy production lines.

My job means that toilet breaks are few and far between, and if a crisis does develop in between then I’d have to ask to arrange something. The nature of the work means that, if they tried to refuse, I’d be justified in saying “no, I can’t concentrate properly, I’m having one” though!

On a similar theme, I recently saw a social media post recently from a (female) bus driver complaining that she’d arrived (desperately) at the terminus of her route to find nothing open except a restaurant, who wouldn’t let her use their toilets when she asked, and ended up stopping on the way back to beg another restaurant to let her use theirs instead.

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It even happens in office jobs due to long meetings - I’ve heard people ask if we can have a five minute break, then be told that we will be finishing soon anyway (which is rarely true) so to wait. 

I heard one man say that if he didn’t go right now that he’d wet himself, and just hurried off without waiting for permission. 

Also on business trips by car - those of us with small bladders can have a big struggle as often the driver would prefer to just press on with the journey. 

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I've worked in a few different retail and catering jobs over the years where I had to ask permission to go to the toilet, and there were several occasions where I'd requested a toilet break and was told to wait even if I was really desperate. I used to find it really embarrassing having to ask permission and then to be told to wait until my break or until the store was less busy was so frustrating. Imagine trying to stay professional and politely serve a long queue of customers while all you can do is sit there fidgeting while trying not to think about full your bladder is. Quite often as well I'd end up being the only cashier on the tills during the last hour before closing and I had no choice but to sit and wait even if I was bursting to go, as I couldn't leave the tills unattended and there was nobody available to relieve me. Sometimes in that last hour I'd end up so desperate to pee that the customers would notice something was bothering me and I would end up admitting to them that I really needed to go, but luckily they were always sympathetic. I remember mentioning to one woman that I was dying to go to the toilet and she even offered to go and find somebody to come and take over from me so I could go!

Since graduating uni I've always worked in office jobs so toilet breaks aren't usually an issue, though on one occasion I ended up asking the head of UK graduate recruitment if I could use her toilet. I was getting a lift with her to a recruitment event about 2 hours drive away and had already spent quite some time in the car to get to her house so was bursting to go. Luckily she said yes! Also once went on a week long training course and during the first day the trainer told us that if anyone needed to 'go pee' then just ask her first and she would call a break, 'but not right now because we've just started' which was quite funny, reminded me of being at school! Nobody actually asked her so by lunchtime quite a few of us were fidgeting around needing a wee, myself included.

Before I started my current job I worked at a company that did software testing for the military and this often involved carrying out long, intensive tests that could go on for hours. Some of them were time critical and needed certain buttons pressing or certain actions happening at exact points in time, so if you needed the toilet you just had to hold it or risk messing up the whole test (and wasting several hours of work). Remember being really desperate to pee several times and also saw a few of my colleagues badly needing to go, including a cute young graduate trainee who asked if she could take a quick 2 minute loo break and was told that she would have to hang on until the next part of the test had completed. We finished it quite some time later and by that point she was stood up doing the 'need a wee' dance, so she was very relieved when the manager finally gave her permission to go and wasted no time rushing off to the toilets.

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12 hours ago, Mbgpeelover said:

I’ve worked a lot of jobs where I have had to get permission to pee ad many a time I have been denied. It actually takes me a huge amount of courage to ask and i’m usually very bursting by then but fir various reasons I wasn’t allowed  to go. 

Sometimes it’s health and safety as I have worked for years with children who you can’t leave unattended just because your bladder needs release. I used to do 9 hour shifts in a soft play centre and ran a lot of children’s birthday parties. Regardless how desperate I was to pee I could hardly walk out during someone’s child’s birthday party in the middle of pass the parcel or musical statues! One time I had been holding so long and was then sent to a nearby supermarket for milk and I peed through my underwear and then left my knickers in the sanitary bin as they were so drenched! 

