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As a person in my 20s, I obviously have a lot of life left that i'll get around to living sometime. 

Yet i'm uncertain about things, too many of them to list, but I guess I want to talk about this one. 

 

How has this fetish affected your life, has it been a big deal for you? Did you accept it easily, is it a part of every day life? 

How about your love life? Does your partner know? Or did an ex know about it? Has anybody ever known about it?

 

I'm interested (and happy to receive) any answer that anyone has to the question; how has having this fetish affected your life?

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  • 2 weeks later...

Its fun and naughty. It's always fun to try new things. Theres a lot of different ways to go with the fetish: you can just wear them, or you can use them, you can draw them and you can experiment with the different types. Nobody knows about my fetish at home. The diaper makes boring things like sitting and walking a whole lot funner. You'll know if this fetish is for you once you put one on. Years went by before I thought to put one on, and once I did, I new this was for me. It hasn't effected me negatively, its made me extremely happy...except for all the negative reviews of my diaper art on e621.

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I've had a thing with pee and wetting since I was little kid but today (as 23 yrs old) was first time I really tried diapers. I bought XL baby diapers for 16 kg+ because there wasn't any for adults. I seem to be small enough to barely fit them. They rip little from the sides but they'll do. The idea of wearing diapers had sailed back and forth in my mind, yet I never ended up trying them. Once I put first one on, I knew it is for me. Actually I knew far before but I had my concerns. I think this diaper thing is easier to accept than wetting pants in general since it's way less dirty. Idk tho, opinions may vary. 

 

My ex boyfriend and my current boyfriend know that I have fantasies including pee but I've never told neither of them how I act with these fetishes when I'm alone. Neither of them know that I wet myself or use diapers. It isn't problem for now, since I don't live together with my boyfriend yet. I still feel bad hiding things and keeping secrets from him. Sadly, the fact is that I'm not ready to open up this much about my fetishes yet even tho I'm feeling very dishonest this way. 

 

This fetish has affected only positively to my life since I've always kept it as a secret. Worst has been knowing there's no one I can talk about these things, which is why I'm so happy I found this forum by accident.

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Started wearing pull ups a couple of months ago when I had to. Now I wear them for fun. Love being able to feel the warm pee washing over my guy parts whenever I want to, at home or in public without anyone knowing what is pleasing me so much. When the pull up gets pretty full and I walk, I get a nice massage. Quite the turn on.

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I'd love to indulge it with someone else and maybe I will get to someday, but I try not to make it the focus of my life, just like I wouldn't want plain old sex to be the focus of my life. I'm not an addict or a porn star, it's a part of being a human being. I treat this the same way. Something I indulge in and enjoy but not something that defines me.

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I was never really into diapers (found it odd) until a partner I was close with mentioned it as a huge interest and personal kink of his. I wouldn't say that I'm "super into" them like a lot of you (you've had years and years of fantasies to have!), but it's okay. My partner seems to really be into it, and hey - it's close enough to desperation and wetting that it's fun for me as well. :)

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It's quite stressful, really. I often get depressed that I'll likely never meet someone irl with whom I can share this fetish. So...very similar to most of us here, at least on this thread. Few others know about it, and those who do either don't care or think it's kinda gross but accept me anyway.

 

I'd love to indulge it with someone else and maybe I will get to someday, but I try not to make it the focus of my life, just like I wouldn't want plain old sex to be the focus of my life. I'm not an addict or a porn star, it's a part of being a human being. I treat this the same way. Something I indulge in and enjoy but not something that defines me.

 

Conversely, I don't let it control me, as thiswasnty points out. 

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As a person in my 20s, I obviously have a lot of life left that i'll get around to living sometime. 

Yet i'm uncertain about things, too many of them to list, but I guess I want to talk about this one. 

 

How has this fetish affected your life, has it been a big deal for you? Did you accept it easily, is it a part of every day life? 

How about your love life? Does your partner know? Or did an ex know about it? Has anybody ever known about it?

 

I'm interested (and happy to receive) any answer that anyone has to the question; how has having this fetish affected your life?

 

I posted a very detailed post once that covered all this for me.  Instead of writing it all out again, here is a link to that post- https://omorashi.org/topic/24217-diapered-disneyland-adventure/

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For me, the fetish comes and goes.

