DeltaFoxtrot 173 Posted February 12, 2019 Share Posted February 12, 2019 2 minutes ago, Ghost13 said: Um, no? Because the transgender person’s comfort level is whats important here, not what some rando’s arbitrary opinion is on if they pass or not. Especially when not every random person may agree. As well as the danger she would be put in if some bigot were in the bathroom and decided to assault her. I'm sorry, I must have missed the Potty Police stationed at every public restroom checking people's pants as they went in. Trans persons know if they pass or not. Jamie mentioned that he/she/whatever doesn't pass yet, so is hesitant to use the womens room. If you can convincingly appear female in public, go where the other females go. If you look like a dude in a dress, you might want to avoid public spaces completely until you can do a better job with your appearance. Quote Link to comment
Ghost13 94 Posted February 12, 2019 Share Posted February 12, 2019 49 minutes ago, DeltaFoxtrot said: I'm sorry, I must have missed the Potty Police stationed at every public restroom checking people's pants as they went in. Trans persons know if they pass or not. Jamie mentioned that he/she/whatever doesn't pass yet, so is hesitant to use the womens room. If you can convincingly appear female in public, go where the other females go. If you look like a dude in a dress, you might want to avoid public spaces completely until you can do a better job with your appearance. You must live in a safe area. Not everywhere is as safe as where you are. Before I passed, I lived in a grey zone where I didn’t look male or female. I’d be harassed no matter what bathroom i went in. I was screamed at for going in the womens room, yelled at in the mens room, to the point where I learned all the locations of every gender neutral bathroom in my town. I have a right to feel safe, as does she. You aren’t the potty police telling her she has to use specific gendered restrooms. If she wants to use the gender neutral ones, then she has a right to. scinosensation 1 Quote Link to comment
DeltaFoxtrot 173 Posted February 12, 2019 Share Posted February 12, 2019 13 minutes ago, Ghost13 said: I have a right to feel safe, as does she. You aren’t the potty police telling her she has to use specific gendered restrooms. If she wants to use the gender neutral ones, then she has a right to. Where did I say this person should not use "gender neutral" restrooms, if available? You are putting words into my mouth. As far as your "rights" go, they don't amount to a hill of beans in the court of public opinion. There is an old saying... "When in Rome, do as the Romans." In other words, when in public you should do your best to blend in, not stick out. Quote Link to comment
scinosensation 543 Posted February 14, 2019 Share Posted February 14, 2019 On 2/12/2019 at 1:46 PM, Ghost13 said: I have a right to feel safe, as does she. You aren’t the potty police telling her she has to use specific gendered restrooms. If she wants to use the gender neutral ones, then she has a right to. You are absolutely correct. The only thing upon which you should be judged is your conduct. Your experiences trigger my sense of outrage. Quote Link to comment
Yorkie 28 Posted February 21, 2019 Share Posted February 21, 2019 I am able bodied but suffer with IBS so using the disabled toilets is my best option to avoid any unwanted accidents. Quote Link to comment
Bex 25 Posted February 22, 2019 Share Posted February 22, 2019 This probably sounds terrible on my part but I have quite bad anxiety with going to the loo in public if it's busy or if I need anything other than a wee so I'll try to use the disabled or family bathrooms if they are empty and there's nobody headed their way Quote Link to comment
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