Sometimes it’s due to being in the middle of something that the person doesn’t want interrupted. One time I was a private tutor for a child who was preparing for their exams. I taught them for hours at a time and Thierry parents supplied me so much free tea and coffee I was always busting by the end of the sessions. One time I was fidgeting and squirming so much with the student that I just quietly asked if I could quickly use the family bathroom (I had no idea where it was) and come right back. The student was in the middle of a difficult question and trying to formulate his answer and out of frustration and annoyance he begged me to hold on until he had figured out the problem. I didn’t feel I could leave him struggling even though I was seriously struggling myself with something very different. 

Sometimes it’s due to customer service. I once worked in a busy call centre which handled incoming calls. There was a light up thing on the wall saying how many people were on hold and we had to keep this less than four at all times. I did get breaks but I also often had to work four or five hours without one and we were all given water to prevent our voices drying due to the volume of talking we had to do. I had been needing to go a while and trying to ignore it but eventually the need became stringer and stronger and I was unable to sit still. I raised my hand for support and whispered to be excused by until the ‘on hold’ was under 4 I had to remain on hold! I ended up dealing with phone calls whilst leaning on the edge of my seat rocking to prevent an accident and eventually just had to wait until the end  of my shift as the calls never eased enough once. 

Sometimes it’s just someone weirding power! I once worked in a small shoe shop. It was often just one staff member with another doing a shift on delivery day. I remember manning the shop all day myself and by lunchtime I had to pee. My boss arrived to cover the shop while I was meant to get my break before the delivery arrived but the lorry cane early. My boss was very controlling and made me get the delivery in first before my lunch. Once it was safety in I asked if I could have my break and she declined saying I needed to get the stock all put away first! There were hundreds of shoes to put into size order and ladders to climb to place them on the right shelving.  I was bobbing up and down by now needing to pee and asked if I could just pee before I sorted the delivery but she denied me saying she could not find what customers wanted unless I put the stock away. It was a two hour job! I was clutching myself, moaning and dancing trying to get the new stock away without having an accident when I heard the boss talking to a customer she clearly knew so I ran to the toilet as quick as I could just in time before I peed myself and thankfully she never found out. 

Very cute situations. Another one I've thought of is a sexy barmaid unable to leave the bar unattended despite being desperate to wee, and ending up piddling in her skirt as a result - I might write a story about such a scenario.

I also recall a story about a retail cashier unable to leave her position unattended and therefore having to wee in her pants.

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When I was at university my girlfriend at the time had a part time job working in matchday hospitality for a very famous Premier League football club and I remember her telling me that during one of the biggest games of the season she wasn't able to take a break for her entire shift because it was so busy and they were really short-staffed. Apparently she was not allowed to leave the customers in the corporate boxes unattended and when she asked one of the supervisors for permission to take a quick toilet break, she was told that there was nobody available to cover for her so she would just have to wait. She ended up having to wait until everyone in the box had left before she was finally allowed to go to the toilet and by that point she was so desperate for a wee that she was almost dancing on the spot and had to cross her legs while she was pouring drinks. 

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I worked in a large contact centre for a number of years, and whilst there was no rule against going to the toilet during work time, it was frowned upon and recorded automatically by the system so that it affected our performance measures and statistics, which in turn impacted on things like bonus payments. 

The one scenario where it did become a bit more complex, however, was where you were already engaged in a conversation with a customer, as you couldn't just leave them hanging whilst you nipped to the loo. One young girl, who worked alongside me in an online chat role was forever getting herself incredibly desperate whilst chatting to customers, and would inevitably end many of her longer chats sitting with one or both hands between her legs, bouncing around in her seat and broadcasting loudly to anybody who would listen that she was going to wee herself. It wasn't exhibitionism on her part, just a genuine need and lack of social boundaries/shame, but certainly got everybody's attention. 

More than once, despite it being against the rules, I took over her chat so that she could run to the toilet before she soaked herself. And on one memorable occasion a managed actually told me to break the rules and do exactly that, because she was so worried that the girl was going to have an accident if she didn't go at right that second, and from the way, she was writhing around I don't doubt that was exactly what was about to happen, which would have been mortifying for her I'm sure, and quite uncomfortable for the rest of us. 