 

There have been weeks where I have been so caught up in life that I don't think on it at all. But then there are days when I think about it all the time. I desperately wait till I am home in my room where no one is around to find me and look up people in diapers. Sometimes, I put on my diapers and think about wetting/messing them. Other times I think about buying more diapers, like today where I was about to buy a case of diapers for $120. There are times where I desire to be put in situations where I am left completely vulnerable in diapers (where usually I detest the idea). In short, sometimes it's very manageable and at other times, it can be very controlling and dangerous.

 

Additionally, what most people above have said is true, it's very hard to find a support network. I have been fortunate to find a bit of a support network online, but even then it is not enough. I have no one to really turn to IRL. In fact, I have only told one person about my fetish and I mentioned omorashi and used the tagline of the website to reveal it to him. Even now, I don't like talking to him about it, nor even my closest friends. However, if you aren't too much of a shy person, you could seek out support in the right places. You really just have to look and say "hey there, can we chat?" Places I have looked so far are: Tumblr, Whisper, Kinkz and Diapermates. Usually, I follow up on kik (not by my desire, but their desire). 

 

Hopefully this helps. Let me know if you have any more questions.

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Only to echo what others above have said, in my personal experience its been both a blessing and a curse. Blessing in the sense that I genuinely enjoy being a DL and its a way of relaxation/fun for me. Its an escape from the monotonies of everyday life, and its something different and somewhat taboo which gives it a slight edge.

However, like others have said, its also kind of a shame that you're hard pressed to share it with anyone. I haven't had many long term relationships, but needless to say that when I did, those were the occasions when my attachments to this lifestyle were at their lowest. I was not at all comfortable revealing it to my partners, because I knew it'd be an instant relationship killer. 

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I'm in my late twenties. It probably effected me more when I was younger, and over the years it's gotten easier. I had a drug problem that started at 14 and had me in rehab at 17 because my sexuality was so goddamn confusing and heavy. Luckily I didn't die or complete fuck myself up, but it was not easy from the get-go.

 

To me, my sexuality is something that is very personal -- sex to me is also very personal. So it's no one's business but the people I choose to share it with. 

 

That being said, everyone is different. I feel lucky that my fantasies don't have the grip on me they did when I was younger, but that's something that has diminished slowly over the years, and its not like I'm that old anyways.

 

I don't have it as a part of everyday life. I don't wear anymore too often. Usually just look at some porn every other night, "enjoy" myself, and call it a night. As for sexual partners, I need to trust and feel comfortable w someone before sharing it with them. My last serious relationship it never came up because she had her own hangups about sex and I didn't need to complicate things, but my two previous partners I shared it with and we had a great time with it. There was another partner when I was younger I shared it with and I think at the time it was too new and exciting of a thing to be sharing with someone and it caused some problems. I have a good friend I talk to all the time (we now live two states away but used to hang out a lot), and as we share an ex-bf we know about each others shared fetish (and are friends on fetlife), but we literally never discuss it.

 

MOST IMPORTANTLY ****** my therapist knows about it. Get a therapist, period. You will thank yourself. And don't settle for one that you don't feel you can talk to. Not sure what your medical coverage is where you live but there are always different kinds of options for counselors, etc. Find a professional you can confide in and spill the goddamn beans. You will thank yourself.

 

I would check out this post I just came across on fetlife yesterday: https://fetlife.com/users/1016431/posts/3279832

The headline is deceiving because its not about "curing" yourself, its about accepting.

 

Let me just say this: if you're worried about partners being open to it, don't. If you are romantically involved with open-minded, caring people who love you, you will be fine. That doesn't mean they will participate in it in the exact way you want (or at all), it doesn't mean they will play into whatever fantasy you have, but they will care about you and be there for you no matter what, and at the end of the day that is what's going to make the difference.

 

That being said, getting involved with people who are specifically more open minded sexually is always something to consider if you want to explore your fetish--and I DO recommend exploring it. The more you keep it in your head, in your closet, and in your bedroom, the larger it will loom in your mind. The more power you give it, the less power you have over it. Your secrets make you sicker, etc, etc, etc.

 

Kind of scattered here. Always happy to chat or PM (that goes for the OP or anyone else who wants to talk about the emotional impact of this shit).

 

-J

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Honestly just dont be afraid to bring it up whenever you meet up with people. I make it very clear at the beginning of relationships that it is an important part of my life and they generally dont care too much. Im 20 and I got around 5ish girls to actually wear for me. Just be confident and stuff. Bring it into the relationship early on and thats it.

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It feels like I am two separate people. I have no desire to share this with anyone at all on a romantic or sexual level. I really like to talk about concrete stuff like capacities and drinking patterns and doing stuff together online but in my "real" life it's hardly a thing. Maybe at most I would like to have a friend that's also into the same thing, and also by themself. Like how I casually talk anime with my otaku friends but we don't really hang out otherwise.

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Pretty bad.

Nobody to share it with.

 

It is enjoyable to indulge in it by oneself, though, but it leaves something of a melancholic feeling afterwards.

 

This is the most spot on thing. If you feel the need to share your fetish it's very difficult and it limits your options. Even if you're willing to spend your money on a dom/escort etc. to do it it's still not that satisfying some how. I've found that even with quite liberal friends that a good number would still be weirded out if they knew what you got up to.

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As someone like myself in their early 20's I am still finishing my degree. Still have a lot ahead me, probably in the same boat. My girlfriend is not a DL but I got her into wetting and eventually told her about my diaper fetish. We wear diapers together quite often now and she especially loves going out in diapers. I am so lucky my girlfriend indulges in my fetish and so far it has been pretty decent living with it.. My girlfriend doesn't mind wetting, but I haven't told her that I want her to try messing in them. She doesn't know that I am into messing too and I hope to tell her before we get married. The only struggle I could imagine with this fetish is keeping them hidden from family members or roommates, and financially being able to afford them. Also, we are not able to wear 24/7, only about 3 times a week we can.

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Hey all! I share this account with my gal so I'll chime in with my half of the answer, and maybe my better half will answer as well:

I'm a 30 year old guy who has been very very fortunate to have met someone who kept an open mind, and as a result has immersed herself in all of the positive aspects of DL play. Backing up a little, I wasn't always so lucky though. I realized I had a diaper fetish when I was probably 23, and echoing most other people's experiences I kept it a secret from all my exes. As a result I felt isolated, mildly depressed, and feeling resigned to "change myself" so I wouldn't have these thoughts.

Then I met the one when I was 28 years old. I met her on a 4 week business trip, which we clicked right off the bat. By the 3rd week I was spending the night in her hotel room each night. On one of the final nights we had just finished having the most passionate sex we'd had so far. I was head over heels for this woman. As she was in the bathroom getting ready for dinner I worked up enough courage to blurt out "want to hear something crazy..."' I told her that "I like when a girl wets herself." She was still for awhile and only said that's interesting. We went separate ways and her comment kept playing on loop in my mind. I settled on the idea that she meant it as being open.

I flew out to see her two months later and after some particularly rough sex I let on that I'm also into bondage, she loved it so we went headlong into BDSM. I can't remember how long after but i decided to go for the gusto and let her in on the deepest darkest secret in my personal life. I like to see women in diapers!!!! And am I ever glad I did. She wears almost as often as she doesn't now. we have even started posting our own content on our tumblr.

Cheers!

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I've come to terms with the fact I have this fetish of omorashi, but it doesn't define my life. It is a small facet of it. I'm a normal person with normal highs and lows, but just a bit more interested in pee and diapers. That's how I look at it.

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I've always wanted to be back in diapers pretty much since I got out of them, it was more of a kinda hobby to see people wet diapers (I don't understand either, I just liked watching that) It didn't really become a fetish until I got into high school (also around the same time I realised I was bisexual).

There has only ever been one person I have told about my fetish, he is my closest friend and i've known him since i was about 3 so I can trust him, but I never said "I have a diaper fetish" I just sorta' made him guess and he just said "oh, I get it" so he may think something completely different.

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The most important thing you need to know is, not everyone needs to know. You don't need to "come out" as a dl to your parents or friends. But a significant other should know, you don't (and probably shouldn't) bring it up on the first date, but they need to know before things get serious. A good rule of thumb is to tell them when you have to start actively hiding it, by then you should have a pretty good idea how they will react anyway.

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Its going pretty well

No one knows about it and I do a pretty good job of hiding it. 

I only wish that i could find someone to share it with.

And a good method of buying online because ordering them while living with others poses as a problem. 

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