She almost always wore black leggings so there was never any evidence of a leak, and she was quite vocal about having just made it but having panicked about wetitng herself on the way to the loo, so I don't think she ever did start having an accident, although the odd pair of damp knickers may well have features. 

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2 hours ago, Piddly said:

I worked in a large contact centre for a number of years, and whilst there was no rule against going to the toilet during work time, it was frowned upon and recorded automatically by the system so that it affected our performance measures and statistics, which in turn impacted on things like bonus payments. 

The one scenario where it did become a bit more complex, however, was where you were already engaged in a conversation with a customer, as you couldn't just leave them hanging whilst you nipped to the loo. One young girl, who worked alongside me in an online chat role was forever getting herself incredibly desperate whilst chatting to customers, and would inevitably end many of her longer chats sitting with one or both hands between her legs, bouncing around in her seat and broadcasting loudly to anybody who would listen that she was going to wee herself. It wasn't exhibitionism on her part, just a genuine need and lack of social boundaries/shame, but certainly got everybody's attention. 

More than once, despite it being against the rules, I took over her chat so that she could run to the toilet before she soaked herself. And on one memorable occasion a managed actually told me to break the rules and do exactly that, because she was so worried that the girl was going to have an accident if she didn't go at right that second, and from the way, she was writhing around I don't doubt that was exactly what was about to happen, which would have been mortifying for her I'm sure, and quite uncomfortable for the rest of us. 

She almost always wore black leggings so there was never any evidence of a leak, and she was quite vocal about having just made it but having panicked about wetitng herself on the way to the loo, so I don't think she ever did start having an accident, although the odd pair of damp knickers may well have features. 

Can't say I'd have been as chivalrous as you were about it...I think I'd have let her soak herself and enjoyed it immensely!

I wouldn't ignore the possibility that she might have been into omorashi to some extent. It's obviously not the sort of thing you talk about in polite company but someone getting vocally desperate to the point of almost having an accident over and over and over again may possibly have certain reasons for doing that. Most people who aren't into omorashi would cut down on their fluid intake if that kept happening.

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She was a lovely girl who I got on well with, but I won't deny that she was quite 'unique', haha. You may well be right about having some Omo tendencies, although as you say it wasn't the sort of conversation that ever cropped up in the workplace setting, and whilst we got on well I didn't socialise with her away from work events either.

Who knows, maybe the black leggings were deliberate, to cover the times she didn't quite make it? She always acted upset/embarrassed at getting so desperate, without actually getting upset, if that makes any sense? Maybe it was all a well played act, not the desperation - that was clearly very real - but mock embarrassment to cover that she was enjoying the experience.

I won't lie, whilst I meant what I said that her having such a public accident at work would have been mortifying for her (the above notwithstanding, as it's just speculation) and would have been awkward for the rest of the team to witness, there were times when the office was nearly empty towards the end of the night and I hoped that maybe just once she wouldn't quite make it - she'd have been spared most of the humiliation without so many witnesses, but it would have been something I'd perhaps have liked to have seen just that once...

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I think I wrote about it on here before, but I worked in a restaurant where we (the entire staff) were told we could not use the bathrooms at the restaurant. (They were right off the front entrance by the hostess' stand.) Using them resulted in termination. No joke. No warning. You could not even get off shift and go around the outside of the strip mall and use the bathroom. If you were caught, you were fired on the spot.

We were told our choices were: 

  1. Use the bathroom before and after shift.
  2. Hold it until after shift.
  3. Go outside behind the restaurant (but down the embankment in full view of Putt-Putt)
  4. Use the cleaning drain in the corner of the kitchen
  5. Wear diapers.

Employees were fired for trying to use the bathrooms before and after shifts. Two brought dates on their days off and were fired when they came back on their next day on shift (after working, but docked a day's pay) 

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1 hour ago, tennyson said:

I think I wrote about it on here before, but I worked in a restaurant where we (the entire staff) were told we could not use the bathrooms at the restaurant. (They were right off the front entrance by the hostess' stand.) Using them resulted in termination. No joke. No warning. You could not even get off shift and go around the outside of the strip mall and use the bathroom. If you were caught, you were fired on the spot.

We were told our choices were: 

  1. Use the bathroom before and after shift.
  2. Hold it until after shift.
  3. Go outside behind the restaurant (but down the embankment in full view of Putt-Putt)
  4. Use the cleaning drain in the corner of the kitchen
  5. Wear diapers.

Employees were fired for trying to use the bathrooms before and after shifts. Two brought dates on their days off and were fired when they came back on their next day on shift (after working, but docked a day's pay) 

That's pretty extreme.  I do know of a chain fast-food place in a mall where employees were forbidden to use the mall rest rooms in uniform.  This meant needing a change of clothes in a cramped storeroom, which few bothered to bring.  So most just held it until the end of their shift.

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 Mgbpee lover said

Sometimes it’s just someone weirding power! I once worked in a small shoe shop. It was often just one staff member with another doing a shift on delivery day. I remember manning the shop all day myself and by lunchtime I had to pee. My boss arrived to cover the shop while I was meant to get my break before the delivery arrived but the lorry cane early. My boss was very controlling and made me get the delivery in first before my lunch. Once it was safety in I asked if I could have my break and she declined saying I needed to get the stock all put away first! There were hundreds of shoes to put into size order and ladders to climb to place them on the right shelving.  I was bobbing up and down by now needing to pee and asked if I could just pee before I sorted the delivery but she denied me saying she could not find what customers wanted unless I put the stock away. It was a two hour job! I was clutching myself, moaning and dancing trying to get the new stock away without having an accident when I heard the boss talking to a customer she clearly knew so I ran to the toilet as quick as I could just in time before I peed myself and thankfully she never found out. 

 

 

I worked in retail all my life so  know business dictates a person to wait but I also wonder how many of these employers were into omo and enjoyed watching someone obviously very desperate, and struggling not to wet themselves.  It never  became an issue for me personally..

These are a couple of incidents I am aware of.

I was not present when a female cashier asked for a quick break so she could just pee quick . The store was very busy on Grand Opening day, so she was denied. She had to wait a long time, and eventually wet her pants where she stood, and kept on working until someone noticed the big puddle she made.

Another occasion  I was the manager on duty ,and a female cashier needed to pee badly . It was close to closing and her boyfriend came to me asking to take over her register for a moment , because she had to pee so bad she said she was about to wet her pants.I walked upfront noticing she was in such real pain that she could not stand up straight because her bladder was so full. She had a pained look on her face. Of course I let her go. I had suspected for some time at least he was into pee holding, if not the both of them . I think he wanted her to hold her pee until she got home so he could watch or whatever.  He followed he back to the ladies room. The  store was almost empty, But with just 20 minutes left in her shift she said she could not make it home; she was about to wet her pants.

 

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8 hours ago, wettingman said:

 

 

I worked in retail all my life so  know business dictates a person to wait but I also wonder how many of these employers were into omo and enjoyed watching someone obviously very desperate, and struggling not to wet themselves.  It never  became an issue for me personally..

These are a couple of incidents I am aware of.

I was not present when a female cashier asked for a quick break so she could just pee quick . The store was very busy on Grand Opening day, so she was denied. She had to wait a long time, and eventually wet her pants where she stood, and kept on working until someone noticed the big puddle she made.

Another occasion  I was the manager on duty ,and a female cashier needed to pee badly . It was close to closing and her boyfriend came to me asking to take over her register for a moment , because she had to pee so bad she said she was about to wet her pants.I walked upfront noticing she was in such real pain that she could not stand up straight because her bladder was so full. She had a pained look on her face. Of course I let her go. I had suspected for some time at least he was into pee holding, if not the both of them . I think he wanted her to hold her pee until she got home so he could watch or whatever.  He followed he back to the ladies room. The  store was almost empty, But with just 20 minutes left in her shift she said she could not make it home; she was about to wet her pants.

 

Her bladder was so full that she could not stand up straight!

 I can understand that the boy wanted that she hold her wee until home  that he wanted her full like this, to "play" at home with her and with her bladder.

How long was she holding, how bad must she had to wee that she could not wait even one more hour?

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8 hours ago, tennyson said:

I think I wrote about it on here before, but I worked in a restaurant where we (the entire staff) were told we could not use the bathrooms at the restaurant. (They were right off the front entrance by the hostess' stand.) Using them resulted in termination. No joke. No warning. You could not even get off shift and go around the outside of the strip mall and use the bathroom. If you were caught, you were fired on the spot.

We were told our choices were: 

  1. Use the bathroom before and after shift.
  2. Hold it until after shift.
  3. Go outside behind the restaurant (but down the embankment in full view of Putt-Putt)
  4. Use the cleaning drain in the corner of the kitchen
  5. Wear diapers.

Employees were fired for trying to use the bathrooms before and after shifts. Two brought dates on their days off and were fired when they came back on their next day on shift (after working, but docked a day's pay) 

How many hours was one shift?

Could the girls hide their need if they had to go really bad or could others see that they was desperate?

I think some of them had wet panties!? Did they talk about their need?

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20 hours ago, tennyson said:

I think I wrote about it on here before, but I worked in a restaurant where we (the entire staff) were told we could not use the bathrooms at the restaurant. (They were right off the front entrance by the hostess' stand.) Using them resulted in termination. No joke. No warning. You could not even get off shift and go around the outside of the strip mall and use the bathroom. If you were caught, you were fired on the spot.

We were told our choices were: 

  1. Use the bathroom before and after shift.
  2. Hold it until after shift.
  3. Go outside behind the restaurant (but down the embankment in full view of Putt-Putt)
  4. Use the cleaning drain in the corner of the kitchen
  5. Wear diapers.

Employees were fired for trying to use the bathrooms before and after shifts. Two brought dates on their days off and were fired when they came back on their next day on shift (after working, but docked a day's pay) 

Did anyone admit to taking the diaper option?

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I worked at a call centre for a few months and had a literally TON of close calls. I guarantee you, if I had worked there any longer, I would have had a legitimate accident, I couldn't put someone on hold and pop to the toilet and I once got bitched at for taking too many bathroom breaks (this username is not just for show). Before I quit (Due to stress, call centres SUCK) I was seriously considering wearing the Abena M4's I used for recreation at work due to the high risk of an accident. I mean i was literally holding myself limping to the bathroom I was so desperate at times, THANKFULLY the bathroom was close to where I was working.. i probably wouldn't have made it otherwise. Thankfully my current job has a private bathroom that I don't have to ask to use and I can put someone on hold as long as I want!

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Where do you all live? The US isn't exactly a golden boy when it comes to labor laws, but allowing bathroom use is mandated under OSHA.

In the one job I had, all I had to do was make sure someone--didn't even have to be a manager--knew where I was going. It was preferable that you waited until the end of a rush, sure, but if you were absolutely bursting, no-one could legally stop you.

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1 hour ago, wishfulomo0572 said:

Where do you all live? The US isn't exactly a golden boy when it comes to labor laws, but allowing bathroom use is mandated under OSHA.

In the one job I had, all I had to do was make sure someone--didn't even have to be a manager--knew where I was going. It was preferable that you waited until the end of a rush, sure, but if you were absolutely bursting, no-one could legally stop you.

I'm in the fresno, California area. I got pulled aside and told not to go to so many bathroom breaks and that was what your regular breaks were for.

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I work in a gaming centre/casino and work in a number of different roles throughout the club. Although I don't have to ask for permission to go to the bathroom there are some of the roles that mean I can't just leave and I have to get someone to come and cover me. Usually it doesn't matter as I will go and pee whilst on my break or nip off when its quiet. However there has been a couple of times where I have gotten desperate or we have been busy so I haven't been taken off for a break and I have had to call over the radio to ask if someone can come and cover me for a couple of minutes. In those moments its almost like asking permission to go when whoever comes over to me I have to admit I really need to pee and can they take up my post for a moment.

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